Well talk to him about it definitely. Try and see the baby with him as much as possible so they don't have much time of the 3 of them together where she could minipulate him into guilt of not having a "happy family". I'm not sure exactly girl i've never really had to deal with this, just don't act too defensive or you'll be the one looking insecure.

I understand everything your saying it makes alot of since.Its so complicated thought because she and I have never gotten along since highschool so I feel at times she may not want me round her baby and I dont want it to get the point where she use his being with against him and wont let him see his you get where im coming from?

I think you should just lay down the law to her.Let her know she ain't breaking you guys and all it's going to cause is a good a$$ kicking. . .

Well, the first thing that you should do is stop disrespecting her by calling her names. It looks childish and insecure, plus if you are in situations with him and his child you don't want to let the child hear you say things like that about its mother. It could make the child hate you which wouldn't be good for a relationship between you and its father. Besides, if the situation were reversed would you want the other girl saying things like that about you? What about in front of your child? Honestly you should tell him how you feel about it, but if you trust him why is it upsetting you? If you trust him then it shouldn't matter how many women throw themselves at him you know that he wants to be with you and isn't going to leave you for someone else...

Tigresacamela its not like that at all you are misunderstanding me. I knew this girl before she dated him or even had a child from him we've always been enemies so me calling her name s is nothing new. And if I call her a trick and a hoe its because thats what she is its not about being immature. But I will not let ,like I said this trick/ hoe get slick out her mouth and me not defend myself its about respect not acting like a child and I feel like she disrespects me everytime my name comes out her mouth she dont has no right to do what she is doing.Oh yeah I have a million kids in my family I know what to say around a child I never said anything about me trying the mother around the kid. Melissa_20 I feel you gurl she one step away from me kickin her ass the only thing stopping me is me he dont care if I lay the smack down to her ass. Im feeling u girl.

thats what i'm talkin about! I would be the same way as you, I am not a fighter,but if some 'trick/hoe' was doin me like that and I was already bad with her,she would need to have eyes on the back of her head.So your man odn't want you to do anything or what?

To tell you the truth he cant stand her and wouldnt mind if anybody fight her. Im not a fighter either but I will do what I have to. She put him through alot and it stresses him alot so I have to deal with his stress because im with him all the time he doesnt try to take it out on me.So he dont care if I go off on her its because of me that his life is happier.The story is deeper than this but I cant put it all on here.But its a mess. She still want him he let her know its nothing but she keep trying so that tells me that she has no respect for me, him or our relationship.Ya feel me?She talks bad about me to him call me all kinds of things but he defends me all the time. You see how the other girl was trying me askin me why im mad lol? Im not insecure trust me im conceited im mad about the disrespect.

I would be too. I would probably talk mad caca about that girl.But you know what would piss her off? It will be a little hard for you to do bc she makes you mad but when you are around her be nice as hell,and that caca will piss her off even more.I never thought that would work until I tried it. And you know she will continue to talk caca so if you do decide to do smoething about it,stay nice and then. . .Get her a$$! Hehehe I don't think that would do anything but make you feel better.Why did they break up in the first place?How long you and your man been together?

Well you do have a point on the killem with kindness. But lets see it started like three years ago I dated him but I was still in highschool and didnt have much freedom so he broke up with me and met her they hooked up.I 've loved him since then but id moved on and went off to college he was still with her but wanted to be with me because he knew I loved him for him and I made him happy.While she was stressin him he was trying to get away but if he couldnt come back to me he would stay with her.Its like we both were loving each other from a disstance cause he was with her and I was with someone else.Well anyway they were fallen apart and my relationship was too. And he couldnt take it anymore with drama and stress and unhappiness so he ended it with her same as me in my relationship so I ended mine and he and I found our way back to each other and we are as happy as we can be. But thats how it all started I was dating him first then he broke my heart and was with her.Now he realizes what he did and regrets it and he makes up for the pain he brought me then. But now she hatin but its cool he's my man and he's not going anywhere we r too deep inlove .

How old are the both of you? So is that why she hates you,b/c he left her for you?She should look at it from your point of view cause he was yours first.
"if you set something free and it comes back its yours!"

Im 21 and he is 22 girl yes I dated him first he told her when they were together he still loved me she didnt care she thought she could change him. But yes what you said is exactly right its not even about him not wanting her to her she just dont want him to be with me cause she ask him dumb stuff like why he came back to me anybody but me she just be hating on me

Well I was in your situation ...I was the baby mamma and the girlfriend(rebound) that my *now fiance* was dating..Always had to be a little health forum to me when I called so therefore I was totally against my babys father wouldnt let him see our son ..Mainly because her and her problems with me..I didnt want her taking her hate out on my child...So I know that you and other people arent going to agree with me but it seems like you need to stop worrying so much about the baby mamma taking your man away...(if your not worried about her taking him away then why talk about it)..And learn to be mature and have feelings for you man ...And leave his baby mama alone and stop fighting with her...Come to a compromise ..Its his baby and he needs a part in the babys life...If you cant deal with that then you really dont need to be with him...Even if he has to spend time with her and the baby without you ...If you have no trust then you have no relationship...

Its a part of life and alot of people are in the same situation ...Eventhough you might not like the girl...You have to grow up and learn to be nice...For the babys sake..And not trying to be mean but thats his babys mamma..Weather you or him can admit it ..He loves her and will always weather she is a health forum or not...My fiance broke it off with his girlfriend the moment I called and told him I thought we could work things out..And not to mention he was with her way before me and him were...But he still had that bond with me(our son)and thats the most precious thing....Now our family is complete and together and we are as happy as can be

if you were paying attention to the actual problem you could not be talkin. She did not say she was worried about him going back to her.In this case, the baby mama .I.S. The problem.She was talking caca first and she just wants to get back with that babys daddy. Courtney wants to show her she needs to cut the crap cause she ain't gettin him back.Your experience is not like everyone elses and its not always the other woman who is crazy. . .

sorry sweetheart I did read...And yeah the girlfriend might be the problem but she should still be the mature one about the whole deal even if the girlfriend isnt....And I can understand why his baby mamma's wants him back ...Duh she has his baby...She will probably want him back for a long time..Until she finds someone else to have a family with...But my whole post was telling her that if she couldnt get use to the girlfriend being immature and causing problems then she didnt need to be in the relationship in the first place because he is the one that has to step up and take half responsibility for that child..Even if it means taking time out of his day to go to his "baby mamma's house"...So im just saying if she doesnt like the fact of him and his baby mamma being alone together with the child then maybe the relationship isnt worth it ..Because without trust you cant have a relationship...Her post made her seem untrusting to him...So thats why I posted the post...Thanks hun :wink:

and I said I had been in same situation not meaning that everything was exactly the same ...So do take everything so literal..

What's up? How's that cute little baby of yours?

I totally and completely agree with you jillian but I think that we were raised differently than most people so we really understand what's actually important in life and what accurately constitutes maturity. There's no point arguing about it with them sweetie, they're never going to understand, they come from a completely different world than we do....

you have no idea bc obviously you have not been on both sides of the situation.Her fighting with the baby mama has nothing to do with her relationship.I think the baby mama just needs to back off even though they have ababy together.She needs to realize its over,let it sink in and get a life! She is not insecure about her relationship,she just simply does not like the baby mama harassing him but his kid is important to him.I would be the same way! I think you need to look at it from another point of view besides your own.

well considering that I posted how I felt..Thats exactly how I feel and as for the baby mamma backing off and leaving them alone..Um lets see here she has a reason to bug him from day to day ..Because she has his baby...Sorry to point this out but when you have a baby with someone ...You will have to be connected to that person for 18 years weather or not you or the person you are with wants to or not..Unless he wants to spend some money(child support)...But im pretty sure he wants part in his childs life and if not he isnt worth nothing in the first place...And no maybe I havent been on both sides...Because seriously I wouldnt be dating a guy with a baby ..Because im not a "family wrecker" I know from the experience I was in to feel how it felt for some other girl to be with my babys father..Its not the best feeling when you are taking care of a child by yourself ...And paying all the bills..So maybe sweetheart you need to look at it from another view but your own :wink:

he is doing great...He said his first word the other day..Its ouch...And its so adorable when he says it :wink: yeah and true about what you said...I know arguing gets you no where ....So thats why I try to prove my point and shut up ..But sometimes its just tempting to make a fool out of someone that has no idea what they are talking about.. But anyways he is great...And getting big !...How are you!?

just bc she has his baby does not mean she has the right to "bug him".Obviously he has a life and she is just pissed bc she is no longer in it, yet another woman she does not like is.She does have a connection with him but that is the only connection and if he wanted her to bug him more maybe he would be with her.Actually thats probably the reason he don't like being around her,hence the word .B.U.G! "duh!" he wants part in his kids life but not his baby mamas.He .C.H.O.S.E not to be with her,which does not make cortney a homewrecker.He simply chooses to be with who he wants to be and it happens .N.O.T to be his babys mama!
I think you are a nut!