I Need Advise!!! Please!! Posted: 01-22-06 03:18am
Hi.. Im hoping some one can give me some
advise. Im 23 and my boyfriend is 22. We
have been together for 10 months. He lied
to me alot in the beggining of our
relationship and betrayed me but I forgave
him because im so inlove with him. We
are so perfect for eachother. We love
eachother alot but there is one thing we
fight about every day. Its ruining us. I
know he loves me and eevrything but... He
looks around at girls alot. Hes always
noticing girls every where we go. I
always see him glancing at random girls or
staring at them. It hurts my feelings
because its happening alllll the time. I
dont know if it is normal. It makes me
feel like hes not attracted to me. He
always tells me we are going to get
married and he wants to be with me
forever. We are always together.. We
live to gether and we love eachother. Not
that many girls ever look at him and so I
dont understand why he looks at them so
much. Not many girls think he is
attractive but I think hes so hot. Its
like he wants to look around at girls to
see if any are looking at him. To me it
seems like he loves when a girls looks at
him... Even if shes not that pretty.
When we go out to dinner, when we go to
the store, everywhere... He always looks,
glances at, or stares at girls. And when
I tell him to stop he yells at me and is
very mean to me. Its like he cant
controll it when he sees a girl. He never
talks to girls or anything cuz we are
always together. He looks at girls in
front of me and he denys it sooo much. He
says he never looks at girls. We fight
about it so much and we are about to break
up. I love him sooooooooo much. And I
tell him every day how much it hurts me
when hes always looking around. Ya.. I
know its normal for guys to look at
girls... But I cant handle it when he
looks at ugly girls and when he notices
any kind of females every where we go. I
dont look at guys in front of him and I
dont want to. What makes my boyfriend
want to look around at dumb girls all the
time? He even looks at older women, moms,
and way young girls. Am I the one with
the problem?? I try not to let it bother
me but it does. He will never stop this
so I need to get over him or deal with
this. My ex boyfriend never checked
girls out in front of me so I know not
every guy is like this. Why does my
boyfriend do this? Is he really horny or
not ready for a relationship???
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czarg
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2006 Posts: 68 Location: Lagos-Nigeria
Yr Heart Posted: 01-22-06 09:13am
Hey babe, change a bit on d pressure. It
doesn't hurt as much as you weigh it.
Maybe u r taking this farther than normal.
Cut d pressure pls else you will lose out
in d end.
He will adjust if you do less barking and
more encouragements.
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Jennifer23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2005 Posts: 76 Location: Texas
Posted: 01-22-06 10:29am
Jessica777, you have to keep in mind that
your boyfriend is only a man. He has
eyes and he is going to use them. Face
it ... Men look at women and women look
at men. Your last boyfriend probably did
it, he just wasn't so obvious.
We all have eyes for a reason. If he
isn't flirting with the girl or making eye
contact and taking it over the line, then
I wouldn't worry about it. Let him look
because it's purely innocent. If he ever
takes it too far, though, then there would
be a problem.