Sometimes I feel like i'm in a similar situation. The old cliche' is it is the husband who always wants sex, while the wife comes up with excuses not to have it. Not in my case. I am almost always horny with some energy, while my hubby can go without. Generally it isn't because he is not interested, but rather too tired. However, as with anyone I suppose, there are times, too, when he just plain isn't in the mood.

If your bf is willing to try something to increase his drive there are herbal supplements out there that can do that. If he isn't willing to take something for it, then you are left with maybe coming up with a compromise. However, with a compromise, if you have sex when he really isn't willing and into it, the sex itself may not be as good as it could be. It may feel more one-sided, because he may not put as much effort into it. Plus, one of the last things you want to do is to start making him feel like sex is a chore! If he starts feeling like that then he may come to resent you a bit.

I would very much like for my hubby to have sex with me more often, but on the other hand I also understand and respect when he doesn't want it. So, to help out a bit, I am now looking for new toys to help satisfy my needs. Toys never make me feel as good as my hubby can, but it does help to ease the need a bit. And, who knows, maybe hubby will enjoy incorporating the toys into our sessions, anyway?

Yeah, he's 22 so I think asking him to take any supplements would be out of the question. I understand what your saying, I much rather be touched by him than some toy cause he even told me maybe I should get something so that I wouldn't need it so much.
I guess part of the problem is I lost my virginity like 3 months ago so sex is still new and exciting for me...Thus I want it more.
He complained that his last girlfriend only wanted it once a week or every two weeks. Now he complains I put pressure on him and want it all the time. But like you said I know I have to respect his wishes and having sex when he doesn't want it, isn't going to happen, that's wrong and its not going to be good sex at all.

Maybe if you try initiating it more often, because my boyfriend always wants sex, but I only want it if I am turned on by him. So maybe try to turn him on or another idea would be to play some sexy board games-they are always fun and put you in the right mood.

I last my virginity 6 months ago, i'm alsways wanting it. Sometimes my bf dosn't feel like it. Which is fine. I'm happy just been with him. He always offers oral instead if he don't want to do it. But I get off on him been excited too. I sometimes just tease him for hours until he finnally does want it.
Don't pressure him too much. Just do without if he don't want it. You'll get usede to the new pattern anyway.

My boyfriend and I just conquered your problem. He said since I was always initiating it, it was too easy to get. So! Usually when we watch a movie I just lie down and don't pay any mind to him but still act sexy and kind of look at him a certain way, just to get it on his mind. And if he starts initiating it, don't go full into it with him right away. Playing the innocent, not interested game can sometimes work. Good luck!

You said you would be fine with having sex every other day.Well 4 or 5 times a week .I.S every other day.How can you feel the way you do just bc he wont have sex with you everyday?I can undersdtand if he acted as if it was a burden on him but I think your crazy!

Thats real crazy but im not gonna knock you four or five times a week is a good amount I mean I get it once a day . I understand you are a freak but honey I wouldnt complain unless he didnt want to give you any at all. Maybe you should try and calm down a lil bit and let it all flow dont be pushy with it.

You know one of the girls said that playing the uninterested game works and it does! Im an initiator too but lately ive acted blah and it works. I dont get guys, I really think that societal norms about them being sex monsters is overrated! I really trully believe that women are really reorganizing the sexual revolution once again.....Dont worry just play a little hard to get. Men love what they cannot get...I have finally realized that after being in a 4 yr relationship...Good luck

i'm having the same trouble can anybody help...me nd my bf havent had sex in about 2 weeks nd i'm offering it to him on a silver plate here bu he wont take it mayb its because my brother is always in da nxt room...???? wat do u tink...HELP!!! im so sexually fustrated at dis point bu he's always playing wit me nd trying to make me wet nd teasin me bu i only like teasin if i know im gonna get it at the end bu now i dnt..??? so i need help....watchas tink...??? please right back..!
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CUt him off and watch what happens.

you tink that would work as in play hard if he all of a sudden wants it dont give it to him..???? xx

Munky23, listen to the advice from Kgirl16 and Miko! I've been married 7 years, and my husband was my first. We ended up in a rut, and I started initiating sex more and more often. I kept thinking I was making it easier for him to get in the mood by being enthusiastic when he did start something... BUT IT DIDN'T WORK LIKE THAT!!! He finally was able to put it into words recently... if it's always there, it's just TOO easy!

You might also try having a frank conversation BEFORE you do a 180 in your approach, cause when I tried the hard to get thing without talking to him, he thougth I really WASN'T in the mood. Out of respect, he backed off even when he WAS in the mood. Miscommunication sucks, by the way! SO... however you do it (words, lingerie or eye contact), make sure he knows 'slower' or 'we'll see' doesn't mean 'no'... THEN have fun playing hard to get, cause getting 'caught' is an awful lot of fun!

Oh, and I can relate to the insecurity thing. When you buy into the myth that guys always want it more than the girls, you feel like something's wrong that he 'isn't into you.' It's a lie. Look at all these posts. You just have to be patient and remember you love him, and need to respect his feelings... while making sure you get what you need too!

My advice? Get a vibrator for those days (or nights!) when you two just aren't on the same page. Let him know you love him, how great he makes you feel, and that he turns you on so much that sometimes you just need a release... and let him know you are trying to respect his feelings. You can also invite him to imagine what's going on in the other room while he is watching TV, come watch you, or come join you, BUT don't be disappointed if he doesn't. Just leave the door open to the idea... and maybe to the bedroom if no one else is home!

It might take him a while to warm up to a toy. At first my husband was very turned off, but lately he has been really great about kissing my neck and breasts while I use a toy on nights he doesn't feel like all out sex. Works pretty great, cause he doesn't feel pressured, and gets to enjoy me screaming his name (without too much work on his part), I still get off... and we are closer and more intimate on nights we are both in the mood.

Just don't worry. It will work out if you are patient and honest with each other. It took us a long time to work through some stuff, but if the rest of the relationship is good, and you know this is a person worth sticking by.... then it's worth the effort to figure it out.

exactly, everyone is saying it. its too easy if you want it too much.

if your able to make the sacrifice, hold off a week. even when he wants it, say you're not in the mood. make him want it bad. then when you guys do have sex, make it really good. tease him, show him why he should want you more. I remember when me and my boyfriend were talking to one of his friends (whose had much more experience then we've had) he said one of his best sexual relationships was with this girl that just said no all the time. it drove him crazy until he could finally have it.

and i know that when I'm on my period, I'll refuse sex. because its so hard for me to pleasure my man without getting pleasure back. it drives me crazy. and I don't feel comfortable having sex while on my period because it can be pretty heavy.

the sex we have once I'm finished my period is always AMAZING because he just wants it soooo bad by then.

also, something you could try is, if he doesn't want it, then just pleasure yourself. tell him that if he's not going to satify you, then you'll just do it yourself. some guys get really territorial if you suggest that they aren't the only thing that can pleasure you, and that might just give him a kick in the butt. And if you're feeling bold, pleasure yourself in front of him. might just make him want in on the action.