My wife and I have been married for 33
years and are very much in love. Due to
various reasons I can no longer obtain and
maintain and erection long enough to
satisfy my wife. Even when I do get an
erection by using cealis or viagra, my
erection is not all that hard and I find
that I no longer have the sensory
experience I did in the past. Part of my
problem is age, i'm 58, and part is due to
neurological problems (had a spinal cord
injury that did some dame t o nerves going
to my leg) which I believe are affecting
my abiltiy in these areas, both getting an
erection and the sensation of pleasurable
sex. I do not satisfy my wife any longer
I am sure of that.
My question: would I be totally out of
line to purchaese a strap on to make love
to her? Does anyone have a similar
problem? Has you husband used one to
satisfy you? Ow should I approach her
about it?
I really want her to have some kind of
satisfying sexual experience when we make
love these days.
I'm really embarsssed to even discuss this
but I am at my wits end. She doesn't say
any thing about our lovemaking but I know
im not satisfying her.
Any thoughts o tis would be appreciated.
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Morning_Glory
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Mar 2006 Posts: 207 Location: NE Ohio
Posted: 03-14-06 00:20am
My fiance is fifty and has a similar
problem so I know what you are talking
about.
Do you and your wife have oral sex at all?
If you could show her a "good time" thru
oral sex that might be a nice start (heck
if you get really good at it, it might be
enough to have her singing happy songs all
the time).
Anyhow, if you really want to explore the
use of sex toys, talk to her about it and
go shopping together! If she is the type
that would be embarrased to walk into an
adult toy shop, look at the toys online
like adam and eve or some of the other
reputable companies.
Don't just show up one night with a sex
toy and suprise her if you've never even
discussed it with her to start with.
