I am so sorry you're going through this. It's truly one of the worst things you'll ever have to deal with.

I went in at 12 weeks and they couldn't find the heartbeat, I was sent to get an ultrasound and found out the baby hadn't grown since 8 weeks. They told me I was miscarrying and that I could let it happen naturally or have a d&e. I decided that I couldn't sit around waiting to lose my baby so I scheduled the d&e. Unfortunately my appointment wasn't for a week later. That was the worst week of my life. In total my baby had been dead for 5 weeks and I never experienced any cramping or bleeding and I still had signs of being pregnant. The night before my d&e I started spotting. I know this is a really hard time for you but I recommend the d&c. I went in and they gave me something that made me sleep. I remember being wheeled to the surgery room and then I woke up in a recovery room feeling like it was 1 minute later. I went home and slept all day and I didn't remember any of the surgery. I didn't have any cramping or bleeding after either (though I think this might be rare). The first few weeks following my miscarriage were horrible. At first I held it all in but then I found that talking about it made me feel better. Things are going to be tough for a while but you'll get through this. I am so sorry for your loss. Please feel free to pm me. :hugs:

this is a lot of what I went through. I was suppose to be 13w 3d and he was measured as 8w 6d. So I carried him around for 5 weeks dead also.

It definitely gets easier. Cry as much as you need to!

Honestly the d&c would be the best way to go because of the chance of infection

i agree. That's the way I went. If your baby has been in there for 5 weeks and still hasn't extracted it self out, then that would definitely be the best route.. Good luck!

How far along were/are you?