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lyingdownalone
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Location: Canada
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a Baby And School
Posted: 08-11-03 15:30pm
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Im 17 and pregnant. Im happy that im
having a baby but im worried about school.
I completed high school but i've
always dreamed of going to university.
Has anyone had to deal with this? What
did you do? If you went to school, how
old was your child? Was it hard?
Please help!
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Misty
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Location: Nova Scotia
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Help
Posted: 08-12-03 10:24am
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Well I haven't done that before but you
can still have your child and go to
university my friends mom used to take her
kids with her during university! Or
theres night school type thing - or you
can take it over the internet there are
lots of choices. Hope it helped  good luck!
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lyingdownalone
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Location: Canada
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Thanks
Posted: 08-12-03 11:52am
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Thanks so much. It makes me feel better
knowing I can still get on with my life.
My mom and my aunts all had children young
but none of them ever went back to school
so I had no one to ask. Thanks again!
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HongKongChick
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Location: Oklahoma
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Posted: 08-12-03 12:45pm
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Yes anything is possible. Sweetheart.
U are young, u shouldnt have to be tied
down. Even if u have a child, that does
not mean u cant do anything else.
But........The reality is that a child is
a huge reponsibilty, and a child needs
24/7 care! So are u ready for that?
It is tough to go to college and have to
take care ur baby at the same time. And
the internet courses? I dont recommand
it. Why? Coz most likely if you are at
home and taking care of your baby, u are
super tired most of the time, and wouldnt
do ur school work for one day, and then
comes the second time, third...Etc...U do
the math.
My suggestion is that unless u have super
strong will power and strength, I think
it's real real real tough. And unless ur
family or the baby's dad will help, if u
are a single mom, it's very tough.
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Mesmerizeu15
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Location: Pittsburgh,PA
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I Dont Agree!!
Posted: 08-12-03 14:47pm
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I dont agree with hong kong chick....I am
a teen mother and I am still in high
school...I am going to college in
january...If the father is around you and
him need to work something out. I live
with family and attend school during the
day and my bf watches him. My son goes to
daycare for 1 hour while my bf goes to
work and then I pick him up. If I can do
it at 16 you can do it better!! Good
luck!
Aol sn: mesmerizeu15
stacie
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trevino61601
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Joined: 07 Aug 2003
Posts: 88
Location: Michigan
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Re: a Baby And School
Posted: 08-12-03 15:10pm
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| lyingdownalone
wrote: | | im 17 and pregnant. Im
happy that im having a baby but im worried
about school. I completed high school
but i've always dreamed of going to
university. Has anyone had to deal
with this? What did you do? If
you went to school, how old was your
child? Was it hard? Please
help! |
i am completely against what hongkongchick
says. I am a mom of a 4 year old. I
didn't have her as young as you... But
your opportunities in life, if you are
strong willed do not change. There are
actually bonuses to having a child and
going to a univ. Most colleges require
you claim your parents income until the
age of 25. For most young adults, this
isn't feesable as most don't live with
their parents until that age. If your
parents have a high income it makes it
very hard to get financial aid. If you
meet certain criteria however, you may use
your own income. You also qualify for
married/parental housing which is usually
much nicer than dorms which you are
required to live in for the first year.
You will also get help with daycare. I'm
not saying this is a bonus and have a
child to get a free/lower priced
education, but certainly don't give up
your goals and dreams due to a child. You
cannot better your life, or the life of
your child with no education. I strongly
commend your will to do better for both of
you.
Good luck with everything and keep your
head up! 
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lyingdownalone
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Location: Canada
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Thanks!
Posted: 08-12-03 15:13pm
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Thanks so much mesmerizeu15 and
trevino61601 ! You've given me great
hope. I am a single mom but my family is
willing to help me out. I guess i'll
wait until my child is atleast a year old
before I apply to a university. Im happy
to know that it is possible to be a mom
and a student! Thanks sooo much!
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trevino61601
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Location: Michigan
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Posted: 08-12-03 15:47pm
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How far along are you? If it is early in
your pregnancy you should try to get some
credits in before the stress hits. just an idea. Keep
me posted! If you ever need to talk....
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HongKongChick
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Location: Oklahoma
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Posted: 08-13-03 15:42pm
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| hongkongchick
wrote: |
my suggestion is that unless u have super
strong will power and strength, I think
it's real real real tough. And unless
ur family or the baby's dad will help, if
u are a single mom, it's very
tough. |
i just wanna point out that what I said
was pretty much what others said. Reread
this and u will know I mean that if u have
family and the baby's dad's help, it is
possible...
I think some ppl need to reread what
others said before making judgements.
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trevino61601
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Location: Michigan
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Posted: 08-14-03 07:50am
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| hongkongchick
wrote: | | hongkongchick
wrote: |
my suggestion is that unless u have super
strong will power and strength, I think
it's real real real tough. And unless
ur family or the baby's dad will help, if
u are a single mom, it's very
tough. |
i just wanna point out that what I said
was pretty much what others said.
Reread this and u will know I mean that if
u have family and the baby's dad's help,
it is possible...
I think some ppl need to reread what
others said before making
judgements. |
our point is you don't need anyone's help;
parents, the father, etc. If you have a
goal in life you can accomplish it all on
your own, with or without a child! Women
do it everyday!!!
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lskalick
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Location: Iowa
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It Is Sooooo Doable
Posted: 08-15-03 08:47am
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I had a son while I was in college, and
quit for a while. But, I went back and
got my bs. It can be done. I know
there are so many out there who have done
it better than me. Use everyone and
everything you need to. This is not only
important for you, but for your childs
future. I also beleive that the best
time to go to college is right now.
Don't wait or I fear that you will never
go. Life just sometimes seems to get in
the way and our futures change forever.
For me it was nice because my son doesn't
remember that time. It was hard because
my parents who were wonderful lived 2.5
hrs. Away and I had no one there to help
me. I did it on my own. Looking back I
don't know how I did it. If I can do it,
anyone can.
Laura
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lyingdownalone
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Location: Canada
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Thank
Posted: 08-16-03 15:26pm
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Thanks eveyone for all of your advice. I
was afraid that I wasnt going to be able
to go to university or college being 17
and 3months pregnant. Its good to know
because I really do want the best future
for me and my child. :d you're all
the best!
Thanks
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