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smurfsgirl
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jan 2006 Posts: 196 Location: PA
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Hello Everyone
Posted: 01-22-06 21:37pm
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Just wanted to say hello to everyone. I
am new here, I am 23 just got married.
I just started ttc. These forums are
awsome on here, I have learned so much
from reading through posts. I'm sure
when the time comes for me, I will have
lots of questions. Good work to all the
ladies (and gentelman) on here who provide
so much info. :wink:
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Jolie_3110
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2005 Posts: 1755 Location: Essex, England
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Posted: 01-26-06 15:12pm
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Hello there! I am 23 and ttc too. Only
difference is we are trying for baby
number 3! (we started early!!) just
wanted to wish you the best of luck!
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
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Posted: 02-06-06 15:03pm
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| jolie_3110
wrote: | | hello there! I am 23 and
ttc too. Only difference is we are
trying for baby number 3! (we started
early!!) just wanted to wish you the best
of luck! |
hey,you say you are on your third
child,congrats to you! How old were you
qwhen you had your first? Is the guy you
are with the father of both your children?
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Jolie_3110
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2005 Posts: 1755 Location: Essex, England
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Posted: 02-06-06 15:09pm
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Hi! I was 18 when I fell pregnant and 19
when I had him! The father and me split
when I was 3mths pregnant, he walked away
and I never saw him again! My 2nd was
born when I was 22, they are now 4yrs and
20 mths and are gorgeous. My new partner
and I have been together for 3yrs this
month.
I am doing a pregnancy test tomorrow to
see whether I am pregnant with baby no3!
Wish me luck! So whats your story?
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
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Posted: 02-06-06 15:35pm
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My story? Well I don't think I am
pregnant but my bf and I have unprotected
sex and its been like that since the first
time. I feel like its right with him and
I would not mind at all having his baby
its just that I am scared that it will
change things so much and I hear all these
people say they fight now and argue and
they don't love each other anymore. I
could be preg,i am only a couple of days
late but nothing out of the ordinary.
Your children don't put any strain on your
relationship?
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Jolie_3110
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2005 Posts: 1755 Location: Essex, England
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Posted: 02-06-06 16:16pm
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No I wouldnt say they do, but you have to
remember when I got with my boyfriend I
already had one child. So he had to deal
with it or get out!! Lol!
I think it depends on how long you have
been together, your age and what you want
for the future! Does your b/friend share
your worry's?
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
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Posted: 02-06-06 16:28pm
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I have not told him how I fel yet bc I
don't think its the right time.Even
though, I think he would say it wouldn't
change his fellings for me. I cried the
other night because I just moved in with
him and I was scared that since I was
living with him and he saw me more it
would over time make him love me less and
he said I was crazy,so I doubt he would
feel the same,however I know he does not
want kids right now.I think the reason it
scares me is that he is not a very patient
person and can be somehwta of a hothead
sometimes.What do you think?
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Jolie_3110
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2005 Posts: 1755 Location: Essex, England
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Posted: 02-06-06 16:44pm
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Believe me I am not a patient person but I
am with my children purely because I have
to be!! You have said that your partner
doesnt want kids right now, I dont want to
preach but if you dont want children as a
couple yet, why arent you using some kind
of bc?
Have you had a bad experience with men b4?
Its just you seem really unconfident with
urself! You moved in with your boyfriend
because you both love each other right?
Why do you think by living together hes
going to love you less?
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
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Posted: 02-07-06 15:18pm
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No problem,i would ask the same question
if I were you.We don't use bc because we
just never have.We decided we should start
using it so we bought some but we only
used them twice.I don't know, it just
feels right and I don't feel like I am
going to get pregnant yet,its just a
feeling. I do want to go on the pill
though but the hours I work won't allow
it, so I have to get a day off.
The last seroius bf I had I was with
for 8 months,and that was 3 yrs ago.We saw
each other everyday for 6 months and I
could not get enough of him,but one day I
just literally woke up and started not to
like him anymore.I thought it was bc we
saw each other so much but after a while I
started to think it was bc we were not on
the same brain level. I guess I don't
want the same thing to happen with us. .
.I am insecure about us,not bc we are bad
together -i love him,but because of past
things that have happened to me and from
hearing about other peoples experiences.
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Thanks: 1
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Posted: 02-07-06 16:18pm
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Welcome smurfsgirl! You just got
married and you are already ttc? Baby
dust to you! I am a little curious
though, I am not judging you or nothing
like that after all it is your choice but
don't you want to spend some time with you
and your new hubby before you get
pregnant.
I do wish you and your new hubby the very
best!
Don't forget, baby dust is on it's way to
you both. We are here for you!
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
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Posted: 02-07-06 16:40pm
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I totally disagree about having babies or
children or even being pregnant does not
change your relationship. When you are
preggars and your hormones are going wacko
and then after the birth of the baby, you
become so focused on that baby and they
wake you up wet and hungry or they are
teething and you are doing without sleep,
you look and feel like a semi truck has
ran over you and you do not feel like
doing the things you used to do, oh yes,
relationships changes, for the next 18
years or so it is a lot different.
Melissa feeling that you will not get
pregnant is not a very good form of b/c it
is just like the pull-out method, but it
is your choice. Good luck!
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smurfsgirl
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jan 2006 Posts: 196 Location: PA
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Posted: 02-10-06 00:36am
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Sandyallen, hi we have been together 6
years and just got married in january.
So we have had alot of time for us
honestly we have talked about it for the
last year I just wanted to wait untill
after the wedding because I was not about
to buy another dress lol! Plus it so
cute how my husband is with our nieces and
nephews he will even babysit them whenever
ther parents need, he's like a big kid
himself lol so I can just imagine how he
would be with ours he will be a great
father.
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