No, please dont give up. Most women don't hit their sexual peak until their 30's. And its not as weird as you may think that you havent gotten there yet-i know others in the same boat as you. What I find very helpful is to read a book or in cosmopolitan they usually have a really sexy exerpt in the back of the magazine that always gets me there. Men are usually visual creatures who prefer to look at or watch pornos-i guess I like to read pornos. You are right about the plateau, sometimes it is very hard to get to the next one. Maybe your subconscious wont let you because it is afraid of your body losing control. You just have to relax. Think only about how good it feels and how good it will feel once you are there. A vibrator is a great idea, because it really helps you to relax and it does all the work. Another thing you can do is to experiment with your breathing. The way you breathe is an important part in getting there. If I am having a hard time, I just hold my breath for a little bit and it never fails. I dont think a lot of people know about that, but ask any sex expert and they will tell you. It might be good for you to try this all alone, so there is no pressure, but if you dont get a chance, remember dont be afraid to touch yourself in front of him. Guys like it and it turns them on. No guy has ever gotten me off all by themselves except for my current boyfriend of 3 years a couple of times, and man-he was down there for a loooooooong time. You can also use a vibrator when you are having sex. When I am having a hard time, I just ask my boyfriend to grab my toy, and it really takes the pressure off. When he gets you close is he using his fingers, tongue, or are you having sex? Because if he is using his fingers or toungue and you start shaking-he may be going too fast, and thats when you should take over and go a little slower maybe. If you hold your breath at that point you may find that you stop shaking so much and it will feel better-not so much like a hurdle. Also you should start being honest with him as to when you arent having an orgasm. Just try to stick to the mentality that if you dont get there, oh well, and that should take some pressure off too. Just explain to him that it is not his fault. I didnt orgasm with my boyfriend at first until I realized that if I want it then I have to try for it, and now I have an orgasm every time. I hope some or all of this helped. Please write and let me know. You can also pm me anytime you want if you'd rather.

Have you explained your problem to a doctor? They might be able to perscribe something which helps you relax. Or herbal remedies. Or perhaps a good massage and some porn.
I heared that some woman can't orgasm full stop. But if you can get as far as you can, you probaly could.

Well first off thats good for you I wont knock you im 20 I lost mine when I was 19 and thats when I had my first org. But anyway what you should do is date around dont get this confused with sleep around but then again you cant . So maybe you should have sex with a friend if they are willing at least they will know you and wont tease you now I havent done this but I know people who have if that doesnt work do you should tell him again how you feel about it. At your age you should have been had one but I couldnt continue with sex lik that because thats a problem to me. Lol :d

I think your a little confused courtney, she is not a virgin, she just has never had an orgasm :oops:


also, I really don't think cheating on your husband would do any good, you said you have had partners before and still nothing, so really its something you should try to work out for yourself, I think cheating on your man would be the worst thing you could do. The posts above seem to give some good advice, and it is true about the 'shaking' maybe it was being done too fast, that can happen sometimes and gets too sensitive, also you loosing intrests with the vibrator, have you tried maybe watching some porn or thinking of something that turns you on while doing it? You may also just be loosing instrest because your trying too hard, the more you think about trying to orgasm, the harder its going to be to have one. Hope you can find a solution!

Cortney-you are an edit

Your mother is an edit

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I think I have come close to orgasming twice, but not all the way. Definitely plateau (that's when he keeps going and you breathe really fast, right? And the world becomes dream-like? And an orgasm is when you feel this pushing down sensation and you breathe really fast and make some noise vocally? Not to say, I stay quiet at plateau, but there's a difference?) actually, my man got me first when we was fingering me. There's something at the front of the vagina that lets off the whistle, but we can't maintain the position. Doggy style or in his lap helps, but i've found missionary to be the way that works.

Sexperts, please offer your advice!

Hello every1 :d iight for me it takes 30mins and its has to before his 1st orgasm of the day. To me that's when its at its hardest like diamond hard girl best friend diamond hard ya feel me. Can cut diamonds wit his s***!! Lol but anyways all women are different.What I do all in that half an hour before he cums he waits for me by thinking about me but if hes about to cum think about something that's a lil less arousing to stay hard but not bust but n e ways....Be4 he enters me I take a deep breathe in because i'm also working my pelvic muscles too feel me but then play a peaceful cd like a rain or ocean sound real low. Then I wait til he gets hits my g spot at 12 o clock on top inside your vagina.U know its the size of a dime until your horny then its a quarter. But while he's on top I wait then when he hits a spot that feels perfect I message his shoulders and tell him to stay right there the he messages my clit for more stimulation and sucks my boobs too c I need a lot of stimulation to have an orgasm. Its kind of dramatic but every1 is unique. He stays there for 15mins while I big breathe deep breathes through my stomach then my eyes water legs shake and then a head rush then u feel weak in the knees. But what I am trying to say is relax and get alot of oxygen to your brain.Or put a blind fold on him if you don't want him to see the faces you make I do sometimes cuz im shy about my body.Good luck to you and every1 there's my lil long opinion hope it helped.

You cannot mistake an orgasm-it makes you feel so high. If you have ever smoked pot its like ten times higher than that.

I think courtney's a edit

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Ahh thankyou I have a fan club edit do you know or should I say do you want to know me im tryin not to act out but it seems like you cant help saying my name. I love it lol

This is crazy-i have already apologized for all of this mundane bullsquash. Lets please chill out now. This is a place to help people and be helped by people. I am not going to concern myself with people who have no idea what they are talking about anymore. Silly silly silly

i don't think she was responding to you,i think it was to luksyx6,she just keeps talking edit.

Well, I wasnt responding to really anyone in particular, because I dont want to start anymore fights, I like to write in forums to help people, not to argue-so if I was wrong by doing so, I apologize to everyone

that's one of the ways I use to do do it. Its your g-spot sweetie. Its the size of a dime then the more aroused you are it becomes the size of a quarter.I prefer missionary to sometimes then you can move your hips in lil or big circles to enhance it. Also message his shoulders while he's on top he's workin' hard up there to please you. That sounds like the symptoms I go through. The longer I hold my orgasm the better it is and stronger it is. Girl you ain't had nothing til you had a multiple orgasm it will literally blow ya head off..Your legs shake and I go deaf temporarily. Its different for everyone though.Good luck everyone

Man, that's just crazy?? I started having sex@ 19, I am 29 & I cum off anything & everything, I'm an OCEAN.. I cum back 2 back. Men, go crazy then afterwards b like dang u ain't finish yet.. My Aunt could only cum off oral sex, the person in her life would always mess up her "soon 2 cum" by informing her that he was getting ready 2. I think it's a mind thing. U have to let go. I had that problem w/getting head. My 1st boyfriend was really eating me!! I didn't get head again till I was 23, I loved it after.. I got a 25 year old that wants to taste me every chance he gets.. I am fallin in love w/ tha head !!!!