Hi, I have a 16 month old grand daughter
who vomits for attention. My daughter has
been told to ingnore this behaviour, which
she finds very difficult to do. Now her 9
week old has stared to vomit if not picked
up when crying. If held, the baby will
stop crying and not be sick. Any ideas I
could pass on to her would be great thank
you.
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inezrina
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2005 Posts: 174
Posted: 01-26-06 15:13pm
My advice is when the 16 month old is
upset and wants attention when she can not
have it her mother should go to her come
her down by speaking to her. She can say
something like "i know your upset and you
want me to play with you but right now I
can't." or "i know you are upset you have
to go to bed but now we r going to sleep."
this way the mother is acknowledging the
babies feelings but still saying how it
has to be. Ignoring the behavior I think
is a big precursor for problems later.
Even though she is very young she could
grow up with the memories of being ignored
when she was most upset which could lead
to difficulty handling her emotions.
After the mother goes and talks to her
once she may start crying again and
getting possibly to the point of vomiting
but then her mother should go back to her
and repeat the same thing. Example: "i
know u r upset now but we r going to sleep
now" after that if the baby continues
which she very well may her mother should
go to her and say something shorter like
"we r going to bed now or good night" now
the baby id not getting ignored but she is
recieving less and less attention. It
may take awhile but it is worth it and
eventually her mother shouldn't have to
deal with it at all. I am a firm
believer that little kids often calm down
when they knwo they r being understood.
They don't have the words yet to explain
so they communicate with there actions so
like anyone else they want to knwo they
are understood verses being ignored.
The reason I have thought so much about
this is because when I was a child I would
make myself pass-out and a doctor told my
mom to ignore me when I did this. At
this point I realize why I never told my
mom about anytime I was upset I would
rather cry alone if I was sad or angry
becuase why tell her? She never
understood before.
As for the 9 week old I think that it is
more likely that the baby vomits when it
is crying because sometimes babies do that
they cry hard gag on their tears and spit
up. 9 week olds really only know a few
things they cry when they are hungry, need
to be changed, are uncomfortable, tired or
wnat to be held.
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heyme
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2006 Posts: 2
Posted: 01-26-06 16:38pm
Hey, thank you for your comments. I do
believe you are right in what you say. It
must have been hard for you as a child...
You are now able to help others with the
knowledge you so painfully learned. Thank
you for helping us.
