Is It Going to Work??...please Give Me Some Advice Posted: 01-28-06 05:22am
Hi
i've had depression on and off for the
last 4 years and have often harmed myself
(cuts and bruises...Even taken certain
substances that I know will hurt my
stomach) during these times. My ex knew
about it but didn't really understand and
I spent more time comforting him for havin
a girlfriend that harmed, ...I have met
someone now who despite living a good
distance from me, I can see something
really working but he's had issues with
this problem concerning friends and family
and says he aint strong enough to help me
with it but will at a push listen...He
only knows bout the cutting and bruising
and he knows i'm tryin hard to stop (which
I am) but it will always be a part of me
the thing is he will often say things like
"it has nothing to do with me" which
really insults me as I don't confide in
many people at all, sometimes it makes me
worse...We do really connect no
exaggeration and I know we'd be good
together but do u think his refusal to
accept what I do or even to acknowledge it
means I should keep everything on a friend
basis? If I cant truly be myself with
him? Sometimes I don't think its fair for
him to put up with my crap but I know if
it was the other way round no matter what
it was i'd be absolutely there for
him...No matter what my strength was !!!
Could really do with some advice...Am
pretty confused...As its distanced it aint
gonna be a problem for a while but I need
my head to either forget and find closure
or accept that despite this something
could happen
rue
xxxx
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sandyallen
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Posted: 01-29-06 17:17pm
I pretty much agree with cocreative. I
hope that you are seeking some
professional help as you are not just
hurting yourself but you are hurting
others that love and care about you and
their is nothing wrong with needing help
as we all need help sometime, if you do
not know where to start and do not want to
deal with your family you can go to mental
health, they have helped a lot of people
and they can at leat help you in the right
direction. Please get help and know that
we are here for you!
The very best to you!
