I am bulimic (for a year now), and just told my boyfriend (father of my youngest daughter) last week....
I am 25, and I have known him since I was 14, and it was still really hard. But my health got so bad, that I had to tell him, because I wanted him to be able to tell the doctors what was going on if we had to call an ambulance.
I have had 3 esophogeal spasms since then....And I am in an immense amount of pain. I still don't know exactly why, and could have damaged something....(read more above..."my story")....
I think that you are wonderful for wanting to be there for her. She is a lucky girl.
I would like my b/f to get counseling with me....As I think that he is going to be blaming some of this on himself, etc. I don't ever want him to be hurt because of this....So that is why I think it is a good idea. However, for insurance reasons, it is hard for us to go at the same time.
My b/f is being wonderful right now...Not only supportive, but almost kind of quiet about it......Which is sort of what I need.
He just listens....And knows that I will do the right thing. But I have caused him a tremendous amount of worry, and for that, I am sorry.
Speaking from experience, the best that you can do is just listen. When she is ready to get counseling...She will...And it will not do any good unless she is ready...You know?
Just listen, and maybe express to her your worries and your concerns. Maybe tell her my story...And how much pain I am in right now....It is not fun.
Good luck.
