My fiance has decided that we should wait
until I am completely out of school
(college) and after we have been married
for a few years to begin ttc!! I was
really hurt when he said this. I really
want a baby and by the time I get preggy
and have the baby I will be out of school.
I feel like maybe I should fight for my
wanting a baby, but at the same time I
feel like I should just agree with him.
Sob!! What should I do??
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Malory
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Dec 2005 Posts: 95 Location: York, England
Posted: 01-28-06 16:33pm
I think your fiance is being mature.
I think it's good to spend some time
together as just a couple when you first
get married, so you can get to enjoy being
husband and wife, just the two of you
together. Once there is a baby in the
picture, you aren't going to have as much
couple time.
If you finish college before you have the
baby, you will be able to earn more money
to help support the baby.
If you are pregnant and have the baby
while still in college, you will spend a
lot of time being very tired and possibly
not feeling well, and you won't be able to
do as well in school.
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Abbysmom
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2006 Posts: 471
Posted: 01-30-06 09:22am
I can understand your wanting a baby but
if he really wants to wait, you may not
want to push the issue. I wanted to have
a baby shortly after I got married but my
husband just wasn't ready. We waited 6
years before we decided to start trying.
I wouldn't trade those 6 years for
anything. We got to spend time with each
other and made our marriage strong. We
had trouble conceiving and lost one baby
along the way. Our marriage was strong
enough to make it through the rough times.
Plus, if you have a baby and he isn't
ready, he may end up resenting you and the
child.
