First times can very depending on your age, physical readiness etc. First of all the thing that most jumped out at me was that he wasn't willing to discuss lubrication with you. Ignore him go buy it yourself and tell him no sex if you don't use it. Lube doesn't just help with sensation, it helps to prevent tearing, infection, dryness and of course makes things easier over all. Also I hope our using some sort of safe sex. After my first time I bled for a few days, nothing to heavy but still it was there. This was because my partner at the time, didn't take the time to arouse me enought to make me ready. A first timer (or the first few times) your partner needs to take his time, arouse your body stretch you slowly with fingers first and then only when you say it's okay try for penetration and if you say know he should stop immediately! If he doesn't then his concern is all abou his satisfaction and not yours. I'm gussing that your young as was I my best advice is this give your body at least a week to heal. Only then should you think about trying again and then only if you feel up to it. If he can't wait or gives you a story about how his body can't handle waiting then maybe you should think about who your with.

I don't want you to feel lectured just wanted you to know from someone who's been there how things should go. If he cares about you he should be willing to do whateve it takes to make you comfortable. If you have any questions or just want to talk please just drop me a private messaage i'd be happy to help and I promise not to udge.

Take care and be safe

First times can very depending on your age, physical readiness etc. First of all the thing that most jumped out at me was that he wasn't willing to discuss lubrication with you. Ignore him go buy it yourself and tell him no sex if you don't use it. Lube doesn't just help with sensation, it helps to prevent tearing, infection, dryness and of course makes things easier over all. Also I hope our using some sort of safe sex. After my first time I bled for a few days, nothing to heavy but still it was there. This was because my partner at the time, didn't take the time to arouse me enought to make me ready. A first timer (or the first few times) your partner needs to take his time, arouse your body stretch you slowly with fingers first and then only when you say it's okay try for penetration and if you say know he should stop immediately! If he doesn't then his concern is all abou his satisfaction and not yours. I'm gussing that your young as was I my best advice is this give your body at least a week to heal. Only then should you think about trying again and then only if you feel up to it. If he can't wait or gives you a story about how his body can't handle waiting then maybe you should think about who your with.

I don't want you to feel lectured just wanted you to know from someone who's been there how things should go. If he cares about you he should be willing to do whateve it takes to make you comfortable. If you have any questions or just want to talk please just drop me a private messaage i'd be happy to help and I promise not to udge.

Take care and be safe

He is actually very caring and we are not too young (i am turning 25 soon) but I appreciate your response. I'll have lube ready next time, and hopefully it will go well...

Hey, just thought i'd mention that it hurt for me for about a month before it stopped hurting during. And it hurt when he first entered for another month or two aswel.
Also, my best friend had very severe pain and it didn't stop for about 6 months when she had sex with her partner.
Don't give up, it will get better.
Good luck to you and your boyfriend.

When I lost mine it hurt me real bad. When he entered, first it pained like hell .I almost fell someone pierced me with a knife.But it reduced during later part of sex act.I bled a little. Once if was over and I reached home(i was staying with my mom then and I was nearly 17 then) my mom noticed the way I was walking she asked me whether I was having menstrual cramps lol. I could not walk properly for almost a day coz of pain below my waist.We did not have sex for a week.Next time we did it after a week it was with lot of lube and still I had a little pain. I had little pain while having sex for almost first 15 times then it reduced .

My first time didn't really hurt at all, I don't know why, and I didn't bleed either. The only reason it hurt a little is because I tensed up, I was scared it would hurt. Just relax and use plenty of lube.

I lost my virginity when I was 17, the guy was a friend and he was rough and uncaring. I bled alot as well. And to this day everytime my current boyfriend puts it in the first time its still a little sore (mind you I havent had alot of sex since my first experience) but it does get better with time, trust me :)

I appreciate the replies. The only way it works right now is with me on top...And it still hurts a bit. I'll give it time.

Hey I lost mine when I was 11 (not by choice) then when I was 16 I bled the first 16 times I did it with my partner, no matter what I did nothing helped then it slowly got better the bleeding slowed and after 5 months it was fine everyone is different so just take your time and try things that you think will help, just take it really slow.

My first time I tried to act all hard like it wasnt nothing like I was so ready but on the inside I was screaming.It hurt so bad while he was on top so he mad me get on top and it actually eased the pain I was feeling it turned into a feel good kinda pain you know what im saying? I did bleed but just the first night after that the pain was gone the next day and the bleeding stopped also.He may have been to big for you.

Omg it was so painful and bled somuch during my first and second time. But after that no more problem. It was still painful at first penetration after that but not more blood. I think aftewards it had to do with the anatomy of his organ (too wide head) it will get better be sure of so

same with me I remember pressure, a pop that hurt a little. But nothing too bad, and I had no bleeding as well. I will admit I was nervous and I was tense which made penetration even harder for him. It will get better though just be patient.

The first time and times is very strange. I would use some lube next time it will make it a lot easier and enjoyable for both of you :) after a couple times you will love sex!

I didn't bleed and it didn't hurt at all my first time; we did it spoon style which is the shallowest form of sex out there; he aroused me plenty and i'm naturually lubricated, and everything went smoothly (we used a condm because I wasn't on the pill yet).

My hymen didn't break until almost a year later, during some shower sex. My hymen was just a strip of skin in the middle of my vaginal entrance, so it normally just slid to the side when we had sex; but occastionally it would get caught and of course that hurt a lot! So i'd have to pull it to the side. Then one time in the shower I felt the pain that came from it being caught, but then it went away. I was like "okay, it slid to the side by itseld, good." but afterwards, we were standing around in the shower and he asked me if I was getting my period and I said "no!' and looked and there was quite an amount of blood. I felt down there and sure enough, the skin strip had finally broken!

I waited till I was married to have sex. I didnt bleed... The doctor said that my hymen must have broken during childhood... But sex was painful for the first six months. When I told my ob-gyn it hurt she said that some women never enjoy sex but here I am two years later and it feels good now. Make sure you use lube tho. You just dont know what a difference it makes.