First, most pple who talk about killin themselves never really do. It is usually a cry for pity. Second--if he did kill himself you would not be responsible for it, he would be. I know that is easy for me to say--but it is the truth.

It is a wonderful day when a woman finally realizes she is more important than the abuser. And you have just scaled a mighty tall and wide fence in your life. Please dont fall back off of it. .God bless you so good--you cant even bring yourself to worry for this man anymore. Try and put him in .God's hands and shake the dust off, so you can walk forward.

Thank u so much for the support and encourging words fatfam, it made me feel strong and good about myself. Im so scared he is really gonna kill himself though, it's so hard to tell with him he is so unperdictable.It's not that I would feel responsible if he killed him self because I know it wouldnt be my fault, I would just feel miserable that someone who I had such strong feelings for not only hurt me the way he did but also then gave up everything and killed himself. I dunno I mean I did all I could though so hopefully he will just come to his sences.

You know I have seen in my walking this life, that usually if it is a good thing for one--it is usually a good thing for the other. Maybe you wont see it but, if it is truly a .God thing he will find the help he needs also, and maybe the strength to overcome the weaknesses in his life too. Do you understand what I mean. When a person finally overcomes something--anything I believe it is always .God behind it--and .He works it for every one.

Bless you both--that you both may find a better life for yourselves.

Thank u so much. I really hope he gets the help he needs. He really is a good person deep down he really is. He just has such a horrible problem that turns him into a monster, I hope he gets rid of that monster one day.
Thanks agian for the support

I too have lived with abuse. It is not your fault if he hurts himself. Yes, he needs help but you cannot help him he needs professional help and I am sure that you have heard the line that he will change if you come back, ya, they change for a brief period of time and then it gets worse. Change your phone or cell#, tell your friends that you do not want to hear anything about him, you love him because to me, you never loose the love that you once had for someone but somehow it does not grow but you have lost the respect for him. Now is the time for you to both move on, I know that it is easier said than done as I have been their because we still care.
Have you thought about talking to his friends, family or possibly the police?
The best to you!

First of all, let me say I know how you feel, because I have been in the exact same situation before that you are in right now. After years of hearing that my ex was going to "kill himself". I finally got sick and tired of hearing it. At first I kept saying all the same things that you are saying about him and the situation. Then after awhile, that gets old real fast. The majority of people that run around threatening to kill themselves, never actually do it. They only threaten to do it for attention and pity so others will feel sorry for them. It's really a sad and pitiful way to be in my opinion, but that's just me. Anyway, one day he started up again on me while we were on the telephone talking. He started crying and threatening to kill himself if I did this, or if I did that or if I didn't do this or that, etc., etc., etc. My usual response and reaction would be to say i'm sorry and try to get the situation calmed down by begging him not to do it. That is exactly what he wanted from me. But not this particular day!!! For some reason, it just hit me that I was sick of all the threats. So, when he said the typical "i'm going to kill myself".......I said to him........."look, if that's what you feel like you need to do, then do it! I am not responsible for you or whether or not you kill yourself. That is between you and god". To say the least, that is not what he expected to hear out of me. So, he hung up the phone on me. It was really kinda funny. I broke it off w/ him for good that day and I never had to listen to all that crap again. I am so much happier now. You keep doing exactly what you need to do for yourself. You are only responsible for yourself and your own actions. Not anyone else. That his problem that he needs to deal with himself. All he wants is attention from people and for people to pity him.

Good luck to you!

The op may not read this but I want you all to know that if someone wants to off themselves there is nothing you or anyone can do to make them commit suicide.
Likewise , if a person wants to they cannot be stopped,interrupted but not stopped.
I had a much loved bil blow his brains out in 1974.
He was only 22 and seemed to have it all !
That is when I studied this,i needed to understand.

It is a myth that if they someone speaks of it that they will for sure noy.
It is true that it is usualy done without anyone knowing .

The survivors need to understand that the reasons are rea ony one.
Life was just too hard,every part off life wasn't working for too many days.