Wow, this sure has turned into a debate. Anyways, here are some responses to your comments.
First of all, I am not quite sure how or why you would think that gaining weight is the first thing on my mind. That was a little presumptuous. Yes, it is something I am thinking about while pregnant along with a million other things.
Secondly, I think saying that I am scaring women about gaining weight during a pregnancy is a little dramatic. I agree everyone is different. If a pregnant woman who is 5'7" - 6' gained 70 lbs, I really doubt that would put any harm or strain on her body. If a person like me or my friend, who is 5'2" and gains 70 lbs, I think that is going to put added stress on my body that it does not need.
So yes, everyone is different and will gain different amounts of weight. I started this topic to hear everyones experiences, not to preach my opinions.