Tell her this:"i don't know why you choose to act this way towards me,i just want you to show me how you care for me instead of hold it back."if she refuses,tell her this:"this problem may cause us to break up even though I don't want it to happen.What good will it do for you to act like this? B/c every man you could be with after me will result in the same thing,breaking up.People need to be shown affection and caring.Please show me how you feel,tell me how you fell. . ." I don't know if this will help but if she does not open up to you it could cause a break up. . .

Thank you for your reply, being that it is the only one!!! I am so frustrated with this! She just left here about 5 mins ago and we just had the same conversation.... Again. I have already mentioned the same things you have said. It just doesn't seem to work for her. I ask her how she feels about me... She acts like she is psyching her self up to tell be something, then she says " I care about you", which is something she has said before and something I tell her all the time. Its nothing new! If she truly doesn't love me, I understand... It takes some people longer to care that much about someone. But if you could see the way she holds me, and the way she looks into my eyes... And the way she sighs when she is holding me like I am protecting her or somehting.... It can't be anything but love! I don't know how I can care so much about someone who is so emotionally different than me. She rarely has an opinion on anything emotional or important. I really do think she cares about me on some deeper level and simply can't say it. I think...No... I know that she is in love with me. I just wish she could open up to me. As stupid as it may sound I have cried about it before because it is so frusturating, and it hurts so much to tell someone how you feel and not have them respond. I have not cried in years.... She has me crying!!! I think girls would be best responding to this post because they know how other girls work.... So please help me. I am in pain every second I am awake thinking about this. Simple answers will not due, as we are talking about a very complicated girl here, who I love very much. Thanks again!

Ok,i need to know exactly what you said to her and exactly what she said back to help you out

I don't remember exactly what I said to her, but it primarily involved how I am such an open and emotionally expressive person, and how much it would mean to me if she were the same way. She replied by saying that it is hard for her because she has never been that way. It isn"t hard for her to have feelings for me, it is just hard for her to express it. I asked her if she could ever see herself being more like me because I need to know that she will someday be emotionally level with me. She said that she thinks she could be that way someday, but she doesn't think it will be anytime soon becasue it is so difficult for her to express herself emotionally. She says that when I ask her something very important she simply draws a blank. I told her that I think she may be this way because she is afraid of how I might react to her response. I also told her that nothing she could say would make me feel any different about her.... I can never think any less of her. I wanted to tell her that I would still love her just as much, but obviously she is not ready to hear that. She is, without a doubt, the best thing that has ever happened to me and she is the reason I get out of bed in the morning now. I would love for her to feel how I feel wheni tell her very deep and intimate things. It is the best feeling in the world to be able to tell someone I love very deep emotional things about myself and not be embaressed or so alone. It is the best thing ever to have that kind of connection with someone.... I just wish it weren't so one sided. It would meant the world to me to have her say "i love you", but for now I would simply settle for something less intense, but equally emotional. What should I do to break down this wall in her heart???

I can kind of see where she's coming from. I have always been a sort of shy and withdrawn person, and I know how hard it is to come out of that. I wasn't to the point where I wouldn't tell someone I love them, but I wasn't very good at expressing myself.

Let me just say that you probably should not be trying to pressure her to get to your "emotional level." that's not fair. That's obviously a long way for her to go, and you're likely to push her farther away if you try too hard to drag things out of her.

Second, you can't force her to tell you she loves you. Just keep saying it to her; ask her if she loves you, even. But don't try to make her do it. She's only going to end up resenting you for that.

Third, you .H.A.V.E to continue to tell her that you will love and support her no matter what and that she shouldn't be afraid or embarrassed to say anything she feels. Tell her that all you want to do is make her happy and that you can't do that if she doesn't tell you what makes her happy. Tell her how much it hurts you that she doesn't open up to you... But tell her that you love her anyway and that you just want to know that your feelings are being reciprocated.

Lastly, above all, no matter what she says to you, even if it's not what you were hoping for, you .M.U.S.T be receptive and positive. If not, she might never open up to you.

Thank you soooo much lalee. I have not told her any of this yet, but it seems that you know how my girlfriend feels as well as how I feel. I have yet to tell her any of this, but I plan to. I was never pressuring her, and I made sure that she understood that. I was only trying to help her... Slowly. I respect her "problem" and can wait as long as she needs. I have not told her that I loved her.... At least in those words... Becasue she says that she is not "there" yet. I am not sure if it is the best idea for me to say it and not have her say it back. As comfortable as we are together, I think it would make a really awkward conversation and probably make her feel like she has to say it. It might even upset me more and just stress her out.... I think I will hold off until she tells me that she loves me, or clearly implies that she is ready. I just wish she would hurry!! I don't know if she knows how wonderful it is to feel for someone like I feel for her. It is the most amazing thing ever. I wake every morning just to see her. She has made my life so much better, and she has taught me so many lessons and she didn't even mean to. Since I met her, I have learned not to value the material things in life, money and such, but to enjoy the things that are really important.... Like the ones you love. It was a wide person that said

"the greatest thing you'll ever learn is to love and be loved in return"..............

Love doesn't make the world go round.... Love just makes the ride worthwhile!

Thats deep. . .

See how deep I am!!!! So many layers!!

Lol