Hes 4 chances are u can distract him next he asks I wouldnt tell my 5 year old I think its to young. If u needto tell him something try mommys and daddys love makes the baby

Yeah I wouldn't lie but I wouldn't say anything very detailed...At that age like macysmoma said something that he can understand like "mom and dads love" or something along those lines.

I would do the "mommy and daddy love each other, and when they love eachother they show their love" speech...Just leave out the "sex" part. I remember my mom and dad telling me that they make a baby together just thought that they made my little sister some how. I didnt' really think much about it.

don't lie but keep it simple. Tell him only what he literally asked for. If you're religious and believe in god, you have an easy out. Tell him that when it's time, god will send a baby for you to love, and it will start growing in your belly. Chances are he won't ask how it literally got there, because he doesn't have the comprehension to think that far yet. When I told my own 5 yr old (she asked when she was 3 or 4 and we were expecing baby #3) I told her this, and her response was "oh yeah, babies are from heaven. They have to be cuz they're so sweet! Thanks mom!"

if you're not religious, you can simply say "when a mommy and daddy love each other very much, and they want a new baby to add to the family for everyone to love, mommy and daddy's love becomes so special that a baby gets started in mommy's belly." then wait until he asks "but how does it get there" to say "mommy and daddy share a special kind of grown up hug, and a baby starts." that should satisfy him until he's old enough to ask what kind of hug.

So basically, answer only with what he literally has asked you. Keep it simple, don't give excessive detail cuz it'll go over his head. And if you're comfortable, and he's persistant, you can talk about the birds and the bees :wink:

i believe there are special books and literature out there to help with this sort of thing. I don't have it on hand, but this is a good reminder to look it up.

I would go with the stork story myself. He is 4, no sex discussion would ever be appropriate with him.

You can be totally sure that whatever you tell him, he will repeate to every kid he goes to school with and in my opinion, the stork is the best answer.

Good luck, ;>)

brian

I'm with tammadrummer.What ever you tell him he will tell everyone,cause you know kids like to talk.I like mama2bubba's response "mommy and daddys love"

Be honest, my mom explained pregnancy and how to when I was 8 she even read books with me, now she left some parts out which is only expected at such a delicate age your child may get upset if he feels lied to they do have books available for kids about babys/pregnancys etc at chapters go check it out

good luck!

I disagree with all of you...Not to be rude but I was always taught this way....If your big enough to ask a question then your big enough to be told the truth....Please tell this child I mean you dont have to get so graphic but you need to be honest with this child.

and again, I completely disagree with you. I am in college to become a teacher and my wife is already a teacher. I have been volunteering more than 500 hours a year at her schools since 2000 and I know first hand that it is a huge mistake to teach a baby how babies are made. It is hard enough to stop the 12- 17 crowd from engaging in sex, and even harder to make them choose to have protected sex if they are going to do it. Don't have the elementary school kids talking about it too.

The little kid in kindergarten cop is a prime example of teaching a baby about sex. They simply don't need to know. It will not hinder their ability to have sex when they get older. That is one thing that just happens, people don't need instruction on having sex. They know how due to instinct. So not telling a 4 year old will not stunt his growth.

respectfully disagreeing here, but you're talking about giving graphic, detailed explanations to a child that's not at a level of comprehension that's appropriate. My suggestion was to tell the truth but as briefly as possible, and in a way that their brain can wrap around it aka "god sends a baby to mommy's belly when mommy and daddy are ready to welcome another baby" or if you're not religious "mommies and daddies decide together, and have a special alone time."

there's nothing wrong with some honesty, and using the old stork story or the cabbage patch as how a baby exists is just unfair to the child. My 5 yr old daughter had no issues at all with my explanation that god sends babies to mommies who want to add to their family. She took it as if it were self-explanatory. In fact, she was more concerned with how a baby comes out. My response? "with help from some doctors." she figured out on her own that babies are delivered vaginally.

Give kids at least a little credit, because you can be honest and still withold graphic details. Simplicity is best.

Thanks for the replies they have really helped.

I think we will definitely go with mummy and daddys love making the baby, that way I am telling the truth without having to explain every detail!


The story with the stork might be alright for some children but I am sure if I said that to my son he would look at me as if I was mad! Thing is so far he already knows that babies grow in mummy's tummies (he remembers me carrying my second child) and he once asked where the baby's 'door' was. He was born by c-section so I just showed him my scar on my stomach and said ... 'there it is!' (i will wait untill he's older to explain the way his brother was born!) so the whole stork thing is going to confuse him no end.

I believe you should be truthful and open as much as you possibly can with children so that they dont get confused and dont worry about asking you questions later on.


I have also got hold of a book which explains pregnancy and stuff in a childlike way, so if he starts asking again, we can sit down and look at it together!

Jolie you had a vbac? How far apart were your kids? I want to ahve one with this one but im worried ill never go into labor and I was told I cant b induced with this one because of my c-section.

Hi! Whats a vbac?!
Lucas was born when aydan was 2yrs 10mths.
I was induced with lucas after having a c-section with aydan. They didn't warn me of any problems - mind you, the doctors I see aren't exactly the best!

Vbac stands for vaginal birth after cesarean. What medicines did they use to induce u? I ordered a book online about it and ive read online that pitocin is ok but they wont use prostagladins like cervidil becuse there isnt enoguh research on it. But ill have my book b4 my next appt and I will b sure to fight the docs cuz I dont wanna go to far with this kid he wont fit out!

Right, I get you now!
Don't ask me the names of what I had because my memory is terrible but I had planned c-section because baby no1 was breech and wouldn't turn.
2nd time round they said I could deliver naturally, I found out during this pregnancy that I carry group b strep.
2weeks before my due date my waters broke but labour didnt start so I had to be induced straight away (i couldnt be left because the strep b could of infected the baby)
anyways for starters they gave me this gel stuff,(i think! As I said my memories terrible)it hurt like hell! Whatever it was it didnt work, I do remember being told that there was a another procedure that some women have but I couldn't have it due to the c-section, (this might be what you are talking about)
in the end I had to be put on a drip for contractions to start. Believe me this was no fun I had to have another drip for the antibiotics for the strep b too, also had the moniters on my stomach checking the heartbeat. I literally couldnt move or the moniter would strart bleeping because it lost track of the h/b! This was definitely the worst bit, if I was able to get in a different position I think I would have been able to cope better but unfortunatly I spent the whole time on my back!
Labour went really slow at first and they were threatening me with another c-section, which I didn't want. Then out of nowhere I just started pushing him out, it took 5 hours in all. I had pethidine for pain relief because I didnt want epidural but I wouldnt recommend it, it made me really drowsy and slowed babys heartbeat and certainly didnt seem to help with the pain much!! Lol!

Just curious.... Does anyone remember asking their parents about where babies came from? Cause I don't.

I don't either lalee.

I have something for you guys.......

A little boy goes to his father and asks "daddy, how was I born?"

the father answers: "well, son, I guess one day you will need to find out anyway! Your mom and I first got together in a chat room on yahoo.
Then I set up a date via e-mail with your mom and we met at a cyber-cafe. We sneaked into a secluded room, where your mother agreed to do a download from my hard drive. As soon as I was ready to upload, we discovered that neither one of us had used a firewall, and since it was too late to hit the delete button, nine months later a blessed little pop-up appeared and said:

"you've got male!"

so smile :)

Michelle,

that is classic and I am going to print the story and give it to my techy friends at school. Since I am in college to become a computer programmer iformational technologies. They will get a kick out of it.

Lol michelle you never fail :d its like you're broadcasting my story well the you've got mail bit took a bit longer tho lol :d :d :d