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I'm sorry to hear you are upset. I would be a little upset as well. However, I am a jealous person!! My fiance has a few female friends, but the ones he has now, I don't see as threats. Is this a female friend that you have met? Did she seem like someone who would threaten your relationship? Maybe if you just told him that it is making you feel uneasy, and you don't think it is good for the pregnancy. It is fine if he has female friends, however it isn't ok, if it is making you feel uneasy with him speaking to them. I don't think it is ever a good policy to text message, or talk to another person of the opposite sex when you are in a relationship..To me it just seems like you have something to hide. Does he ever speak of her? For instance, if he maybe bumped into her at the store, maybe they just thought they would catch back up on old times, I just think it would be a little weired for him to call/text her out of the blue.

Also, I don't mean to pry, but do you guys have trust issues. The reason I am asking is because my fiance and I used to have trust issues because of his previous female friends.. They were what you would call a "direct threat" to the relationship. Once he figured that I was upset by it, he disregarded them, because he too felt a little weired later about them.

Good luck...If you ever want to talk, pm me! Hang in there hon!

You should be mad and jealous.. He has no right to do that and no right to go and text girls behind your back, what is he thinking????? You guys are married he shouldn't even be talking to girls and if that makes you insecure and jealous then he definatly should stop especially when your pregnant. This is the time he should be most sympathetic towards your feelings. I really don't agree with the way he treats you. If I were you I wouldn't put up with that.

Thank you both. I really needed to hear that I wasn't just overreacting about this. I am thinking of writing a letter to get it all out and that way he can't get all defensive or butt in which will result in me getting upset and not saying what I really want/need to, but does it seem a bit cowardly to sort it out that way?
Happiness03 - I have met this girl as she used to date my older brother, she was also a year or two ahead of me in school we also used to be friends but had a bit of a arguement years ago - I can't even remember what over. I was talking to her on the phone aswell but only cause hubby handed me the phone, she didn't ask to speak to me he just done it. We ended up talking mainly about the pregnancy as she has a 10 month old daughter but the conversation didn't last that long, nowhere near as long as their 3 hrs. In all honesty I don't think she is a threat but I can't stop my over active imagination from doing overtime. We have been through this before with another female friend of his and it really crushed me at the time. If he even talks about her now I just ignore him and switch off.

I think it is a good idea to get your thoughts down on paper, like you said. I would hope your hubby could use the opportunity to see your real feelings on this issue! You are pregnant for crying out loud........You don't need this stress!! Bless your heart! How far along are you by the way? Has it been a good pregnancy so far?

While I do have male friends I go out of my way (as most people would) not to piss him off by not spending to much time talking to them and certainly not for 3hrs on the phone out of the blue then constantly texting them. It is easy to say that we need to dicuss this and not argue about it but in reality that just wont happen.

Have you had a chance to talk it over with him yet? I totally agree with you, I too would be upset!

No we havent really talked about it. He knows I am/was pretty upset but I don't think he quite understands what about or maybe he does. I was just writing down a few things then but it hurts too much to put them on paper it is easier to just forget it. I don't want to push him away by whinging on about it. God im confused, I don't think I know what I want maybe I will leave it a few days and try to sort myself out I think I need that time for myself, hopefully I will feel better in a few days and able to either tackle this head on or leave it alone.

I think it would be better to let him no how you feel radther then keep it bottled up inside. You shouldn't have to feel scared to talk about your insecurities or things that are bothering you, with him. If you would feel better to think it over for a few more days then that sounds okay but theres no reaosn to feel scared, because if he loves you he should understand and try to help you with these feelings your having radther then being pushed away by them.

Thank you all so much for listening.

Yeah I agree I think it would be alot better to discuss it with him cause ur building up all this anger but what if he dosent know you feel like that. I mean I can understand your upset. And he needs to understand too.

Yeah, if you don't discuss it now, it is only going to wear on you and bring you down. You will probably be more irritable. You don't need to go thru something that is bothering you when you can go talk to the person causing you the pain.

I dont want anyone to take this harshly but here goes

a marriage is based on trust if he can trust you then you should put the same faith in him, I know he talks to people especially other woman but sometimes its time that he needs before baby comes did you know most first time fathers are scared $hitless and need reassuring from other people(especially female race) I know this comes down hard my husband confront me about the ppl I talk to but I never say he jealous because I ask him alot about his friends as well and so we have faith in each other.

The only thing I dont agree with is him accusing you of being jealous, thats not right he should have abit more respect and explain things to you(open communication) sounds like its missing. Im abit like your husband I talk to alot of friends for hours on the phone because their is just some things I need to get out that my friends seem to understand and thats what their for to vent etc now nothing wrong with venting on hubby lol!!!

I just want you to understand all of us gals have been jealous in life just relax abit though cause it can put alot of strain on your marriage!!

Diamondsz - thank you I needed that wake up call to realise I am being an emotional pregnant lady lol!!! I was slowly getting to the same conclusion but thank you for the hurry up. :-)