You need to leave him im not joking! Your dumb if you stay with a man that does that to you! Your so young and have so much to leanr about men......

What he is doing is wrong and if you don't get out now you might never get out. You can't go on living like this. It's not right. It might be hard to leave and you might not be very happy for a while, but after that your life will improve so much and you will be glad you did it when you did.

Oh please dont ever ever stay with a man that would ever ever even think of hitting you. Everyone is right-you have a lot to learn about men and you will be happier so much happier in the long run if you just let him go. Do you want to be scared your whole life? No love is worth that. Love should make you feel safe and secure, not like that. There are lots of men out there that can make you feel like he does when he makes you feel good, and most of them dont hit. Run away. Please

Well, I know I should not stay with him....In a way it is my fault kuz I get so angry and I end up taking it out on him. But see he knows how I get and knows he should just back off but instead he likes to make the matters worse and not let it calm down. But see if I do even hit him its not hard enough to even hurt him at all. I cant make it hurt kuz then I know i;d feel horrible but when he hits me back he makes it really hurt....And I mean really hurt I can normally hold back alot of pain but when he hits me I just cant help but drop to the floor and cry my eyes out. He never tells me sorry or nothing. He just goes on with his day like nothing had happened. I try to kinda bring it up like I said to him today " gee, now I gotta limp every where I go, thanks a bunch" and he just seems to kinda laugh it off. I really love this man. I know all of this hitting wouldn't happen if he didnt get so angry over stupid stuff.
I have one more thing, this one is probably my fault all the way...But about a year ago...My boyfriend moved like 1hr 1.2 away from me and we were only seeing each other on the weekends. I was feeling kind of lonely during the week so I was looking for anyone girl/guy friends ya know...To make me a bit more happy. I had ran into a guy named josh in my art class...He had been hitting on me and it went on for about 2 wks and then he started to talk about wanting sum of "this" other words sum sex and he would make it sound so special and blah blah....And he was a hottie I gots to admit, I had started to feel sexually atteracted to me. I would talk to my bf online and i'd bring him up and tell him wut he did and he would get angry/furious with me because some other guy had made me smile or is getting my attention.....But I had a letter written to my friend shy and he had found it when we was argueing and I had told her ya know I was thinking about wut "josh" said to me in art and blah blah and told her I thought about it but not like action thoughts just like "i wonder wut it would b like...Since my bf is been the only one...." and that was a year ago....I have met a new "guy" friend...His name is mike and he's black ( not that it matters) and we have been talking like everyday during my classes or during lunch break. He tells me new things or introduces me to new things that I didn't know about or something. I may come home and tell anthony wut it was...Or we skip the last 5-10 mins of class if we can get out of class because we are bored and hate it very much so we skip class together (like friends would....) and we just walk around and talk. But then again I for some reason feel that mike is tryin to "connect" with me but I dont feel it....Kuz like I was taking sumthin back from him and he had kinda held my hand for a min and then let go....What would you think about that...? But I just dont get why he thinks he cant trust me.......I explained it all to him....He acts like I was and did medical question this josh kid when I never did and wasn't even going too at all......I swear I gots a messed up relationship....I think he is kinda controlling kuz I can only go sumwhere if he has sumwhere to go or he gets mad when I wanna chill wit my friends....Pleae help me out!

Girls be mature! I'm tired of people jumping on victims and telling them they're stupid for staying when you have no clue about the situation. I was with a boyfriend for a year and a half and one day he hit me as hard as he could. I did not leave but sorry, I do know a hell of a lot about men though i'm young, and i'm a very strong person.
But confused don't blame yourself you did nothing wrong and it is his fault. The only way is to realize that he is being abusive, and it needs to be stopped. Try again to talk to him, if it continues, then carry on. Always think about yourself first, no matter how much you love someone, because you are all you have in the end. Don't be scared of change because it's been a long time, just pull up and know that many have been in your situation and it's okay and it isn't your fault. Be strong.

I can understand where you are coming from you've been with him a long time thats you're heart right there you love him and thats that but what you need to need to think about is if you r provoking him or you may need to know that if he is angry about something you may want to back off until he chill out because you dont want to say something he may not like which will make him strike so just try to be extra sensitive to him if he is n a bad mood and dont pick arguements which ladies we all do it if he is wrong let him think he is right at least you know he is wrong when he becomes a man and start to see the things he do to you are wrong your relationship will be better but you cant change him let him find his self.

I agree, you are not stupid for staying with this guy, but it is definitely not in your best interest. I dont care how many other certain circumstances there are surrounding this issue. You need to leave. Do not practice self doubt by thinking it is all your fault. It is his fault. He is abusive. He needs help, and you need to take some time off with this guy. Permanently. I am not a judgemental person at all. Im not trying to judge either of you. It just makes me really upset when there are better people than me out there with boyfriends that make mine look like a saint. What I am saying is that you deserve and can get much better. If you really like this guy and cannot leave, then dont hit him anymore. After showing him that you wont hit him, but he hits you again tell him one more time and you are gone, no joking. And follow through or he will never take you seriously and never respect you. I fight to gain my boyfriends trust all the time, because he has been burned in the past, but its nothing I have done. I have learned over the past three years of being with him that trust and respect are very important things and are very crucial to making you a generally happy person. Be independent. Dont get attatched. Know that you can make it on your own. Figure a plan. Dont waste your life on sadness.