Try a tampon..

can I ask why you want it broke..? I've never heard of anyone wanting to break their own

Yes ive broke my own hymen when I was like 12 I think and I was in ballet for 8 years and then just one day I jumped in the air and landed in the splits just like I had before but then I felt pain and went to the bathroom and there was blood and I did not start my period until about 4 mos later.

Well i've been having sex for a couple months and I swear my hymen never broke (just stretched). So if I go a week without sex, it still hurts a little to put it in. As long as your first time is with a guy that goes slow and gentle its not too bad.

hey i have the same problem.
i want to have sex with my bf
but what if he thinks its gross?
cuz off the blood..=/
we are both virgins.

i wanna break my own hymen.
how do i know i have one though?
alot of people dont.

Wow, I was the same way.

If you don't want a penis to break it then whats the rush of breaking it, Sex is something special you share with someone. If you are nervous about having sex and it being painful don't worry if you love them you wont feel a thing. All you feel is pressure.

if your worried about the bleeding it's nothing major its spotting and you only see it when you pee then wipe(that is how it was for me and many of my friends)

All women have hymens (the cherry) ha ha so don't think you are lucky to not have one! People who believe they don't have them are a little silly and obviously have not broken them just yet.

My last statement may or may not be true.

I have seen on here that maybe women think that we don't ALL have Hymens. I was under the impressions as women we all have one! I know that some women have very stubborn hymens and ones that will not break but very unsure if all women have it!

Sorry. Just wanted to clear that up haha

hi ava...i think maybe you should contemplate this for a while before deciding what to do. from the looks of your other posts, you have some things going on in your life that you need to focus on other than whether or not your hymen is broken.

while i do understand your sentiment, and your logic, i think that there may be some underlying issues that you need to deal with and get beyond before you consider having any kind of a cherry-breaking event.

i'm here to talk with you about this if you want. many of us are here for you. please talk with us and don't feel the need to do something rash like taking your own virginity. again, like i said, i can understand the logic and the sentiment, but you have a lot going on for one girl and i think you need to work through some of those issues one-at-the-time.

jasmine

Nope, not every woman is born with a hymen. A majority of women lose their hymen by just being active. For most it's not painful and like you said, there's barely any blood, so most women don't even realize its already gone.

Boomshaka, there isn't a lot of blood involved with losing your virginity. As long as there's a lot of foreplay, lots of lubrication, and you can relax, then you'll have a painless first time with no blood. If for some reason there is blood, your bf would be a toad to tell you it was gross. You can check for your hymen with your fingers or a mirror, but some women have less hymen tissue than others, so you may not be able to see it.

so if i do ballet and the splits does it means that my hymen is broken?is there a possiblity that is not?i started ballet at the age of 16.

use your fingers and be gentle till u shove it all in then your good to go.

when i lost my virginity i did not experience any bleeding, however i did feel some pain. does that mean i don't have a hymen or it didn't break? i have been sexually active for a year, every time i have sex, it hurts when he goes in.....any suggestions? thanks

well im a virgin and i have never had sex but i use to masturbate alot so im not sure if i have my hymen but i dont think i have.. my family would be ashamed because a girl is only virgin if her hymen is still there.. but i think mine is not there anymore so now im in trouble lol.. but my family are quite strict. but now im scared to even tell anyone or even tell my boyfriend because he only wants to marry me if i have a hymen and if i bleed during 1st time sex... so im just praying that i bleed or im literally dead lol.