If a guy told me he slept with 15-20 people it would make me think a little but I have slept with about 11 or 12 people,i think that is a little much for a girl but I also think everyone has thier wild stage,and I know I had mine so. . .What about you,how many is too much?

I myself dont think it really matters. It only takes one wrong partner for std's or aids. So, how can we really say--too many. Every one has had the wild stage--as previous poster says--and some pple just cant say no. So do we hold them responsible for something they might not be able to control--i dont think we should. I think a person should listen to their heart--period. Everything else aside--listen to your heart.

Fatfamily is right,if you love the person you can set those things aside and they don't matter!

Before you find your handsome prince, sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs.

The numbers don't mean anything as numbers. The person you met and are attracted to/like/love has gotten where they are through the experiences they've had. If you can't accept their experiences, then your opinion on that person is illogical. Who they've been is part of who they are now.

Gd point I think anything over 15 is too much for a woman she would seem a bit second hand otherwise I know that seems mean but thats how I see it.

Ps im 16 and virgin so im not too sure as yt but thats what I feel like at the moment

Just remember, every time you give yourself to someone, you give a piece of your heart. I know that sounds stupid, but it really is true. Why else would we hurt so much when something ends or think about an ex when the relationship is long over? If you are with lots of people, there is less to offer the guy/gal that will be the one you spend the rest of your life with.

i diagree.Not that I am happy about it but I have had a one night stand and I didn't give them any piece of my heart.And also just bc I slept with 11 or 12 guys doesn't mean I have less to offer my lifelong partner,i think its the other way around.You have more experience plus you are free from wondering what else is out there,which lessens your chances of cheating and greatens the chance of love. . .Thats how I look at it.

My question is, why are you asking them how many people they've been with in the first place?

Do they have children out there somewhere?
Do they have stds?
Have they been abusive partners?
Have they been unfaithful partners?

Those, to me, are the questions that should be answered (though you don't exactly want to walk up to your man/woman one day and say, "hey, by the way, have you ever beaten anybody you've slept with?").

Asking the numbers question is just asking for a slap in the face, in my opinion. You can't do anything about who they slept with before you were together... If its' a high number, it will only make you insecure.

I was raised with ultraconservative views.
I would never be with a man that has slept with more than 10 people. Personally I believe over 5 is too many.
For myself I think over 3 is too many.

who cares how many people you sleep with, wether you're a girl or a boy. As long as you're keeping it safe, they go ahead and enjoy yourself. I dont get this whole "anything over 15 being too much"!! So 14 partners are okay, but somehow, 15 is not or 16 is not? It doesnt make sense at all.
Plus what's with the double standard that 15 is too much for a "woman" why? What's the difference? If a guy bases his opinion and feelings about you on the number of sex partners you've had, then he's not the guy for you ne how.
All this bs talk about a woman seeming "second hand" angers me off. Dont get me wrong ur entitled to ur opinion as shallow as it may be, I just feel sorry for the way you were brought up, cuz I feel these aren't your actual opinions, and that ur just saying what you've been told growing up.
Sex is natural, it's a part of life, it's meant to have and to enjoy as long as it's done safely.
Cheers to seeeeeeeeeex :wink:

Like the majority, I feel that a number is just that -- a number. However, I do feel that it can get a little out of hand.

Me and my fiancee's roommate has slept with over 100 girls -- 100! Can anyone tell me that's .N.O.T too many partners? The problem isn't that he's slept with over 100 women; the problem is that it is completely unhealthy and unsafe. Who knows what he's contracted. One girl got pregnant by him last year, and she had an abortion. Personally, if a guy told me he's been with more than 30 girls, i'd be freaked out. Maybe even 20. I would definitely not sleep with someone who's had over 100 partners - I wouldn't want to endanger my health for a night of sex.

But I do think it's important that you are open and honest with your sexual past .I.F you are in a monogomous, committed relationship. I just believe that the past defines who we are... Not necessarily meaning that if you've slept with "a lot" of people that you're a bad person... There are difficult situations that we all face, and sex is one of them. Not everyone is proud of their sexual past, but to at least let your partner know about it shows that you really care about his/her feelings.