Danae,
i wish I could say I understand your frustration but because I am a guy I cannot and so I will not say I do. However I do understand your situation because my wife and I went through years of treatment and a tremendous amount of dissappointment.
Since you are having the problems that you are having and also you desire to have children, there are many options open to you. There is the obvious in adoption but it does have its draw backs. If you chose to adopt, it is best to adopt from a forigen nation due to the fact that the corrupt court system in the united states has given children back to the genetic carrier because they had a change of heart and want back the baby that they gave up.
You can also go to a fertility specialist who can diagnose the problem and come up with a plan of attack to make it possible for you to concieve and have a baby. It is super expensive and the vast majority of insurance plans do not include help for this kind of treatment. Our baby is the $40,000.00 baby, we just got out of bankruptcy court and we are trying to get our finances all back in order but if we had to do it all over again. We would in a second!
Don't give up hope, and don't be afraid to vent and share your feelings with this forum because it is easier for us to forgive and understand than it is for you to have it out on your hubby and then hope that all will still be ok. It is normal to have very bad feelings and it is totally valid to feel them. It is a painful thing to struggle with something that is supposed to be so simple yet for people like us, it is not.
Good luck and please take comfort in the fact that many of us here at ehealthforum have struggled too and we all pray for each other. (those of us that pray anyway)(other sprinkle babydust on you through your internet connection ;>) )
good lucck,
brian