How to Get Motivated?

Sorry to hear that you feel this way and that things are going the way that they are.

I read a very inspiring book the other day and I do feel motivated. Its called "notes from a friend" by anthony robbins.
I thought it might be all americanised cheering and so on - but I was pleasantly surprised by the content of simple and practical little tidbits and ways of changing your perception.

I reccomend it - you can get it from amazon or ebay - probably other places as well. - its just a thin book, and I read just one chapter per day - its less than 100 pages.

I hope this is of interest to you.

If you want more info about this and other stressbusting or motivating stuff, please go to my website at www.Nottingham-therapy.Co. Uk (all lower case letters).
The site has just started but every week ther is new stuff being added for the next year. Look out for loads of free stuff.

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Hi, I read ur posting and everything u said made me feel like someone else out there feels the same as me, I feel the same I cannot get motivated I have 2 children my partner works all the times im forever on my own with the children, I never want to do anything, some times I never want to get dressed, sounds really lazy and I tell people and they just say im lazy and need to sort myself out, its hard, I really feel for you, maybe we could help each other out here, we're both in the same boat so maybe if we do a day by day diary to each other and help each other to get motivated. :d

The reason why you have no motivation is because your brain associates motvation with fear, or pain. Your brain is trying to protect you, but unfortunately has the message mixed up. Fear from what though? Fear from actually working toward a goal, fear from all the work involved. It is much more pleasurable to do nothing because your brain associates procrastination with pleasure,and tells you that this is the better way to go. What you have to do is reassociate or reprogram your brain by
1) accepting and acknowledging the problem.
2) tell your brain, thank you for trying to help me, but by you protecting me.....And write 10 reasons how its hurting you.
3) then write 10 reasons how you would benefit from a different attitude.
You have to associate hard work and hard motivation with pleasure, so much pleasure that it would pain you to procrastinate and do nothing. Convince yourself that procrastinating is another day off your life wasted,... It has to equal pain.

Hey there

i can understand what you mean, I find to motavate me I start my day with a nice shower (sounds nuts it really helps) no matter if i'm home or going out for the day I dress in nice cloths casual but nice and put on some makeup, by this time i'm feeling better.

Try these too

- listen to uplifting music of your choice
- go shopping you don't even have to buy just walking around a mall window shopping and then getting a hotchocolate or iced coffee is great and bring a friend too

- watch or rent a comedy show, standup, etc.... Laughter is the best thing

- go or rent a favorite movie

- treat yourself, either to a nice lunch out or chocolate bar, ice cream whatever makes you smile

- call a friend and talk that really helps me I call up my best friend and we just laugh and remember things and have a great time

- surf the net for ideas, music, books anything fun I love that


if you do things that make you happy and smile soon you will find taht your feeling so much better and you will feel motavated again but give yourself time it takes time

also getting a good nights rest will help, try to go to bed at the same tiems every night and wake up same time every day, you can even try over the counter sleep aids if you need to occasionally

then and first I suggest talking this over with your doc, there are great anti d's out there that can help and great meds and other ideas that the doc may have always always start there!


Good luck hope you feel better!

I have been unmotivated for so long, I can't even remember. I used to be a track star in high school and full of energy. Heck, I could go on 3 hours sleep on a regular basis. Then I turned 19 and developed depression during my freshman year of college. It was such a struggle to stay motivated and happy. I tried many drugs and used therapy on a regular basis. I have been in the funk more of less for 14 years. I did finish college but now have had many jobs and just decided a few years ago to be the stay at home dad. I do love it but I have trouble keeping myself motivated and getting everything done is so hard for me. I still take medication and excercise 5 days a week. The medicine has made me blow up like a balloon and I now weigh 200 on a 5'10 frame. I don't know what I will do next year when my son goes to school full time and I have to go back to work. I am terrified that I wont be able to do the jobs out there even with my 4 year degree and a fairly positve outlook. Can I be motivated enough, can I do the job and stay focused. I am really sweating it and I don't want to let my wife and family down. I know how you feel and it is so scary sometimes. I do hate winter though and maybe spring will help us all.

Does anyone have any ideas as to how I can motivate myself into finding something to do with my life something that makes me happy

i am 16 and interested in exploring africa and volunteering there

Hello everyone,
i want to thank you for your replies, I am reading them, keep coming, it does help!