Joined: 23 Jan 2006 Posts: 18 Location: Oxford, UK
Pleasing My Girlfriend... Posted: 01-23-06 14:02pm
Hi there,
i've been seeing a really lovely girl for
about 4 months now, and we've been having
sex for about the last two. I always
think that it takes a long time to get to
know each others' bodies, and so sex, as I
have found it, is never usually that great
until you have been together for a
while.
Well, we've been making love quite a bit
recently, and trying new things out, and I
have only managed to make her come once,
and that was when I went down on her...
I've never been in a position where I
couldn't make my partner come through sex
before, so I am finding this quite hard to
deal with.
It is also compounded by the fact that
after about ten minutes, she often begins
to hurt, and we have to stop. This means
that after the initial enthusiasm for sex,
she begins to dread the pain, doesn't
relax, can't get into it, and the cycle
continues...
I don't really understand why it hurts her
like that, and I don't really know what to
do... Does anyone out there suffer from a
similar problem? Please can someone give
me some advice?
Thanks,
alex
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 01-23-06 15:03pm
Out of the men I have slept with(about 10)
only one has been able to give me an
orgasm,and I actually did it by myself
just by riding him. Some people are
different and it takes them longer to
orgasm than others.And if you know women
well enough it seems that it takes 90% of
us a while to get one.Her hurting can be
several things.If you could have hr
clarify how it hurts then it would be
easier to tell.Is she a virgin? It may
just be that she is tight,or you are big.
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woodsinho
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jan 2006 Posts: 18 Location: Oxford, UK
Posted: 01-23-06 18:24pm
Thanks for your reply melissa.
It's even more difficult because my last
girlfriend would come 2 or 3 times every
time we had sex...
My new missus was a virgin before we got
together, but she doesn't feel that much
tighter than other women I have slept
with. I think i'm pretty much average joe
on the willy size front too, so doubt its
that either!
We were expecting there to be some pain
the first few times we made love, but it
is continuing now, and beginning to make
me very self conscious (i hate the thought
of hurting her, and by association sex is
becoming a source of pain).
Do you think it could be to do with the
kind of condom we use? She is always very
wet, so I don't think we are lacking
lube... We have talked about ditching the
condoms and going natural (we've both had
the tests etc)...
Whaddya think?
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Loved By You
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jan 2006 Posts: 19 Location: Naples, Fl
Re: Pleasing My Girlfriend... Posted: 01-23-06 18:56pm
Well alex, my only advise to you is that
she might be having, and please don' get
me wrong, a yeast infection, but no
worries, she needs to do is buy monistat.
The way it works is that after her
menstrual cycle she'll use it every night
for 3-7 days, depending on which one she
buys. If it fails, then have her go to
her ob-gyn for advice. Hope this helps
much!
