Well alot of women fake it. Its for a mans sake. Maybe trying different positions where your in control can help. There are alot of things to do to get one. But faking it is for the best. Telling them that they suck at it, really hurts their feelings. So dont worry about it

I totally disagree with nikki. Look what happened in your last relationship when you faked it and lied. No one appreciates being lied to - turn it around and think about how you would feel if you found out someone you really cared about lied to you for two years, especially about something so intimate. You should be honest. Give the guy the chance to help you out. You need to be totally into the guy, totally turned on. You need to relax and not worry about or concentrate on getting to orgasm. Instead, enjoy being with the guy, enjoy all the feelings and emotions and focus on that and maybe you will finally be able to get to orgasm. Above all else, always be honest in your relationships. All relationships should be based on trust and honesty. Can't ever go wrong with that.

The real question is: do you want to have an orgasm?

If no: continue to lie

if yes: don't lie! How will you ever have one if you don't let him know that you haven't? You need to figure out together how do get you to have one.

Don't lie to the guy. Tell him the truth that you have never had one. He might take it as a challenge. You chould also have him use a vibrator on you or motion lotion. Let him know that you are open to new things and if you're willing experament.

Ive never ever had an orgasm and I have tried everything.. For years with guys I couldnt tell them.. I just felt like I couldnt so I either faked it or got into the habit of stopping them :$
a few monthes back I found an amazing guy and fell in love.. And I couldnt tell him but I knew I had to if I wanted to stay with him cus id lost so many guys over it in the pat.. And god it was making me so down.. But eventually I told him and cried alot etc and now we've been together 10 monthes.. Ive still never had an orgasm but hes really really understanding and willing to try anything to give me an orgasm.. Hes v generous in bed and spends lots of time making me enjoy it.. But basically.. Tell them! If they love u they will understand totally and u wil b so much less miserable in the long run.. And with their help u might have one one day :)

Hey there im 18 years of age and still a virgin, And loving it aswell. Never be ashamed of yourself that you haven't had sex yet many woman and teenage girls are just like you, I have a boyfriend at the moment and I lied about orgasim aswell so we cant have sex. I told him that i've experienced it once and had a painful experience, He had a great understanding and seemed conveying by my feeling's. Maybe that man was'nt the right guy for you, If you havea boyfriend he should always appcept your concerns and worries, never let anybody influence you into having sex that shows lack of paitience and respect he has towards you and your body. You decide when you are ready and capable,Always respect you and your body and dont be someone your not
And if you need any advice or tips always visit your doctor or a close family member or friend. Hopemy advice has helped supported you and your future, Tena koutou,Tena koutou, Katoa.

I'm horribly in love with my bf and lost my virginity to him. We've been having sex for several months and I lie every time. The sex is without a doubt enjoyable, and i will come close to climaxing sometimes several times, but I never have. It stresses me out that I am lying to him, and I feel like I should tell the truth, but he is SO self concious and easily upset when it comes to me. And honestly, I am perfectly happy with how things are, so I don't want to say anything that could disturb our relationship.
I think if you really want to orgasm, tell the next guy you are with about your problem. experirment with toys and lubes if you want! if you never lie from the begining, then you wont have to disappoint him later and nothing is a secret. Its always terrible telling someone that you have been lying to them!

First and foremost, I NEVER recommend lying.

However, if you HAVE been lying... that's a tough situation. Honestly if it were me, I'm not sure I would fess up to the lying. What I WOULD do is figure out what worked for me (this can take some time and a lot of practice), and once I figured it out, I would show my boyfriend what I like. Depending how open you are, you can masturbate for him (men will never complain about this). If not, you can gently nudge his fingers in the right place, suggest positions, etc. and let him know how good it feels for you.

As someone who masturbated for years (I am 22) and could not give myself an orgasm for the longest time, I understand your frustration. I could not get pushed over the edge from fingering (whether it was me or my boyfriend doing it), oral sex (I know this works for many women) - while it felt good, I just couldn't come, vibrators (once again, felt great, but didn't cut it), G-Spot stimulation, clitoral stimulation... NOTHING was working.

One day, while playing around with a small vibrator, I was laying on my stomach while I left it down there. I noticed if I rubbed myself against it, it felt good. I had the clitoral stimulation AND pressure. I noticed if I put a pillow between my legs and rubbed against it I could achieve an amazing orgasm everytime within minutes. (I realized I didn't even need the vibrator, the pillow was enough).

The next question was how on earth do I make this work with a partner. Answer: The coital alignment technique.

If you google it, there is loads of info about how to do it, and it's slightly tricky at first, but amazing and easy once you get it. I personally recommend doing it with the woman on top.

Essentially, when you're on top of him, lower your pelvis an inch or so so your clitoris will be pressing against the base of his penis/pelvic bone. Instead of thrusting, think about "grinding"/rocking back and forth. Having him lift his pelvis up helps a lot too. Rock back and forth and you should get there in no time.

I really hope this helps! Good luck!

Lying to him just ensures that you never do have an orgasm. By being honest and allowing him to help increases the chances of eventually figuring out what works for you ten fold. Like one poster said...she would feel close but never get there. If her boyfriend knew she was having a difficult time, at the time she was feeling close they could have worked on it together to push her over the edge. By his not knowing or being led to believe differently, she robbed herself of that pleasure and knowledge. What works for one may not work for another.

It's my opinion that until a woman figures out what works for her she will never be able to be completely sexually satisfied. Meaning, if you cant give yourself an orgasm and get your pleasure straight in your own mind its not going to work with someone else in the equation. Our partners are supposed to help and enhance what we are feeling not do it all for us and visa verse.

Many women fake orgasms during sex...IMO, this is where the term "Not Tonight Dear" was born...During the course of our marriage, I did a lot of faking...Only now living in this land of Oz, has my husband realized what hot sex really is...I don't believe a woman can get instructions for finding this place within herself...Instead she must allow herself to create her own version of the hottest Porn Queen that she has ever seen...When she is able to do this, she takes her lover to places unknown to both of them...She struts her stuff and for the first time in her life walks with the assurance of knowing that she is as good as it gets...And she is....

has anything bad happened to you sexually when you was a child?
you said you cant orgasm by masturbation, have you tired using the removable shower head, lying under luke warm water in a tub while the water is running on your clitoris, dildos, vibrators, clit stimulator.
some women dont get orgasms.
as long as you enjoy sex that is what is important. if you never had an orgasm but you enjoy sex, this should be told to your lover.
i just want you to try everything before you say you cant get an orgasm.

I have a question. My boyfriend and i have never had intercourse, but we have had phonesex and he has fingered me. Ive never reached orgasm while fingering but i have while i masturbated myself during phone sex. He asked me if i had ever orgasmed with him, but since he was feeling pretty down that i hadnt while we were actually together, i told him 'no'. I didnt want him to feel bad about himself...but was it wrong of me to lie about it?

Can you think of any situation where stacking one lie on top of another so that you don't have to admit you were wrong has worked out well for you? Don't lie to people you love about anything. Don't imagine that you're doing it to protect them, you know damned well they'll find out eventually and they'll be hurt.

Yeah, i know your right wolf. thanks.