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brittany_163

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Bf Pressuring Me to Have Sex!!
Posted: 02-07-06 21:11pm

Hey everyone! Well I just turned 15 the other day, and my bf is 16, and he is always pressuring me to have sex, but I don't want to!! He's always saying omg you're so boring just do it i'll pull out right away it will only take 5 minutes. It really bugs me thoguh bacsue I don't want to. Whenever he says this to me, I yell at him, and he says he's sorry, but he still continues to do it!
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liwikiwi

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Posted: 02-07-06 21:27pm

Hun, don't give in. If u don't want to it's ur choice. And if he doesn't leave you alone then that says alot about him---and maybe he's not all he's cracked up to be.

You'll know when you're ready and who you want to be with the first time. Until then you can find other things to do (if ur into it) to tide him over....But def. Don't just give in b/c you think you have to
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ineedhelp16

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Posted: 02-07-06 22:11pm

Hun...Dont do it. Thats the worst possibly way you could lose your virginity is by doing it when you're not ready. You'll feel completely used and helpless. Well I cant really say how you will feel but thats how I felt and I wasnt ready. My bf didnt pressure me but I realized I def wasnt ready. Either tell him to quit or break up with him. If he truly cares for you that means that he wants the best for you and that would include him pressuring you. Good luck to you babe!
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michelle1981

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Posted: 02-07-06 23:31pm

Never let a man tell you what you should do....... Be strong and tell him straight, either he respects you and waits or he can find a new g/f to put out!
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sarahmarie

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Posted: 02-08-06 00:00am

Lmao, sorry but 'it'll only take 5 minutes'?! Hahahahathats pathetic, god he's desperate, whatever you do, dont give in if youre not ready, if he really loves you he'll understand
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mum2bubba

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Posted: 02-08-06 01:19am

I agree with waht the others are saying, if your not ready then don't give into him. If he really likes you then he will respect you and wait. He sounds like a prick to me. You need to stand up to yourslef and if he doesn't like that then you have to dump him. You're 15 and he us 16 there is so much more to life then sex especially so young. Best of luck :)
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Melissa_20

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Posted: 02-08-06 13:36pm

So,did she do it or not?I hope not casue that guy sounds like a real loser!
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AlliE_18

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Posted: 02-08-06 15:25pm

Yea but its natural for a guy to want to have sex with his girlfriend, u cant expect him to be faithful to her if she wont do it, or not keep asking. I say if your not ready for the sexual part then dont be in a relationship with him at all yet, just be friends.
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~rubmybuddahbelly~

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Posted: 02-08-06 16:20pm

I'd dump him... He sounds like a litle horn dogg... If he cant respect how u feel then you dont need him.
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Posted: 02-08-06 18:52pm

allie_18 wrote:
yea but its natural for a guy to want to have sex with his girlfriend, u cant expect him to be faithful to her if she wont do it, or not keep asking. I say if your not ready for the sexual part then dont be in a relationship with him at all yet, just be friends.



men have two hand they can go in a bathroom and jackoff to get the pressure out, im sorry allie I guess you havent met a good guy one who really cares will understand(may be a little frustrated) but they will respect your wish or I wouldnt be married right now!! I wasnt a virgin but I didnt throw myself around I usually waited till I felt ready whether that be a week,month or several months. If this guy cant wait well hun he just showed his true colors, throw him out the door and find a real man!
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Surrender

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Posted: 02-08-06 19:40pm

Still no baby diamondsz?
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brittany_163

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Posted: 02-08-06 19:49pm

Hey well I still haven't let him do it, so I doing pretty good. I talked to him about it and said to stop it, and if he kept telling me I was boring and was pressuring me to have sex, I would break up with him and that shut him up lol. So for now, I think we're good, but I guess we'll see after this weekend.
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Melissa_20

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Posted: 02-09-06 08:09am

Awesomw! You go girl! I wish I would have waited. . .So be glad you are sticking up for yourself.
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haliparot

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All of My Boyfriends Didn't Expect Me to Have Sex With Them
Posted: 02-10-06 02:44am

allie_18 wrote:
yea but its natural for a guy to want to have sex with his girlfriend, u cant expect him to be faithful to her if she wont do it, or not keep asking. I say if your not ready for the sexual part then dont be in a relationship with him at all yet, just be friends.



i'm sorry allie I don't want to be mean..Not all guys are like that...I didn't have sex with my first boyfriend and he had been faithful to me for 4 years...We broke up because I have to move to another country...And my new amazing bf didn't pressure me to have sex either....He is all nice and is willing to wait until I decided to...Even if it takes up to marriage
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Posted: 02-10-06 12:34pm

This is going to make me sound really bad but...
My now husband who has knocked me up twice wouldnt have sex with me for 2 months! (i wasnt the best behavior in high school) all our friends make fun of him for it cuz there were plenty of opportunities but he wanted to wait. Alotta good that did him, our first time together I had wwwaaayyy to much vodka and all I remember from that night is getting in the bath tub (one of my friends told me it takes the edge off of being high but in my drunk state I remembered her saying drinking) then I puked all night. Great story I no its ok u can laugh at me, I do me and my parties got me here but now that im a mommy im much more responsible
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AlliE_18

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Posted: 02-10-06 14:08pm

Yea im not saying they wont wait, well if I did, thats not what I meant. I know they will wait if they really want to be with you, but its normal for guys to be in a hurry thats all. You cant expect him to wait forever or not to keep asking or pressuring you now and then....Well I dont think thats very fair to make him wait. Just do it! Its not like its a bad thing.
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Posted: 02-10-06 14:14pm

Omg I cant believe u are telling her to just do it! U sound like the nike commercial! Dont just do it you hav e to b ready to embark on that portion of like if she thinks shes not ready than shes not.
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AlliE_18

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Posted: 02-10-06 14:22pm

Oh lol but then she shouldnt be in a relationship if shes not ready for everything it includes. Yeah making him wait a week or 2 ok but come on, if you cant see yourself being ready to sleep with him for another few months or a year then whats the point, just be mates I say.
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michelle1981

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Posted: 02-10-06 14:28pm

allie_18 wrote:
yea im not saying they wont wait, well if I did, thats not what I meant. I know they will wait if they really want to be with you, but its normal for guys to be in a hurry thats all. You cant expect him to wait forever or not to keep asking or pressuring you now and then....Well I dont think thats very fair to make him wait. Just do it! Its not like its a bad thing.

girls can be in relationships without having sexual relations with their bf! Just because you're dating doesn't guarantee them sex!

Brittany, do what you feel is best for you! You choose your path in life nobody else can.
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AlliE_18

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Posted: 02-10-06 14:39pm

Only a few would stick around, if you dont do it he'll end up leaving u. Thats the truth, if you ask guys they will tell you that, apart from a very small amount of them who would stay. I dont think its unreasonable.
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