Cut Myself...umm Advice...comments,help Wanted And Needed

God bless you

I've been there and I have recovered. I find that long walks and excercise help a lot. Have will power in yourself. I only stopped cutting coz it was bothering my friends and I didn't want to hurt them. Found it really hard. But was worth it in the end.

I'm 18 and have si'd for bout 4 years did stop from bout ages 15-16 and re-started the problem is your likely to go through phases of doing it and stopping and re-starting. You have to find out what is best for you, for example some find warm baths help others find that as a trigger. Your young yet and u have time, but if you have to try and do it as superficially as possible and try telling someone who you think will understand...That will not always be your closest friend....Let me know how u get on

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I am not personally a cutter but my fiancee was. In actual fact she stopped the day we met. She had been cutting herself for years due to pressure from so called friends and parents. I found out once she told me about two weeks into the relationship. I personally wasnt upset, annoyed anything I just wanted to help. She told me she cut herself up to 5 times a week and did it with mind blanks not actually remembering what she had done but since she met me she had stopped. Ive seen the scars and they dont put me off. She said since she has met and and trusts me so much she has become less pressured and feels free and alive. She hasnt needed to do it. What I am saying is get someone who you trust it doesnt have to be a boyfriend someone who will take you out relieve you of your pressures and make you feel free. Someone who will try and help. I know its hard at your age as you cant trust your friends as much. I know im 18 now and my friends have changed alot and its different now. So you need someone whos been there a long time and who can tell your secrets etc too. It will help. If not a friend try to find yourself something that will occupy your mind and relieve your stress. Maybe go to a self defence class makes you help to stop and to protect yourself. Just an idea. If im climbing up the wrong tree just reply and ill see what else I can try to help you with. Good luck you will do it, just take time and relieve the stress. If noone else listens talk to me send a private message ive helped a fair few people before. Lol

Hi
your letter really touched me - you are so young and have your life ahead of you but I do understand how you are feeling. I obviously do not know any underlying issues you may have or where your parents fit in etc but are you seeing a doctor or anyone to can relate to.
I understand as a mother of a 19 year old daughter who has been self-harming since she was 15 - she has been in and out of hospital countless times and stayed for weeks on end there as she has to calm down and learn to cope. There have been a few times when she has cut too deep and had to be rushed to emergency for stitches. She is now slowly starting to cope with stress etc by herself and has not si'd for a month now (a long time for her). You are certainly not crazy but have an illness - unfortuantely there seems to be a lot of stigma attached to si and I believe there should be provision in the schools whereby, all of these are discussed - maybe then, friends etc would be able to help out more and be supportive. We unfortunately don't have anything in place in australia - not sure about where you are.
Please try and speak to someone about what you are doing - is really not easy honey I know, but the fact that you have entered into the forum shows what a strong person you are as you want to get help.
You are a beautiful young person on the brink of your teens and my heart and prayers go out to you
bless you

I used to cut...
Just as long u dont get out of hand it is a gd way of releasing ur feelings.



What u need to know about cutting is that you do it for two reasons

it creats impulses that make u feel better
it is a way of displaying the fact that u are upset and that u are feeling alone and noone else can see ur feelings and it helps to show it in this way

if u do want to give up then here are some tips from when I did


1) instead of cutting use ice on wherever u normally cut and hold it there it
can hurt more then cutting and it will have the same affect as cutting but it wont scar u.

2) think about the consequences of cutting if ever u do give up I have been close to relapsing back into cutting and u just have to say to urself thats what u might feel like doing but u have stopped for a long time and u'll feel better later

3) when I said about showing people about ur feelings by cutting it may be helpful to write a diary with ur feelings just quick stuff off the top of ur head it doesnt have to be poems but sometimes they may help

send me a personal message if u do decide to give up and ill give u support as u go. Or if u just need someone to relay your feelings too im going thru the same things as u

i have been through this and was also bad at one stage in my life good luck with trying to give up and if u dont want to then its not so bad

take care
gavin, 16