Hey, I was just hoping i'd get some advice
over here. Basically, i've been with my
girlfriend for over a year now. I've
always used a condom. Recently, she
informed me that she's been scared about
the possibility of having hiv due to past
relationships. She's been with other
guys, she was my first. She says she had
unprotected sex with one of them. She
just got tested, so we're awaiting the
results. They should be in this
tuesday.
I'm just a little concerned because also
recently, I had flu-like symptoms. I had
a headache for a few days, then I got the
fever and some night chills. I had the
fever and the chills for about a day and a
half to two days. The morning after I
had the first night of fever I almost
passed out at school after I started
sweating and turned pale. I went to see
the doctor and he told me I had the flu,
and that it's going around over here. I
haven't had fever after that day.
It's been a few days later and I have a
little bit of white on my tongue, but
that's about it. I don't know if i'm
just freaking out because i'm waiting for
the results or what. I definitely will
get tested once she gets her results, I
guess I just have to play the waiting
game.
So yeah, any info/advice would be
appreciated! :)
-collegeguy85
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Finess150
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Worry? Posted: 01-29-06 13:12pm
You say you've always used condoms.
That's good. I would strongly suggest
that you have nothing to worry about.
Each unprotected episode of sex carries a
risk of about 0.3 - 1% chance of
contracting hiv. That is not to suggest
its alright to go ahead and have
unprotected sex, but it should reassure
you're girlfriend that, having only had
unprotected sex once, she is more likely
to be negative than positive - that is if
the guy she was with was positive in the
first place.
You're flu symptoms are very likely to
be.... Flu.
If the worst happens and she tests
positive, it would be wise for you to have
a test but since you always use condoms,
it would be very unlikely that you'd be
positive.
Let me know how you get on. I'm sure
you'll both be fine.
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collegeguy85
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Posted: 01-29-06 13:28pm
Thanks for the help! :)
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Finess150
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Ok Posted: 01-29-06 18:31pm
I'm glad to help, and I hope that i've
relieved some of your anxieties.
Protected sex is just that, protected.
From an hiv standpoint, you should only
consider unprotected sex when -
1. Both partners have taken an hiv test
at least 13 weeks since their last
unprotected sexual encounter and found
them both to be negative
2. Both partners remain monogomous with
eachother (do not have unprotected sex
with anyone else) from at least 13 weeks
prior to the hiv test and thereafter.
Obviously, unprotected sex has to happen
sometimes, otherwise we'd not be here,
which is why the above steps should be
taken.
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collegeguy85
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Posted: 01-29-06 20:28pm
Hey, I just wanted to add that the only
thing that is bugging me now is that my
mouth has been really dry the past few
days...My tongue doesn't have big white
spots, it's just has a little bit of
white, more like dry saliva, and I don't
know if that's another symptom.. I know
it can be anxiety too, but I dont' know...
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Finess150
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Dry Mouth Posted: 01-29-06 20:42pm
A dry mouth is not an hiv symptom,
certainly not one that is commonly
recognised.
Remember though that anxiety is very
powerful and can take over your pysche,
making you think of nothing else but the
'symptoms' you might have.
Seroconversion symptoms, which usually
occur 3-4 weeks after infection are
usually -
flu like illness, with a general feeling
of achiness, sore throat etc. - this is
the most common symptom.
Swollen lymph nodes in more than one
area
night sweats
a rash
nausea
oral thrush
I don't even know why i'm telling you
this, because it is pointless to speculate
on symptoms. I strongly doubt you have
hiv because you had protected sex. From a
medical standpoint, testing isn't
required. But for your peace of mind, go
ahead.
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collegeguy85
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Joined: 06 Sep 2005 Posts: 8
Posted: 01-30-06 01:24am
Hey, thanks again! Yeah I know, anxiety
can really do some crazy things! I
appreciate all the help.
