My Girlfriend Lost Her Grandmother And Shut Us Out. Why?

The only advice I can give you is to give her time to grieve. When my brother passed away I didn't even tell my boyfriend or best friend for 2-3 days & couldn't even stand talking to my bf for a few weeks. Loosing someone you love can make a huge impact on your life. Let her know you're there for her & just wait for her. My brother has been gone for over 3 years & my life still isn't back to normal. There where always be that little empty space for him. She may not even want a relationship after loosing her grandmother, but then again she might. Give it time.

Time can take a toll on you it seems, it's like I want to snap my finger and make 3 weeks or months go by. I've sent cards and left messages and at least she has had some contact with me but her girlfriend calls and have not spoken to her for at least 5 to 6 weeks. I try to keep her in the loop for support. It kind of makes you so bitter and always asking why and what the happen. We were into each other so much it just really took me by surprise. I changed my life by moving out of my house and leaving a stable relationship for us. She was so happy that I finally made the move and I was relieved to and just made my mind up to follow my heart. A month later this!!! It has changed my life and made look at myself and future relationships a little different now. Who knows what of happened when she told me she was manic and I would of really listened and did the research early to kind of understand what I was in for. I didn't really have any signs though, we were happy and only had little drama, you know baby daddy caca, other than that, we had fun and great times for almost a year. The more I read and research and talk to people I must admit it helps me. I just can't understand why she won't help me or let me help her. I had to find out about her grandmoms funeral on the internet on the newspapers website. I thought that was cold that I didn't even get an invite. I went to the veiwing though and paid my last respects. I did see her and talk to her and all these emotions came out. I didn't want it to go down like that because it was about her nana not us at the time but I broke down and got emotional. After we talked I left and asked her if she wanted me to come to the funeral and she replied,"if you want" not the answer I was looking for. As I went home I decided not to go and later that morning she texted me asking me not to come because it was too much for her to handle right now. That was the last time I saw her and spoke to her. I'm trying to just be a friend now and dropping a text or email just to say i'm here as a friend no-strings attached but no response so i'll back off and give it more time. I'm not nessarliy looking to jump back in a full relationship with her again just to be there for her considering we were lovers and friends and she asked me never to leave her and I thought that was going to be the same for me. I appreciate all the responses you guys are giving and I pray everyday for a little hope. This as a man makes me feel so vulnerable for the feelings and emotions i'ved displayed. I can see how people put up an wall for future realtionships, once your heart is broken it takes time for you to let someone back in. I guess in a sense that's what she is going through.

I agree, that it does take time to let someone back in. I know how hard it is for you sweetie, but just be patient, for her. I'm not saying you need to wait around for her forever, but go with whatever your heart tells you to do. She does need to realize everything you've done for her & how much you're still there for her though. Maybe she is trying to tell you that she doesn't want a relationship at the moment, I really don't know. Let me know whats going on though, pm me & tell me if you don't want it to be put on here!! I'm here for ya hun!! Hope to hear from ya soon! <3

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She was seeing someone else all this time and did't have the guts and nerve to tell me. Hiding all of it around her granmothers death. That is some deep caca! I prayed on it and god bought it to light for me. Lessoned learned, beware to all of you and don't look past the signs that are in front of you. I will be a better person because of it. Her loss, thank you to all that listened to my story.........................Scorned

I know deep down inside that once this hits her and wakes up she'll want me back and then guess what? We'll wait and see huh? I am really curious how a rebound relationship is going to work for her. God don't like ugly and when you do dirt you get dirt!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :x

I have moved on guys, I must say god is good and my true friends and family supported me through this and I know that god took her out of my life for a reason and I wish her the best and hopefully she can get help so this new guy wont have to go through what I went through. I am a stronger and better person because of this and you just have to believe and have faith and you can get through times like this. Thank you all for reading my story and comments that helped through this mess.You know I have learned a lot about bp and have explained it to people who didn't know about it. It is serious and can be helped and maintained through therapy and meds. The next time someone says to me in the beginning or middle of the relationship that the are manic, have been with a therapist and have been on meds for certain things, i'm not hesitating to find out and ask as many questions as possible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Wake up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It only helps you for what may possibly happen. You live and you learn. Thanks again guys and good luck with all your situations........God bless...................Stung