My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months. We have never had sex - he has erectile dysfunction. This is a totally different issue which we're dealing with together.

I've tried to go down on him before but because of his problem it doesnt work out. But the thing that has really been getting to me lately is that he has never offered me oral sex in all this time. Five months we have been going out and he has never given me an orgasm.

I have never been particularly confident about how I look *down there* and this just reinforces my insecurities. I've wanted to ask, but it barely seems like I should have to. I've dropped him hints before, but to no avail. My ex used to go down on me all the time - he loved it! Whilst I am aware every guy is different, it still baffles and offends me that he's never offered.

Who's being selfish here - me or him? And with sex being a sensitive issue for us, how do I approach the issue? I have a high sex drive and it's driving me nuts!