Alright, so heres the deal. I'm 18, and a
virgin. My new girlfriend knows this and
is fine with it (shes only been with 2
guys herself). The problem is, that
everytime we get to the point where we're
about to have sex, I totally lose my
erection. I become extremely nervous,
i.E. My heart starts beating really fast
and I almost feel sick. This has happened
like 5 times now and it's really starting
to get to me. I want to lose my virginity
to this girl but I literally can't seem to
be able to do it. I have no problem
maintaining an erection when she gives me
oral at all. On a side note, it seems
that my libido is really low compared to
the typical 18 year old guy. I just don't
seem to want it that much, and i've never
had a wet dream in my entire life. I've
never actually wanted sex with any girl
that i've been with now that I think of
it. I really like this girl, so it's not
a lack of interest in her, it's a lack of
interest in sex in general. This is
starting to put stress on the
relationship, and I really don't know who
to ask about this...A doctor? A
psychologist? Any insight into this would
be greatly appreciated, as i'm realy not
sure if it's a phisical problem or a
mental thing.
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caes
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jan 2006 Posts: 8
Posted: 01-30-06 15:35pm
Im in the same situation as you mate but I
cant keep it up in any circumstance not
even for oral.
I have some kind of psychological block in
place it seems- I get really hard if we
are having an intimate kissing session
like on a date. Then we get back to mine
and I take off my clothes and it goes.
I think it boils down now to me being
nervous about not being able to get an
erection and therefore not getting one.
Damn you vicious circle!!
I going to see a doc about it this week.
I think if I get viagra to help me out and
get me past the first hurdle I will be
ok...
Gud luck with ur problem
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reddragon0519
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jan 2006 Posts: 4
Posted: 01-30-06 17:52pm
Im the same way about the kissing, I get
super hard during that but the second we
get naked and what not my hardon is off
like a shot...Help someone! Maybe I
should see a doctor also?
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caes
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jan 2006 Posts: 8
Posted: 01-31-06 12:09pm
Its deffo a psychological thing. Most
prolly doc will tell us to talk about
problem with the girl etc and just keep
trying lol. Not sure how much viagra will
help cos its not physical problem its our
aroused states being switched off by
anxiety. Which is a normal reaction cos u
dont wanna be horny and anxious, like when
being chased by a sabretooth tiger (in
human history of course...)
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Kathyjoe
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jan 2006 Posts: 3 Location: Texas
Viagra Does Not Help Posted: 02-01-06 17:01pm
My husband who is 56 years old and is
excellent health has gradually lost his
ability to keep an erection. The doctor
has ran tests and put him on viagra.
This seemed to help for a while and then
it didn't work. He has tried several
other medications and nothing works. He
cannot stay hard long enough to have an
erection. What is the next step? Is
this physological or medical?
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Human
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Sep 2005 Posts: 89
Re: Viagra Does Not Help Posted: 02-10-06 14:01pm
kathyjoe
wrote:
my husband who is 56 years
old and is excellent health has gradually
lost his ability to keep an erection.
The doctor has ran tests and put him on
viagra. This seemed to help for a while
and then it didn't work. He has tried
several other medications and nothing
works. He cannot stay hard long enough
to have an erection. What is the next
step? Is this physological or
medical?
at 56 your pretty much reaching that
limit. I'd hate to say it but even if
something does work it'll only be for a
short while. Your husband is just
getting old and issues like these are just
a fact of life at that age.
Also
i don't understand your second question.
Physiological is medical.
