Hi
i've had depression on and off for the last 4 years and have often harmed myself (cuts and bruises...Even taken certain substances that I know will hurt my stomach) during these times. My ex knew about it but didn't really understand and I spent more time comforting him for havin a girlfriend that harmed, ...I have met someone now who despite living a good distance from me, I can see something really working but he's had issues with this problem concerning friends and family and says he aint strong enough to help me with it but will at a push listen...He only knows bout the cutting and bruising and he knows i'm tryin hard to stop (which I am) but it will always be a part of me

the thing is he will often say things like "it has nothing to do with me" which really insults me as I don't confide in many people at all, sometimes it makes me worse...We do really connect no exaggeration and I know we'd be good together but do u think his refusal to accept what I do or even to acknowledge it means I should keep everything on a friend basis? If I cant truly be myself with him? Sometimes I don't think its fair for him to put up with my crap but I know if it was the other way round no matter what it was i'd be absolutely there for him...No matter what my strength was !!!

Could really do with some advice...Am pretty confused...As its distanced it aint gonna be a problem for a while but I need my head to either forget and find closure or accept that despite this something could happen

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