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yellow ribbon
on February 20th, 2006
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Well idont no about canada but here if u can prove tot he court u ahve a job and can support yourself then theres nothing your parents can do so I dont see y if u can prove it then u couldnt move out especially if u told the judge y u didnt wantto go back
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oh_mommy
replied on February 21st, 2006
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Yeah would make scence but it would be hard finding a place around here. They are all like 500$ and up, and you have to be 19 with credit to get an appartment or rent something
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yellow ribbon
replied on February 21st, 2006
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Im sure if you look around you can find one that caters to young mommies we have housing here that u cant make to much moneyto live there. We did qualify cuz we make eto much money lol we have 1 income and its military if thats not poor enough than I dotn no what is
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oh_mommy
replied on February 22nd, 2006
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Yeah.. Thanks:) you guys have been wounderful:)
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sydison
replied on March 24th, 2007
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Re: Issues With Brother
oh_mommy wrote:
Hey im sorry this is off topic but I didnt know where to go, and I know alot of people here are nice and will help me out. Im not preggo or anything.. But heres my problem

im 16 (17 in 2 weeks) and my brother has issues (hes 22 as of today feb 11) the way I feel as if he feels he is a supirrior because my mom left almost 2 or 3 years ago. He acts as though he is the mother. Which isnt a bad thing, its the fact I swear he has an anger problem. About 2 weeks ago the dog was outside barking so he was smashing on the window really hard telling the dog to come in and he broke the window. Whenever he is corrected he yells and screams. He's always looking down upon me calling me stupid. And heres the worst part. He hits me sometimes, and not softly, hardly.


Today I downloaded wordveiwer so I could look at my resume at my grandpas house and he raiged at me, saying I didnt need it I could just open it with wordpad which I already did and it only came up with weird letters. And after him yelling and then coming up to the comp to try and do it I said "i already tried it comes up with weird letters" and he kept going on and I said "i know eric! Im not that stupid!" and then he smacked me really hard I had a handprint on my face and he yelled " yes you !@#$ing are!" and then walked away. My boyfriend was standing beside me when this happend and was holding himself back from hitting my brother because he dosnt want the family to hate him and I told him before not to do anything.

Now my bf feels bad for not doing anything at all. When my dad got home today I told him wat had happend and he didnt do a thing, because this happens all the time, well use to, not so often anymore considering im trying to avoid being around him which had been doing good for the past while.


Im not only scared for me, but for my cat. My cat cant do anything (hes only 4 months old) without getting squirted by the waterbotle by my brother, and once he threw him into my room and my kitten hit the wall.

I know I could have said something but that would have only made thigns worse so I just sit here and bite at my nails. I finally realised why I have never had nails.



Sorry for the very long post but I dont know what to do
thanks for letting me vent, I dont know where else to go


Girl....! Come on now, give yourself a little more credit! You have got to put your foot down and since no one else cares or is ignoring your brother you have to take action! I PROMISE, your brother will love you more for it later in life! I don't think he needs to be arrested, but they will do that if you call and complain. This is just my opinion, call and get some information from a mental health counselor and find out what your options are since its your brother and not yourself. I know that money can be an issue, they will work with you!!! Tell them everything and talk to someone about your concerns. It would be a lot of hard work for you, but if you love your brother that much and don't want him arrested but want to get him help, I think thats what I would do. It sounds like he may have a disorder, anger problem, etc. Myself and my 5 yr. old daughter are seeing a couselor weekly to deal with some anger problems she has. As for you, there are plaenty of things and opportunitues out there for you also. I am not sure how Canada does things differently than the US, but when are to the age to move out own your own, there should be a lot available for you (assistants with money issues, food, health care etc) You should look into it and that way you can prepare yourself for what you need to do. As for right now, you have to get out!!!!!! I hope the best for you and keep us posted on how things are going for you!

Jessica
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Auzzie_Wanting_To_Help
replied on April 15th, 2007
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I just have to ask.... Is there anyway that you would be able to sit down with your brother and tell him how you feel?? This might make him realise exactly what he is doing to you and making you feel. You could have a friend go with you so he wouldnt try anything.

I think its disgraceful that your family say ignore it, they make it seem like young brother sister rivalry that happened when you were 5! You are both grown people and both know what is right and wrong! Seems like they say just ignore it in the hope that the problem will go away, it obviously hasnt and something needs to happen. If the talk with your brother doesnt work, maybe you could talk to your dad even though he says ignore it but maybe say something along the lines of.... Dad, can you please stop living in denial and face up to what is happening, he left hand prints on my face, how can i ignore that!?! This problem is not going away and needs to be addressed, I could have him up on abuse charges if nothing is done.
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