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Q: Anyone Lost a Parent/loved One to Suicide?

asked by: collegegrl3 on February 6th, 2006

New User

I was just wondering if anyone has ever lost anyone they were close to-to suicide? I lost my dad a few months ago to suicide, and he was my best friend and the only person that I told everything to and the only one who made my life great. He always had the right things to say and always made me happy. I just wanted to post this question because its not a topic on the website, if you look up suicide on here.....It comes up with abortion stuff. I just wanted to know I guess how you all are doing because I know its the hardest thing in the world. Also, grieving is not all that easy too. I am only 20 some years old and I have had to deal with tough issues but nothing like this. It is sometimes hard too because I was the one who came home from college the day he did it and I was the one who found him.
I'm okay right now but I was definitly depressed weeks after it. And one more thing--my mom is already dating people and going on weekend trips with different men--call me "old fashioned" or traditional but I think that is just wrong (b/c its just too soon)and I really don't talk to her as much but I never really was close with her to begin with since I always told my dad everything.
Anyways, ill stop rambling but I was just curious about how you all are doing and how you grieve because I never really talk about it with anyone.

Replies(6)

Amber28

replied on February 13th, 2006

Experienced User

Hi "collegegirl3" firstly I want to say how sorry iam to hear about your dad, I cant imagine what you must be going through.
My friend also found her dad when he commited suicide. She too went through a pretty rough time. Her mum had moved on at time of her dads suicide due to the break up but my friend too found this disturbing at times, his name was also the same as her fathers which added an extra sting to it.
Please find someone to talk about this with, help share the load alittle.
Your in my prays
amber

collegegrl3

replied on February 13th, 2006

New User

Thank You

Thank you for your comment, that was so sweet of you to comment on my topic and tell me about your friend. I do talk about it once in awhile with people, but I try to just avoid the subject. Anyways, thank you again so very much! Take care!

savanah8

replied on August 8th, 2008

New User

I know exactly how you feel. My Dad commited suicide 17 months & 1 day ago today. I heard that sometimes the 2 nd yr. is the hardest, & that is proving to be true! Like you ,my Dad was my best friend & I could talk to him about anything. I miss Him SOO MUCH!!!!!!!!! I want him back so bad I can't stand it!!!!! I haven't been to the cemetary in months because I want to avoid the "break-down". I STILL can't believe he's gone!! I will be 40 on Sept.3 & it is still hard for me! You're so young, Ifeel for you! Michelle

savanah8

replied on August 8th, 2008

New User

write me!!!!!

Whenever you need to "talk" write me. I'm having a REAL problem dealing w/this! I dround myself in beer & wine to escape the awfull pain. I'm sure my husband doesn't understand that.......But he's never lost a parent........especially like I have!~ Take care of yourself....& remember, it had NOTHING to do w/you!!!! AND your Dad IS in heavan. Write me back & tell me how He did it. My Dad used a gun.

seasonal31

replied on February 2nd, 2009

New User

My father also committed suicide. Unlike the others he was not my best friend quite the oposite, he was an alcholic who made loving him very difficult. I just wanted my father to be a real dad, one that I could talk to and enjoy spending time with. I never lost hope of this happening, but since his suicide I have been lost because now I can't hope any more. My father hung himself with his belt.

twinklestar2009

replied on August 21st, 2009

New User

My dad to hung himself 4 years ago and i still miss him very much, i also found him and i was 16 when it happend. i think suicide is a very hard thing to deal with and sometimes i feel my dad didnt love me because of what he did and others times i feel the oppisite and think i didnt bother enough with him and so maybe he thought i didnt love him.

i miss him so much

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