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Q: Trying to Cope But Just Cant
asked by: christian1985 on February 22nd, 2006
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Since december so much has happened and I have been under more stress than normal.
This has bought a side out of me which I dont want to see again.On saturday I nearly ruined one of the ebst relationships I have ever been in,i threw a chair at my girlfriend and sort of told her she has ruined my life and I didnt want to know her.
I was so angry and she said I frightend her a bit.But like 10 minute later I was sat there nearly crying thinking what the hell happened.I am also very emotional at the moment cause its just comeing up to the first anniversary of my grans death but I am going to be away for the weekend to spend a bit of time with friends and enjoy myself.I need it because I know im only going to turn to drink without my friends support because I did that on what would have been my grans birthday and I never want to get into that state again.

There have been things happening in my group of friends as well and anger has just boiled up inside me after everything due to stress I have been under.Everyone is just moaning at me cause I dont have a job and im finding it really difficult to do that right now.
I dont know what to do.I cant cope with everything right now.What am I going to do
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backhome22
replied on February 22nd, 2006
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Are you taking any medication? I find that even a small dose of xanax helps me sometimes. I'm going through a lot of the same things as you. I'm 20, I don't ever go out, I don't have a job due to the fact that everything makes me cry when I get under any level of stress, plus slight social anxiety, and i'm a total health forum sometimes to my husband and I cry about everything. If a take a xanax though I feel normal for a while, at least for a few hours which is better than nothing. Don't feel too bad about the thing w/ your girlfriend...You wouldn't have done it in a normal state of mind i'm sure. I've done some bad things to my husband and then immediatly bawled my eyes out cuz i'm like what the heck did I just do that for... I know it's wrong but at the moment it's uncontrolable. If you don't take meds, maybe try. I know I need to be on a higher dosage of meds and take them more often, but as for now i'm on a small dose occasionally but when I do take them it helps. If you like music, just chill out with your headphones by yourself for a while. That calms me down sometimes, too. Just remember you're not alone, a lot of us are going through these things.
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christian1985
replied on February 22nd, 2006
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Thanks
Thanks for your advice.I am not on any sort of medication.In fact till saturday I was in total denial I had a problem but when you throw a chair accross a room to hit someone and have a blazeing row.Something aint right.
I will see what happens
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pinksalter
replied on February 22nd, 2006
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Stress and anxiety can make you feel and act like a total different person. I have dealt with anxiety for a while now and learning to cope with stress quite well. When I was at my worst though I just didn`t feel like myself anymore, I was an emotional wreck, angry one minute then in tears the next. The more you stress about it though the worse it gets, its like a viscious cycle.

Learning relaxation techniques may sound silly but they really do help. This doesn`t need to be meditation, it can just be lying on your bed listening to music giving your body and mind time to process things. It really is a learnt behaviour and it can be changed, your brain kind of learns this new stressful behaviour. Try distracting yourself from any thoughts that are negative.

If things don`t get better you may feel that speaking to someone or taking some form of medication may help. It doesn`t make you weak it just sometimes helps through hard times in our life. Anti- depressants aren`t addictive and can be real mood enhancers. Sometimes its really easy when you have a stressful time and feel unable to cope that depression sets in, it only gets worse if you don`t get help. Ask your doctor it can `t hurt to speak to someone.

Relax and enjoy your weekend, if things stress you out so much its maybe time to reassess things in your life and make positive changes.
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christian1985
replied on February 22nd, 2006
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Hey
I intend to enjoy my weekend but the wayim feeling this week it just aint going to happen lol
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