Joined: 08 Jun 2004 Posts: 225 Location: Cincinnati, Oh
Well I Am Pregnant Again!!! Posted: 01-25-06 00:17am
My due date is august 4th but due to the
situation with giving birth to hayley they
are taking this baby 7-10 days early,
c-section. I am so fricken scared!!!
With hayley all the trouble and being in
hosp. For so long and the taking forever
to heal you know what I am thinking this
time around! Oh god please help me! I
still dont know how to feel bout this
baby. I have an epo on its daddy for
domestic violence. In the state of
kentucky, which is where I live now, its
not any deal to hurt a pregnant woman. He
choked me from one room to another I had a
bruise of his hand print on my jaw
line/neck. The most retarded part is I am
talking to him again. I cant help it. I
really love him I just wish it would stop.
I mean the epo says he ever threatens me
or hits me again he will serve 1 year in
jail so I dont think he will. He has def
changed since the incident he felt like
sh*t afterwards was on xanax how ever they
are spelled today is his 8th day sober.
So I am so pulled. Well give me your
input please
heather and hayley
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hotty
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Nov 2005 Posts: 261 Location: texas
Hi Posted: 01-25-06 10:14am
Hi my name mary, and im glad to here you
share things with us, im really worried
about you, the only thing I can say honey,
he wont change sweetheart, exspecially if
hes doing it with you pregnnat, he will
possibly kill you one day, or if not hurt
your kids really bad to as well, you may
love him, but he sure does not love you
for him to do that to you and your un born
child, he is very dangerous sweety, you
need to be strong and get a new healthy
life, for you and your children, you will
need some counseling to im sure, this is
so horrible to here, please think about
you and your kids not about him, and he
will get worse not any better, please we
are here for you, if you need anything or
need to speak with someone, please we will
get you through this, this man is not
worth it, your whole life is ahead of you
sweety, please let him go before its too
late,
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hunterjumper
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Dec 2005 Posts: 203 Location: British Columbia, Canada
Posted: 01-25-06 10:57am
I hate to be the voice of reason but...
Guys who hit women don't just one day
decide that hitting women is bad. Just
like people who hate black people don't
wake up one day and decide to leave the
kkk and move in to the bronx and do
community building work. You can't blame
it on him taking the wrong medication or
drinking too much. My partner and many
guy friends have all done both and have
never gotten even close to violent. That
is an excuse and nothing more. You need
to stop covering for him. He doesn't
deserve it and he doesn't care. He hit
you because he wanted to. He knows right
from wrong, he just doesn't care.
You need to ensure the safety of your
children. Not just do whatever because it
makes you comfortable. I grew up in a
home where my mother did the same thing.
She was more interested in her own
feelings and lonliness than accepting that
my father was an abusive jacka** and I
honestly resent her for it. It ruined my
childhood. Every holiday he would get
drunk, go berzerk and break everything.
Every other night he and my mum would have
yelling marathons. Lovely fun to grow up
in. Don't do that to your kids. You need
to be strong now, even if it hurts and
tell this guy to take a hike....Go find
someone stupid enough to let him beat
them. Don't be that woman.
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Julymommy72504
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jun 2004 Posts: 225 Location: Cincinnati, Oh
Posted: 01-25-06 12:17pm
Hey thanks girls its just so hard
especially since he the father of my child
and I am pregnant I know my children are
way more important than anyone but my
daughter loves him and I know he would
never do anything to her. I am getting
out I just think one night I am going to
stay all night with him to see if he even
talks to me mean if so I am leaving and I
will know I tried. I am really just
trying to prove to myself I have a hate
and a love for him I need him to screw up
one more time and that love will be gone
only the fact yeah hes a piece of sh*t
dad. I just need to see it one more time
to help me get over him. I know it sounds
crazy.
Lots of love,
heather and hayley
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dejanee
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Dec 2005 Posts: 31 Location: Newyork
Posted: 01-25-06 14:47pm
Are you ready for a second child?
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harmoni
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jan 2006 Posts: 15 Location: Canada
Posted: 01-25-06 15:30pm
I personally dont think giving him another
chance is a good idea... Seeing him one
more time to see if he is mean to you
won't prove anything. What he will do is
pretend hes changed, and then once you
take him back( if you do), he will most
likely be back to his old self. My
sisters boyfriend (hopefully not for long
boyfriend) does that to her everytime she
gives him a second chance. That
ultimately turns into 10 chances later,
and they still haven't changed. Just be
careful, your ex doesn't sound like a nice
person at all.
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mum2bubba
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Oct 2005 Posts: 256 Location: Australia
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Posted: 01-25-06 19:37pm
First of all congrats on your pregnancy.
Secondly a man that is physically violent
will not change, you're pregnant, you need
to stop seeing him otherwise he won't just
hurt you he will hurt your unborn baby and
hayley. It doesn't matter what he tells
you he won't change, men who abuse women
and children should be put in jail for
life. Hope everything goes well for you
and your kids. :)
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sarahmarie
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Nov 2005 Posts: 21
Posted: 02-03-06 04:35am
Yay... I only read the first sentance...
Sorry boutthat, but I just felt like
saying hope the babys born on the 4th,
jsut cuz its my birthday :)
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yellow ribbon
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 5554 Location: FL
Posted: 02-03-06 14:39pm
Hey julymommy havent heard ne thing ne r u
still with him? J/w cuz I was watching
maury yesterday and this lady left her
husband who hit her and went to her
sisters house and he broke in and stabbed
her in the head with a 12 inch kitchen
knife and stabbed her in the body with
another kitchen knife she lived but it
made me think of you and I was wondering
how it was going now
