Problems Maintaining an Erection during Intercourse Posted: 02-05-06 16:17pm
I am in a long distance relationship where
I do not get to see my partner very often.
Last month, she was in town for 4 days, so
we spent all 4 days together. On the first
day, we had sex 4 times, the next day we
had sex twice and on the third day we only
had oral sex.
We tried to do it the third day, but I was
unable to reach a full erection. Well,
thats not entirely true. During the
foreplay, I had a full erection, but after
I got my condom on, I started to lose it.
Ive never had a problem with condoms, it
was the same brand/type Ive always used.
The fourth day I was also unable to
perform. I think it may have been because
of what happened the day before, but it
was frusterating for me, and it made her
think that I was no longer attracted to
her.
Im only 21 years old. I do not do drugs or
smoke, although the third night I did have
a few drinks, and I was a bit tipsy. I am
a bit overwieght, I dont know if that
makes a difference or not though. I read a
few other threads about being nervous and
how that could stop someone from reaching
a full erection, but the first time it
happened I wasnt nervous at all. Im
wondering if I should be seriously
concerned about this, or what.
Ever since that, she has had a few talks
with me because she doesnt believe that Im
still attracted to her, or it was
something about her that made it happen,
and Id just like to be able to quell her
insecurities.
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Sexual Health - Men Answer A380 Posted: 02-22-06 08:43am
Having sex with your girlfriend is not
evidence that you love her and vica versa.
Problems during sexual intercourse can
disturb your relationship very seriously.
Your girlfriend thinks that you are no
longer attached to her and that’s why
you can’t have sex with her. Only YOU
know the truth; you might come to
recognize that you either DON’T LIKE or
CAN’T HAVE sex with her. I think that
another attempt for sexual intercourse
will solve the mystery. Additionally,
some men have a hard time maintaining an
erection with a condom. Perhaps you can
try a micro-thin variety. If the
emotional and spiritual bond between two
of you is strong you both will solve your
sexual problems. Your weight may be
causing a problem, too, and you can do
something about it by altering your diet
and increasing daily exercise.
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