Wait. You're only 16 you have plenty of time to have babies. You're not even out of high school yet. And what if you want to go to college later? Travel? Have a career? There's so much you can do while you're not tied down with a baby. I'm not saying that if you have a baby you still can't do those things but it's just going to be that much harder. And your bf may tell you now that he wants one but what happens down the road when (if) he changes his mind. He can walk away but that baby is you're responsibility forever. Finish school, figure out what you want to do with you're life and make sure you're in a stable and secure relantionship before making such a big decision.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 yrs now and I know he wouldnt just walk out on me. Im almost 17 and I have 2 jobs im almost out of school as soon as I take me ged test. Im sure that I can get through it but im not planning on actually getting preggo untill im 17 but im just trying to get info on how I could get preggo but I just might already be so im just trying to see if it would be to soon?

I dont think your too young, but yeah waiting isnt that bad of an idea, personly I dont think anyone at any age is really ever ready for a baby 100% but if u get preggy u deal with it, and you'll do just fine

I support the right to choose but I also think about the childs welfare. And rushing in to parenting is usually based on unrealistic expectations of parenthood and lack of realism with family planning which tends to hurt kids. If you and your boyfriend trust each other and love each other, what is the rush? Neither of you are going anywhere so waiting at least a year or two shouldn't make a difference.

Why not wait until you are actually legally an adult? It causes a lot less problems and people accept you a lot more then.

Why not wait until you are finish with your schooling? At least with high school? Many college courses can be taken through evening or night classes, or only consist of going a couple days a week. You can't do that with highschool and it really becomes a hundred times harder when it suddenly costs you $800 a month to go to school 6 hours a day. And when you have to find a daycare and there's wait lists two years long. And they don't want infants.

Why not wait until you can talk to your family and get their support? You will need it and chances are, they'll accept it a lot more if you're a graduated 18 year old adult then a 16 year old minor in grade 10 or 11.

Why not wait until you have the education? I see you asking a lot of questions around here and that's a good thing, but if you got pregnant within the next month or two it would be a rush to information. Why not take time to educate yourself slowly on as much as possible? That's the best way to avoid problems and keep your child safe.

Why not wait until you have a pelvic exam (most girls don't have their first until they're at least 18) and are all checked out and healthy to even try for a child? Even if you think you're healthy, there may be underlying problems that you don't even realize. Have you also gone through both yours and the fathers health history? Family history? Looked at the genetics? Are there any conditions there that might pop up in your child? Downs syndrome? Autism? Add? Adhd? Cerebral palsy? Allergies? Spinal bifida? Mental illness? All those things are highly genetic and can add a lot of strain to parents.

I cant say to tell you oh dont do that your to young because I did just turn 17 and I did plan for my baby ( im 6 months preggo ). All I really can say is it's not as easy and fun as it looks standing on the inside then to standing and watching from a distance. Lol me and the father of my child have gotten to the point where we really do love each other to death and he told me just the other night that he still does want a family. Im the one with the insecurities now tho. Everything gets really confussing cause I thought that I had thought about everything and I was sure on what I wanted but I wasn't. I'm thinking about it all now. Me and the father of my baby were together ever since his first daughter was born she'll be 3 in june, and I played a huge roll in her life and at first the thought popped in my head that oh I want one there so cute, and I think thats what all teenagers say. Then we got really serious we moved in together we were around each other all the time I got off birth control and we said ok we want a baby. Then once I got pregnant I started looking at everything he did and all the downs that we had gone threw and I was like do I really want a child around all this and so I left him. I started a fight really which was justifyable but still we could ahve just talked about it and it ended up me staying in texas with my mom and he went back to louisiana. I've talked to him every once in a while and he's tryed the whole its not mine but then he comes back crying and says that he said it out of anger. He still really wants this baby ( so he says ) and it's kinda me with all the questions now. I really think you should think things threw with you. Sit down and have a chat with your thoughts and see how you really feel. Dont just look at right now but think about farther down the road with a baby. It's not always the guy chickening out of the relashonship. Things get really confussing exspcially when your bringing another life into it. Im not saying dont do it or your stupid or anything like that. Just think. Ok and if u need anyone to talk to you can hit me up and i'll get back to you.
Hehehe and you and ur bf's anmes kinda match me and mine...
Im jenna and the father of my baby is casey...Lol

Having a child at any age isn't easy. Let me ask this - what are the main reasons for wanting to have a child? If you want one because "something's missing in your life" or "so I can have something to love", then for the love of all that's holy, do not go and get knocked up. Babies are a huge responsibility - it's not going to just be playing with the baby all day for 10 years. It's a lot of hard work, sleepless nights, and misery. There will be times you want to rip your hair out. The baby will melt your heart for about a week or two, and then reality hits you like a ton of bricks. Nothing but feeding, changing dirty diapers, and incessant crying - that'll pretty much be your new lifestyle for 2-3 years, until the sprog can walk and it [hopefully] potty-trained. Once they're mobile, then they can run away from you, get into small spaces to hide from you - the insanity escalates to the next level.

You must think about all the work that goes into caring for a kid, and even if you are working two jobs, you could still be hurting for money once junior arrives. You'll need to pay for doctor visits, baby food, diapers, a crib, a stroller, clothes, bottles, and all the other crap needed to properly care for a baby.

Will you be able to handle the rumors and ridicule of classmates when word gets out that you got pregnant?

Also, what if your child was born with some kind of illness or deformity? What if your child had autism, add/adhd, tourette's, or any of the other such mental conditions? Kids with such disorders are twice the handful that normal kids are. What if your child had a defective heart, or underdeveloped lungs, or they had something that required them to take medication for the rest of their lives? That's even more misery in your life as well as money needing to be forked over for more frequent doctor visits. Do you know if you have any kind of inherited ailment that you could possibly pass on to your potential offspring?

Do not impulsively decide to have a child - you will be kicking yourself for it when you realize that parenthood isn't a bowl of cherries like most people say it is. It's the hardest job to do, if it's done right. Way too many "parents" do a crappy job of parenting because they're lazy and stupid.

In conclusion, all i'll say is I hope you make the choice that's right for you, whatever it may be.

I'm 17 & never thought about getting pregnant on purpose.

I am confused of what's with people now days, wanting to cut your childhood short to raise a baby which you can do your whole entire life. Having a baby young you are considered high risk, which means there are tons of possible problems added on to the ones you could already have.

What would be the difference if you had a child now or waited until later?

The best age for kids is 18-35 cause before or after this age there can be maternal problems or problems with the baby

we didnt have anything at first but we didnt use protection so I know I could get pregnant anytime but it was something to look forward too..
I was 19 when I got pregnant with elisa and I love it sometimes she drives me mad like cambion said there is times you want to pull your hair out but its not everyday. Kids are very demanding and I think if anyone has more patience then me(im very impatient) then you can do it, wait till you finsih school though at least.

Im not going to say dont have a kid cause then I would be a hypocrite the advice I give you is to wait another year or two, there is some hardwork that comes with kids but at the same time its easy hard to explain till you actually have one. The first few months are just crazy me and hubby had alot of fights cause we were both exhausted and he was working all the time.

~kids are expensive~
there is a trick to this buy everything ahead of time and take hand me downs because they wear out their clothing so fast elisa has all her clothing up to size 6t and shes only in 24 months now. As for diapers pile up ahead of time more on size 3/4 they seem to stay in these longer but every baby is different.

If you do get pregnant good luck it is a life changing expierence!~
jess

I think you should wait until you finish school and college, because then you can get a job easier after u have the baby....Rather than having to start all over and go back to studying.

I think teens want a baby because like diamondsz said, its something for you to look forward to, teenage years are really difficult and unhappy for many and I think they feel a baby will brighten their life up, or they dont get on with their parents so they feel unloved and having a baby gives them something to love and 'be loved back by'......"babies take a lot more love than they give" though. Also if your in love with a guy and things arent going that well with him, a lot of people older ones too..Think having a baby will make their relationship stronger and closer but in reality it puts it under a bigger strain. Some feel they wouldnt be good at doing anything with their life but they like the idea of doing the mother job so they become a mother. Or you think theres nothing better to do so get pregnant to do something new and exciting.....Motherhood is for life though not just for ....Christmas? Lol my 2 cents! Probably more reasons aswell but its very common for teens to want a baby and plan one then lie to everyone that it was an accident.

Im not actually planning on getting preg. But if it happens it happens theres not much I could do about it but untill I do im just wondering if im being stupid to not use protection at my age

I personally don't think 17 is too young but it depends on your situation, I have a girlfriend who had her first child at 17, but her and the baby's father are married (hes 10 years older) she is now 19 and pregnant again with their 2nd child, but there are other 17 year olds who get pregnant who can't rais their kids (lack of support, no money etc) if you are pregnant then you need to tell your parents or someone so you can (hopefully) get some support but if you're only thinking about it I would maybe wait a little while and prepare for a baby first (finish school etc)

Yes, it's stupid.

Unprotected sex = ttc. Just because you're not charting your cervical mucous doesn't mean you're not trying to conceive. You passively are.

If you don't want to get pregnant now, use protection every single time. Otherwise, you are trying to get pregnant and will likely become pregnant within the next 4-6 months.

I'm 18 almost 19 and still a virgin and I want a baby I talk 2 my mama bout it and she say its ok but I tho bout college first 2 major n nursing r radiologist ( x rays). So i'm sayn wait till u get out of school. I have a cousin that had a baby a;most 2 years ago and while she n college I got her baby taking her 2 the doctor, feedin and chaging aint easy I had her since she was 2 moths now she 17 months. So plzzz wait

whatever happens happens?

That is trying to get pregnant hunny...Your obviously not doing anything to prevent it so you are trying to get pregnant.

Trust me wait tell you are older sweetie. Im 17 and 24 weeks pregnant. It was planed but now im starting to think me and my love should have waited a bit longer. Its not all fun being pregnant. I still get moring sickness, im always in pain from my back and peoplke are stressing me out more then I need to be.Beacuse of rescent things me and my love are now dont have enough money to move out and have to stay at his parents place. Im so stressed its not funny, but it was not a mistake and I will get thro it. I cant wait to hold my little girl.


But really sweetie wait a few more years, you really dont want that stress on you.

ok could u have been more of an problem... Just cause you aren't using anything to protect yourself dosent mean ur ttc. Its stupid if yes ur not using protection and then you freak out cause you might be pregnant. I am 17 and I am pregnant and I did plan my baby. I am not with the father of my baby and im happy because I think withput him around my baby will have a better life. My child has me its older sister its older sisters mom who is also my childs nany.. Thats all the family and support that my child needs. Im not saying its all going to be easy and everyone that is 17 and 16 should go get pregnant. Thats not close to what im saying but if you have really set down and thought aboput everything and done some what of family planning then I think it's ok. One thing I do wanna say is all these little girls who come on her and they are like omg I might be pregnant me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex. Thats stupid and its not just the risk of pregnancy. What about std's people im sure they arent fun. I'm almost posotive they arent cause I myself have the hpv virus which is a sexually transmitted disease. I live in texas and my sisters teacher used to work at a local highschool and they did a blood drive and 25% of the students had hiv or aids can u imagine thats highschool students. So a baby is the least of you guys worries.

yes, I could have. I could have been incredibly rude. I could have been juvenile and called her names. I didn't. She asked if it was stupid to not use any sort of protection when she didn't want to get pregnant now. That's like playing russian roulette if you don't want to die. It is stupid.



yes it does. If you don't want a baby, you take steps not to have one. Protection fails and that's one thing. But to not want a baby and take no steps to not have one is stupid and it does mean you are trying to have one. Otherwise, you would be using condoms at least. As I said...Just becuase you're not going crazy and charting cervical mucous doesn't mean you're not ttc. Plenty of couples ttc just by not using anything.

Personally, I think you should wait. I'm a freshman in high school and i'm about twenty one weeks pregnant with twins. Before I got pregnant, I had dreams. I wanted to go to college, become an author, get my major in english lit, travel the world. It's gonna be harder now.
My half sister and I have been going baby shopping, and everything is very expensive, expecially since i'm having two. I think that you should wait until you graduate at least, and maybe go to college? At least make sure that your relationship with your boyfriend will not break if you get pregnant, and make sure he won't run if he decides he's too young for fatherhood. Ultimately, you'll be the one with more problems - you'll have this baby growing inside you, and you might even be alone. You can't just leave it behind, not for nine long, difficult, emotiotional months, anyway.
Just think about it carefully before you make your decision.

I didnt see anything of her saying or asking if it was stupid to be having unprotected sex if she didnt want a baby... She posted asking if she was to young..