Well, I want you all to know that you are
the first people to ever know about my
dysfunction. Since I was 14 I have been
unable to maintain an erection in the
presence of a woman. I can masturbat 3-4
times a day just fine. A lil background,
i'm athletic, loud, outgoing, handsome,
and am a fairly popular person on my
campus. I'm 21 and have been lying about
having sex all my life. Every girl I
have attempted to have sex with has been
nice enough not to expose me. I have
been attracted to girls all my life, but
my sexual dysfunction has me wondering if
i'm gay or something? I'm just sick of
it, I have been suffering my whole life
with this caca and it really ruins my view
of self and my outlook on life sometimes.
My dysfunction makes me feel like i'm
lower than everyone mainly becasue i'm not
even allowed to enojy one of the simplest
and greatest pleasures in life. I
sometimes have probelms with anxiety
outside of sexual situations as well and I
also had some body image problems awhile
ago, but when I was in tip-top shape
(230lb diesal) chicks thought I was hot I
would get them to my room, and than poof,
no ercetion at all! If anyone has any
strategies or tips or something that would
be much appreciated. I'm sick of laying
in my bed depressed at night thinking of
how I might be alone for the rest of my
life.
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Tamadrummer
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2004 Posts: 710 Location: Zephyrhills,Fl
Posted: 01-24-06 07:02am
Is there any reason that you have not gone
to your family doctor and spoken to
him/her about this?
I know it may be weird if this person has
been taking care of your medical needs
forever but you have to understand that
they are professonials and this is a
normal part of thier regemine of
treatment.
They will be able to prescribe medicines
or even better yet, refer you to
specialists that can run tests and either
give you answers or treatments/repairs or
even better yet a combo of the two.
Just because you do not get an erection
when the pressure is on does not make you
gay, (not that there is anything wrong
with it ) (sienfeld reference) it could be
totally stress related and then there is
the possibility that if you were raised in
a christian home, your moral values and
expectations may be keeping you from going
through with it.
The way we always had it explained to us
at youth group was, why go to wendy's for
a cheese burger when if you wait to get
married and learn it all together you get
the entire buffet. (this may not apply
but I figured I would throw that in just
in case)
another ting is that the performance
factor could be a real stressful factor.
Between school, bills, if you have to work
while in school that is stressful and then
having to carry the weight of being
socially popular on your shoulders is
enough to make anyone have some anxiety
issues crop up in one way or another. It
is normal and for most of us that did not
participate in sports durring school and
also were not running around in the highly
popular cliques in school to not have
these types of stress related issues. We
got to drop the school attitudes when
graduation happened, you on the other hand
and most of the folks that were in your
circle of friends are probably all
carrying around problems and everyone
believes that no one is struggling because
it is not cool for the popular guys to
have issues. It is fine and speaking with
your doc can and probably will fix what
you believe is broken.
Good luck and I hope this has helped in
some way or another,
brian
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shyguy215
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jan 2006 Posts: 2 Location: NY
Posted: 01-24-06 07:18am
Thanks for the sincerity. I told my
physician once and she was stating obvious
stuff like, get more sleep,don't drink
coffee, don't drink alcohal. I've tried
it all. I wasn't drinking or smoking or
anything till I was 17 and even than I was
having problems with erections. She
pissed me off b/c I was trying to tell her
my anxiety is serious sometimes especially
in intame situations. But she was just
like I won't give you viagra or ambien,
just take a teaspoon of benadryl sleep
easier. She really pissed me off. But
anyway, I wasn't brought up highly
religious so it's not that. My biggest
queston is, will the doctor just dismiss
me once I explain I have performance
anxiety and not a physical problem. My
testosterone est came back normal too
which is odd, so they'll never believe me.
