My wife and I have been married for 33 years and are very much in love. Due to various reasons I can no longer obtain and maintain and erection long enough to satisfy my wife. Even when I do get an erection by using cealis or viagra, my erection is not all that hard and I find that I no longer have the sensory experience I did in the past. Part of my problem is age, i'm 58, and part is due to neurological problems (had a spinal cord injury that did some dame t o nerves going to my leg) which I believe are affecting my abiltiy in these areas, both getting an erection and the sensation of pleasurable sex. I do not satisfy my wife any longer I am sure of that.

My question: would I be totally out of line to purchaese a strap on to make love to her? Does anyone have a similar problem? Has you husband used one to satisfy you? Ow should I approach her about it?

I really want her to have some kind of satisfying sexual experience when we make love these days.

I'm really embarsssed to even discuss this but I am at my wits end. She doesn't say any thing about our lovemaking but I know im not satisfying her.

Any thoughts o tis would be appreciated.