This is one side of the story. Children that sleep with their parents are actually more bonded and it is a heck of alot easier to breastfeed. My son is 3 and has just started to sleep in his own bed. As long as both parents are careful, I don't see a problem with it. I plan to co sleep with #2 as well. It is a personal choice. My hubby and I practice attached parenting.
Ashlee

Ya thats what my cuz said too, but i'd rather walk the couple feet down the hall to feed during the nite and have an alive baby. And how careful can u be when ur sleeping? You are not conciously moving around or not moving. Ijust never want to see this happen again. Not only did they lose their baby, but they both blamed eachother and it ruuined their marriage..I just think its to big a thing to risk it

That's what makes a bassinet perfect. You can have them right beside you at night.

You'd be surprised how many mothers roll over on their babys and smother them instead of bonding with them....

Not only is it dangerous..It takes 100 percent away from you and your partner's love life...

Like jennie said..I'd rather walk down the hall to see my baby as apposed to driving to the cemetery to bring flowers!!

Do not let your baby sleep with you...If breastfeeding isn't enough bonding for you..Than you need to seek counseling to improve these thoughts....

Great post....I wish people didn't even consider it!!!

Sarah

My baby will sleep in the bed with me for the first year, maybe 2 years because like acoles said, its great for bonding, and so much easier if you are breastfeedin, which im going to do. One side of the bed is against the wall so he cant fall out when he sleeps that side, and i'll put blankets so he cant hurt himself on the wall. The other side ive attatched one of those bed guards, usually used on toddlers beds so he cant fall out when sleeping on that side either. Made both sides safe because with breastfeeding I will need to move him to each side during the night.

To make sure I dont roll on him, im rolling up a baby blanket or 2, and putting it inbetween me and the baby. So we arent actually touching or close enough for me to smother him or roll on him. Its just me and him going to be in the bed as im single...I dont know how it would work with a man in the bed aswell.

My daughter has always slept w/ me and my husband and shes 1 year old now I love it she cuddles right next to me and wants me to let her hold my hand. I love sleeping with her and she even slept in my hospital bed after she was born and since I had a c-section I slept kind upright with her on the boppy around my waste for the first couple days she uses her crib only for naps

Sids happens when a baby is in a crib, alone.

Sids death kills about 5000 babies a year in the usa.

Only between 49 and 64 infants a year die from cosleeping.

Most of those are parental error, such as the parent(s) being drunk or high on drugs or other medication and rolling over and smothering. Or a parent trying to cosleep on an unsafe surface (such as a waterbed).

Cosleeping is actually safer then crib sleeping if you do it properly. It has been shown to help regulate your newborn's breathing and limit the amount of apnea spells. The mother's body also naturally does not go in to the same deep sleep as it would when she's alone so the risk of rolling over is quite slim unless you are on medication or a very heavy sleeper in which case no, you shouldn't cosleep.

i agree completely. I have the right to choose what is best for my children. Sids is less likely to occur with co sleeping children, that is a fact. It isn't about me being lazy or having some psychological problem. (i bond with my children, I don't need input from the peanut gallery.) we each do what we think is best for our children. My hubby is gone alot, so it was just me and my son. I am such a light sleeper, I wake up when I touch him. It is the parents choice, no one elses.
Ashlee

sid is just as likely to happen in a parents bed. God, you have no doing it idea about anything! You just push and push and don't shut your doing it mouth

Well I am expecting twins so, I am going to have 2 cots in my room. Ma bf is away at college so I am the only person, I might think about sharing my bed with them, I just don't want to hurt them both

exactly! Then the baby/ies are right beside you, but you're not going to smush then, and i've seen lots that the one side can be lowered so you can easily get at your baby to nurse.... I just wish ppl didn't even consider sleeping w/ their baby. I mean sure, lots of ppl do it and nothing happens, but what if something does...Its different when the baby is like a year old or so...But newborns...Its just way to much of a risk. Its not only that you can roll on them, but your blankets are always being moved around-tossing the baby onto its front, baby falling between the bed and the wall....Its just too huge! I will def. Use a basinet for my baby at first, but under no conditions will he/she sleep in my bed. Breastfeeding is boding enough, plus being her mom and all.. I never slept in my mom and we are so incredibly close...So I just don't think 'bonding' is reason enough to risk it...

...I'm just trying to tell you gals the facts, so don't get all pissy saying this isn't true and that its 'better' to sleep w/ ur baby...Just don't--you haven't lived it, I have, i've seen what can happen--its not nice going to a funeral for a 4 month old.Trust me!

Thaks for the info

i am still unsure about wat to do with my twins

Sids can happen anytime whether they be in a crib or co sleeping, cosleeping isnt a great thing to get ur kids used to unless u decide ur not having sex for awhile. Alot of woman prefer co sleeping but did you know that men dont and they actually try to fight, as for light sleeping during co sleeping hunter its not true I slept like a bloody horse last night while I was trying to burp my son lol!!

Its true ur decision whatever u want but ppl are better to be informed

Roxie, its ultimately up to you, but espially with two babies, I would say you'd be best not to cosleep...It would be even a higher risk. If you get a play pen you can usually raise the bottom up and put it next to your bed, so the babies are stilll close to you for night time feeding---but you'll probably have to feed formula too anyways, so you'lll have to get up. As nice as it would be to be able to snuggle w/ the babies everynight--is it really worth the risk? I just want u to know the risks, and that there are other options out there that are so much safer and no less convenient.. I'm sure you'll make the right choice for whats best for your babies.

Ps: just a ? Do you know what yur having? Boys?Girls? Both? J/w

Roxie, its ultimately up to you, but espially with two babies, I would say you'd be best not to cosleep...It would be even a higher risk. If you get a play pen you can usually raise the bottom up and put it next to your bed, so the babies are stilll close to you for night time feeding---but you'll probably have to feed formula too anyways, so you'lll have to get up. As nice as it would be to be able to snuggle w/ the babies everynight--is it really worth the risk? I just want u to know the risks, and that there are other options out there that are so much safer and no less convenient.. I'm sure you'll make the right choice for whats best for your babies.

Ps: just a ? Do you know what yur having? Boys?Girls? Both? J/w

Yes it was confirmed yesterday

a boy and a girl due june 1st

mia and charlie

thanks for the advise, I might get two cots either side of the bed

one pink one blue hehe

Awww... That would be darling! Lol congrats on the wee ones, and I love the names ;)

Thanks
can't wait until they come

but I cant sllep at night, they are very active