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Q: Fight Or Give Up?
asked by: Butterfly_05 on January 27th, 2006
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My fiance has decided that we should wait until I am completely out of school (college) and after we have been married for a few years to begin ttc!! I was really hurt when he said this. I really want a baby and by the time I get preggy and have the baby I will be out of school. I feel like maybe I should fight for my wanting a baby, but at the same time I feel like I should just agree with him. Sob!! What should I do??
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Malory
replied on January 28th, 2006
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I think your fiance is being mature.

I think it's good to spend some time together as just a couple when you first get married, so you can get to enjoy being husband and wife, just the two of you together. Once there is a baby in the picture, you aren't going to have as much couple time.

If you finish college before you have the baby, you will be able to earn more money to help support the baby.

If you are pregnant and have the baby while still in college, you will spend a lot of time being very tired and possibly not feeling well, and you won't be able to do as well in school.
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Abbysmom
replied on January 30th, 2006
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I can understand your wanting a baby but if he really wants to wait, you may not want to push the issue. I wanted to have a baby shortly after I got married but my husband just wasn't ready. We waited 6 years before we decided to start trying. I wouldn't trade those 6 years for anything. We got to spend time with each other and made our marriage strong. We had trouble conceiving and lost one baby along the way. Our marriage was strong enough to make it through the rough times. Plus, if you have a baby and he isn't ready, he may end up resenting you and the child.
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