I'm so sorry you have to endure tmj like the rest of us, but we're here to help! If you've read my other posts, I'm a big proponent of natural remedies. Doctors are going to tell you about surgeries and medications, and they do work for some, but a lot of them are painful and expensive.
I have developed a method of meditation over the years that has really helped me curb my tmj pain. I go into a dark room for about a half hour and concentrate on nothing else but my breathing and I usually shut my eyes.
I use a product I found online called the Face Caddy to help me with this process. It' a velcro wrap that goes around my head and helps me put heat packs on my jaw. I use it during my half hour of meditation per day and it has worked wonders for me.
Please let me know if you have any other questions as we'd all be more than glad to help!
stay strong...