I'm 13 and i've been cutting myself for about 2 1/2 years.Its really hard for me to talk about it to most my friend because people who don't cut themselves it seems like they don't really get it.My bestfriend is a cutter too but she isn't as bad as I am...She's trying to stop.I'm not sure if I want to stop because its helping but I know some people at school have seen my cuts but I didn't show them and I don't do it for attention and they think i'm crazy or whatever.I don't think i'm crazy but then again maybe only the crazy consider themselves not crazy but still wonder if maybe they are crazy after all...Anyways,my older sister was a cutter from 14-17 or 18 and then now she does drugs so she just went from one way of hurting herself to another.Like I said i'm not sure if I want to stop but is that a bad thing?I mean it does help me and i'm not suicidal I just and trying to get rid of stress and anger and stuff.I'm glad that I found this website though because I can talk to other people who have gone through the same thing I am or are going through the same thing I am. I just sometimes because of this I guess I don't know what to do with myself...I have trust issues thanks to certain people in my life so when people leave or even die my cutting gets way worst then just my other problems...Does anyone else do this?
I've been there and I have recovered. I find that long walks and excercise help a lot. Have will power in yourself. I only stopped cutting coz it was bothering my friends and I didn't want to hurt them. Found it really hard. But was worth it in the end.
I'm 18 and have si'd for bout 4 years did stop from bout ages 15-16 and re-started the problem is your likely to go through phases of doing it and stopping and re-starting. You have to find out what is best for you, for example some find warm baths help others find that as a trigger. Your young yet and u have time, but if you have to try and do it as superficially as possible and try telling someone who you think will understand...That will not always be your closest friend....Let me know how u get on
I am not personally a cutter but my fiancee was. In actual fact she stopped the day we met. She had been cutting herself for years due to pressure from so called friends and parents. I found out once she told me about two weeks into the relationship. I personally wasnt upset, annoyed anything I just wanted to help. She told me she cut herself up to 5 times a week and did it with mind blanks not actually remembering what she had done but since she met me she had stopped. Ive seen the scars and they dont put me off. She said since she has met and and trusts me so much she has become less pressured and feels free and alive. She hasnt needed to do it. What I am saying is get someone who you trust it doesnt have to be a boyfriend someone who will take you out relieve you of your pressures and make you feel free. Someone who will try and help. I know its hard at your age as you cant trust your friends as much. I know im 18 now and my friends have changed alot and its different now. So you need someone whos been there a long time and who can tell your secrets etc too. It will help. If not a friend try to find yourself something that will occupy your mind and relieve your stress. Maybe go to a self defence class makes you help to stop and to protect yourself. Just an idea. If im climbing up the wrong tree just reply and ill see what else I can try to help you with. Good luck you will do it, just take time and relieve the stress. If noone else listens talk to me send a private message ive helped a fair few people before. Lol
your letter really touched me - you are so young and have your life ahead of you but I do understand how you are feeling. I obviously do not know any underlying issues you may have or where your parents fit in etc but are you seeing a doctor or anyone to can relate to.
I understand as a mother of a 19 year old daughter who has been self-harming since she was 15 - she has been in and out of hospital countless times and stayed for weeks on end there as she has to calm down and learn to cope. There have been a few times when she has cut too deep and had to be rushed to emergency for stitches. She is now slowly starting to cope with stress etc by herself and has not si'd for a month now (a long time for her). You are certainly not crazy but have an illness - unfortuantely there seems to be a lot of stigma attached to si and I believe there should be provision in the schools whereby, all of these are discussed - maybe then, friends etc would be able to help out more and be supportive. We unfortunately don't have anything in place in australia - not sure about where you are.
Please try and speak to someone about what you are doing - is really not easy honey I know, but the fact that you have entered into the forum shows what a strong person you are as you want to get help.
You are a beautiful young person on the brink of your teens and my heart and prayers go out to you
I used to cut...
Just as long u dont get out of hand it is a gd way of releasing ur feelings.
What u need to know about cutting is that you do it for two reasons
it creats impulses that make u feel better
it is a way of displaying the fact that u are upset and that u are feeling alone and noone else can see ur feelings and it helps to show it in this way
if u do want to give up then here are some tips from when I did
1) instead of cutting use ice on wherever u normally cut and hold it there it
can hurt more then cutting and it will have the same affect as cutting but it wont scar u.
2) think about the consequences of cutting if ever u do give up I have been close to relapsing back into cutting and u just have to say to urself thats what u might feel like doing but u have stopped for a long time and u'll feel better later
3) when I said about showing people about ur feelings by cutting it may be helpful to write a diary with ur feelings just quick stuff off the top of ur head it doesnt have to be poems but sometimes they may help
send me a personal message if u do decide to give up and ill give u support as u go. Or if u just need someone to relay your feelings too im going thru the same things as u
i have been through this and was also bad at one stage in my life good luck with trying to give up and if u dont want to then its not so bad
So pretty much i'm almost 15 and i have been cutting for the past year or two. I've had alot of thoughts of suicide lately and its overbearing. My bestfriend is a cutting too but not like as bad as I am. I can't go to anyone with what I'm feeling cause it gets thrown back into my face as that I'm trying to do this for attention. I found cutting as my release of pain when I started to cry almost every night and when my dad told me how he was so disappointed in me and that he wish he never had me. And it's just gone from undercontroll from I do it like 2-3 times a night cause I'm always crying. So pretty much I don't really know what to do anymore, I came really close to taking my own life the other night intell I heard a car door shut and I put the knife back.
kmlsx3--honey welcome to the forum..you do need to talk with someone up close and personal--do you go to church, could you talk to the youth pastor? Can you go to the police station, fire department and tell someone you want to talk..Can you make an appointemnt with your primary care doctor and talk with him or her? Your friend who is a cutter do you all talk? Does your friend want to quit? YOu can make a pack together to call on each other for support..
I am sorry your dad is having a hard time with you but you know what that's his problem and you are not the problem..Please understand that..It doesn't take from the issue but you need to know you are not at fault..
Everyone feels cutting is a form of release..We all used it to try to stop the pain around us but in the end with just gave ourself more pain..
Would you use this energy to get our and do things to keep yourself busy..You need to be around others so that you will not cut..You need to put all things you have used out of the house and foucs on getting better..
Someday you will have a child of your own and you want to stand strong for her or him..You can do this honey..
I am sending you hugs and angels to watch over you..I am here if you want to talk..You can PM if you like..kd
can any one HELP me pleas i cut myself today just because i thought it was cool and i relised it wasnt but now im scared i will do it again but i dont want to its scars me that i did it in the first place pleas can any one help or give sum advise
can any one help me pleas i cut myself today because i thought it was cool but i now know it isnt but im scared i might do it again it really scares me i dont know how i could do that to myself pleas can sum one help i dont want to think about it i dont want to be scared that i can hurt myself