Its ok, it happens. Remember you only reach climax when you are excited. So when you masturbate you know what pleases you so you reach an orgasm. But during intercourse it’s possible that...

1) you might not be satisfied with your partner

2) he sucks in bed

if not above then

3) its you, talk to your doctor.

And remember sex is not a chore it should be fun thing between you and your partner, so try something new during sex. Maybe new positions or new way to do something. Have fun!

I dont climax during intercourse with my husband either but you should know that there is nothing wrong with you. It also does not mean that your partner sucks. According to Dr.'s a very high percentage of woman do not climax with intercourse and it simply because we need direct stimulation. Think about it when you masturbate you more than likely massage the top of the clit. And unless your boyfriend is rubbing his dick right on top of it you more than likely dont feel anything. Hear are some thing's that worked for me.


1) I found some great lub. It never gets sticky and feels great...Very silky. It's called "wet platinum"

2) during intercourse don't be afraid to pitch in. Or to direct him in doing so.

3) relax you are concentrating to hard on climaxing. Remember....Good thing's cum to those who wait!!!


4) try this next time during sex:
dogy style is a great position for deep penetration so you should be able to feel him moving inside you and at the same time you can play with you're clit. Long story short you should achieve the big :-o


hope it works out :-)

I can only orgasim through clitoral stimulation. I enjoy sex with my partner but I can not reach the big o! I know that thats common but it still sucks! Am I lazy for not feeling like stimulating my clit while having vaginal sex at the same time? It just seems like too much work but I guess its worth a shot right?

I use to masturbate a lot, using toys and all. I found it very hard to orgasm with my bf at first. I was so use to using a toy or doing it myself.. I knew the right spots, he didn't. I eventually threw out my toys and quit masturbating. I showed my bf the right spots and over time how to please me on what I liked. Now I usually have at least 1 orgasm each time, and that's not just from clitoral stimulation.

So maybe all you need to do is show your bf your spots and not masturbate so much. Get use to his touch instead of your own.

I can't climax through intercorse either.I feel its the mens fault! Think about it! If the majority of women cant climax through intercorse why do we feel somethings wrong with us.

Maybe we expect too much.

Yes it looks good on t.V but maybe its not supposed be that way.I mean I hv only been with 2 men but from what most of the women I know.Men are only good for 1 think when it comes to sex and that is to give a women good an I mean damn good oral sex.

I think it's pretty much all in your mindset during sex wither nor not you hit the big o! And the position. When im in a crappy mood I never orgasm any way we try to do it. When i'm relaxed and not even thinking about the orgasm it hits me when I least suspect it! I used to be able to orgasm in the missionary position, but now I can only seem to orgasm from girl on top. I think missionary just takes longer to hit the spot, but girl on top hits it right away and I can orgasm multiple times.

But some peoples problems could be the positioning of the clitoris, and the way is penis is going in!

The best position to achieve orgasm during vaginal intercourse is woman on top. When the woman is on top she can control the speed, deepness of thrusting, and how her clitoris rubs on the man (which is the part needed to climax). It is true that nearly 70% of all women cannot achieve orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation.

Look at it this way. The head of a man's penis is equivalent to the woman's clitoris. These two parts, the clitoris and man's penis head, both started out as one in the same until hormones told the developing fetus which it should develope into. How many men have you know who could climax just buy stimulating the bottom of the penile shaft? How many men would be completely satisfied just by the woman massaging, licking, and sucking the base of the penis, an nowhere else??? Very few would, if any at all. This is because the most sensitive part of a man's penis is the head. Just as the most sensitive part on a woman is her clitoris.

Ladies, if your men aren't giving your clitoris adequate attention, you may want to relay this bit of info to them. Ask them how they would like for you to only stimulate the base of their penises. Maybe when you can make a connection between the clitoris and the penis they will have a better understanding of what you need.

Very well put teach!!!!!!!!! Very informative!

Ladies, ladies, all this talk about reaching nirvana!


My pennies' worth.


Is orgasm only achieved through penetration? Absolutely not!


Is ogasm the "final destination?" absolutely not!


Can one achieve orgasm all the time? Absolutely!


Your fraustrations ladies are as old as the oldest profession in the world (no pun intended)

what can I say?


From the postings I have just read, I can feel the frustrations in you, my boyfriend is not good in bed, he is small etc.. This has nothing to do with your wanting to climax..Now we're getting steamy here.


If I may, let's take a few steps back to where we are at peace with ourselves.. This is a place where we have no pre-conceived ideas about what sex is, about our past experiences and about our anxiety to "get is better" this time around.


Once you have found that place, take a deep breath, (some of you may be smiling already).


Before we go ahead, lemme just add by saying I am a man, a very virile man for that.. Nothing fascinates me more than the female body, just a mere look at female lingere is enough to send one's blood rate racing through the roof.


There's nothing finer on planet earth than the scent of a woman,.. Did you know that you have well over 100 erogenous zones on your bodies?


With these odds on you, how can you possibly fail to reach nirvana?


Sex is not about thrushing in and out for 10minutes, or however long the male counterpart will last.. It's got nothing to do with size either (ahem).


Again, I digress, but please bear with me, you can have your orgasm and still wake up as refreshed as cinderella on her honeymoon (didn't they live happily ever-after?)
discard the notion that, in order to orgasm, you have to be thrushed into!


How about foreplay, and by this I do not mean the musicians.. I mean the whole 9 yards.. If you have been having problems climaxing this long, how about investing in some quality time away from the madding crowd, do the bubble or jet steam bath, rose petals, wine, ambient music, dim lights, and some exploration of your bodies?


How about meditation and exercise..Yoga is always excellent for energizing those 100 zones I alluded to earlier.


Now, for the 40minute orgasm, and without penetration at all.. (next time!)

in light, love and laughter.



Light weaver

:d ive done that and yes it works but not for intercourse.Thank for your commen it was kind of re-freshing

Well he probably isnt mentally stimulating your mind or physically stimulating your body...(4-play) both of these things really matter...Mentally because you have to want it to orgasm and physically you r body has to be ready to release. Two and two go together because when he is loving your body down...You will be made mentally ready to take it... I have reached a whole other level of something greater than orgasms.. I call them obe's out of body experiences. You guys just need tim thats all...

Ok I know how everyone feels. Ican only have an orgasem if he fingers me but other wise forget it. We have tried toys but even that dosent work. He goes in like 2sec while I am just getting started. Its really starting to frustrate me..

A. It sounds like either your partner is yound and bad, or he needs to see a doctor... If either problem was fixed you would be better off.
B. Sorry, if you are under 25 you probably won't orgasm from intercourse. That's what I have been lead to understand.

Oh really!!! Darn im 21

When me and my boyfriend first were together-he used to go before I was even started too, but then he realized that he needed to control it, so I think your boyfriend needs to know that too. Also, 31% of women are able to orgasm by intercourse alone and I dont know how the heck they do it. Definitely do a lot of foreplay so you can get a head start and you will be aroused when he enters you. Then you definitely have to touch yourself-dont wait around for your man to give you what you want. Help yourself. You can do it.