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brittany_163
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Bf Pressuring Me to Have Sex!!
Posted: 02-07-06 21:11pm
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Hey everyone! Well I just turned 15 the
other day, and my bf is 16, and he is
always pressuring me to have sex, but I
don't want to!! He's always saying omg
you're so boring just do it i'll pull out
right away it will only take 5 minutes.
It really bugs me thoguh bacsue I don't
want to. Whenever he says this to me, I
yell at him, and he says he's sorry, but
he still continues to do it!
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liwikiwi
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Posted: 02-07-06 21:27pm
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Hun, don't give in. If u don't want to
it's ur choice. And if he doesn't leave
you alone then that says alot about
him---and maybe he's not all he's cracked
up to be.
You'll know when you're ready and who you
want to be with the first time. Until
then you can find other things to do (if
ur into it) to tide him over....But def.
Don't just give in b/c you think you have
to
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ineedhelp16
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Posted: 02-07-06 22:11pm
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Hun...Dont do it. Thats the worst
possibly way you could lose your virginity
is by doing it when you're not ready.
You'll feel completely used and helpless.
Well I cant really say how you will feel
but thats how I felt and I wasnt ready.
My bf didnt pressure me but I realized I
def wasnt ready. Either tell him to quit
or break up with him. If he truly cares
for you that means that he wants the best
for you and that would include him
pressuring you. Good luck to you babe!
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michelle1981
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Posted: 02-07-06 23:31pm
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Never let a man tell you what you should
do....... Be strong and tell him
straight, either he respects you and waits
or he can find a new g/f to put out!
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sarahmarie
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Posted: 02-08-06 00:00am
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Lmao, sorry but 'it'll only take 5
minutes'?! Hahahahathats pathetic, god
he's desperate, whatever you do, dont give
in if youre not ready, if he really loves
you he'll understand
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mum2bubba
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Posted: 02-08-06 01:19am
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I agree with waht the others are saying,
if your not ready then don't give into
him. If he really likes you then he will
respect you and wait. He sounds like a
prick to me. You need to stand up to
yourslef and if he doesn't like that then
you have to dump him. You're 15 and he us
16 there is so much more to life then sex
especially so young. Best of luck :)
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 02-08-06 13:36pm
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So,did she do it or not?I hope not casue
that guy sounds like a real loser!
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 02-08-06 15:25pm
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Yea but its natural for a guy to want to
have sex with his girlfriend, u cant
expect him to be faithful to her if she
wont do it, or not keep asking. I say if
your not ready for the sexual part then
dont be in a relationship with him at all
yet, just be friends.
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~rubmybuddahbelly~
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Posted: 02-08-06 16:20pm
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I'd dump him... He sounds like a litle
horn dogg... If he cant respect how u
feel then you dont need him.
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diamondsz
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Posted: 02-08-06 18:52pm
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| allie_18
wrote: | | yea but its natural for a
guy to want to have sex with his
girlfriend, u cant expect him to be
faithful to her if she wont do it, or not
keep asking. I say if your not ready for
the sexual part then dont be in a
relationship with him at all yet, just be
friends. |
men have two hand they can go in a
bathroom and jackoff to get the pressure
out, im sorry allie I guess you havent met
a good guy one who really cares will
understand(may be a little frustrated) but
they will respect your wish or I wouldnt
be married right now!! I wasnt a virgin
but I didnt throw myself around I usually
waited till I felt ready whether that be a
week,month or several months. If this
guy cant wait well hun he just showed his
true colors, throw him out the door and
find a real man!
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Surrender
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brittany_163
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Posted: 02-08-06 19:49pm
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Hey well I still haven't let him do it, so
I doing pretty good. I talked to him
about it and said to stop it, and if he
kept telling me I was boring and was
pressuring me to have sex, I would break
up with him and that shut him up lol. So
for now, I think we're good, but I guess
we'll see after this weekend.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 02-09-06 08:09am
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Awesomw! You go girl! I wish I would
have waited. . .So be glad you are
sticking up for yourself.
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haliparot
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All of My Boyfriends Didn't Expect Me to Have Sex With Them
Posted: 02-10-06 02:44am
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| allie_18
wrote: | | yea but its natural for a
guy to want to have sex with his
girlfriend, u cant expect him to be
faithful to her if she wont do it, or not
keep asking. I say if your not ready for
the sexual part then dont be in a
relationship with him at all yet, just be
friends. |
i'm sorry allie I don't want to be
mean..Not all guys are like that...I
didn't have sex with my first boyfriend
and he had been faithful to me for 4
years...We broke up because I have to move
to another country...And my new amazing bf
didn't pressure me to have sex
either....He is all nice and is willing to
wait until I decided to...Even if it takes
up to marriage
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 02-10-06 12:34pm
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This is going to make me sound really bad
but...
My now husband who has knocked me up
twice wouldnt have sex with me for 2
months! (i wasnt the best behavior in
high school) all our friends make fun of
him for it cuz there were plenty of
opportunities but he wanted to wait.
Alotta good that did him, our first time
together I had wwwaaayyy to much vodka and
all I remember from that night is getting
in the bath tub (one of my friends told me
it takes the edge off of being high but in
my drunk state I remembered her saying
drinking) then I puked all night. Great
story I no its ok u can laugh at me, I do
me and my parties got me here but now that
im a mommy im much more responsible
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 02-10-06 14:08pm
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Yea im not saying they wont wait, well if
I did, thats not what I meant. I know
they will wait if they really want to be
with you, but its normal for guys to be in
a hurry thats all. You cant expect him to
wait forever or not to keep asking or
pressuring you now and then....Well I dont
think thats very fair to make him wait.
Just do it! Its not like its a bad thing.
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 02-10-06 14:14pm
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Omg I cant believe u are telling her to
just do it! U sound like the nike
commercial! Dont just do it you hav e to
b ready to embark on that portion of like
if she thinks shes not ready than shes
not.
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 02-10-06 14:22pm
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Oh lol but then she shouldnt be in a
relationship if shes not ready for
everything it includes. Yeah making him
wait a week or 2 ok but come on, if you
cant see yourself being ready to sleep
with him for another few months or a year
then whats the point, just be mates I say.
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michelle1981
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Posted: 02-10-06 14:28pm
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| allie_18
wrote: | | yea im not saying they wont
wait, well if I did, thats not what I
meant. I know they will wait if they
really want to be with you, but its normal
for guys to be in a hurry thats all. You
cant expect him to wait forever or not to
keep asking or pressuring you now and
then....Well I dont think thats very fair
to make him wait. Just do it! Its not
like its a bad
thing. |
girls can be in relationships without
having sexual relations with their bf!
Just because you're dating doesn't
guarantee them sex!
Brittany, do what you feel is best for
you! You choose your path in
life nobody else can.
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 02-10-06 14:39pm
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Only a few would stick around, if you dont
do it he'll end up leaving u. Thats the
truth, if you ask guys they will tell you
that, apart from a very small amount of
them who would stay. I dont think its
unreasonable.
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