You may not love him like that anymore but I assure you that you still care about him or you would not care about his feelings. caca happens, and there is nothing you can do to stop it.You have let it run its course and now it's time to take action.If you stay inthe relationship you are only hurting yourselves and keeping each other from opportunities out in the world.Just muster up some courage and like you said "spit it out". It will be hard because your thoughts will not become a reality but it will only be for the better! Hope I could help!

Well, I did it...We went to the counselor this week & she flat out told him that when someone's as fed up as I am that counseling's pretty much a moot point. She did say that since he was sooo hesitant to agree to the divorce that we separate & get to know ourselves & just take care of us individually.

I told him the only way he's getting a chance is if we start from scratch--and he's gonna have to prove himself to me. We're selling the house, are separating, and I can be free to do what I need to do to make myself happy.

He said that I should give him a chance this time because he didn't mean it the last 3 or 4 times--but he does this time. I basically said "whatever"...I'll let him think he's changed and he'll see that i'm over this relationship. I took my ring off and everything & i've never felt better.

I guess you just get to that point of not wanting to deal with the bs & lies anymore. He's got his 30 days, then i'm filing the paperwork...You can't change overnight, and I know him...He hasn't changed at all.

Hi there to all! Isn't that strange how they say that they will change and it is great if they do change for two weeks. I am a person of experience here, I am on my fourth marriage. I have learned that if I am not happy that I am the only one that can change it. You never lose the feeling that you have for someone but somehow it never grows what you do lose is respect, I feel. I was taught that if you make your bed that you lay in it but I have learned that when those sheets get dirty or they are not good anymore that you have to wash them or get rid of them. I do not feel that marriage counselors help that much. I feel that you just need to be strong sit him or her down and say, I do not want to hurt you but this relationship is not going anywhere, I am not happy and it is time for a change and let him/her know one or both has to leave. It is always strange to me that sometimes couples get along better without that piece of paper and their are times when that ring feels like an anchor. I am glad you cane here to vent! I am here for you!
The best to you all!
Keep us posted on what happens.