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Hopeless_Ox_Dymes
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2006
Posts: 5
Location: Syracuse
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Can Anyone Help?
Posted: 01-21-06 21:16pm
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Ok...I know this is a weird long story but
please read...4 days ago I was babysitting
at my neighbors house when the lady I was
babysitting for daughters boyfriend came
over...They had gotten into a fight and he
seemed agravated....He just grabbed me and
started kissing me then he pulled me into
the next room and started taking my
clothes off... I did tell him no but he
didnt seem to care what I thought about it
we had sex and didnt use any
protection...And now I dont know what to
do...I know its to early to tell if I
would be pregnant or not...But I dont know
if thats considered rape considering he's
24 and I told him no?...I dont know if I
should tell anyone or keep it to myself
and wait and see what happens?...I just
really confused about the whole thing...
Does anyone have any advise or did I come
to the wrong board?
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yellow ribbon
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Joined: 07 Dec 2005
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Location: FL
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Posted: 01-21-06 23:55pm
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Thats definately rape if you said no (and
meant it) report the health questions so
he can't do it again. As for pregnancy
its still to early to tell you gotta wait
like 10 more days. Really sorry that
happened to you.
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~rubmybuddahbelly~
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jan 2006
Posts: 752
Location: :( N.O. Evacuee now in TEXAS
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Posted: 01-22-06 03:01am
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Ummmm I belive it could be rape but it
dosent seem like you tried to hard to make
him stop either. Im not trying to be rude
or say anything but it seems odd. You
need to tell his wife or girlfriend about
whats going on and let them work that out
and you tell your parents or something.
Thats pretty crazy you dont need to go
back there either
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Hopeless_Ox_Dymes
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2006
Posts: 5
Location: Syracuse
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Posted: 01-22-06 03:17am
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Your right I didn't try to hard to stop
him...I did tell him I didnt want to..I
was scared tho..Alone in a strange house
with no phone and a 4 year old sleeping in
the next room...I thought if I fought him
he would hurt me...So I didnt and he left
afterward...I feel like totally caca and
cant help thinking im the one to blame...
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~rubmybuddahbelly~
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jan 2006
Posts: 752
Location: :( N.O. Evacuee now in TEXAS
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Posted: 01-22-06 03:19am
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Dont make your self feel bad... I wasnt
trying to degrade you or anything like
that... But you should really tell
someone and if u need anything im here
girl... U can hit me up when ever... Do
u have aim or yahoo... ??
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Hopeless_Ox_Dymes
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2006
Posts: 5
Location: Syracuse
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Posted: 01-22-06 03:24am
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Yeh my aim sn is hopeless ox dyme..
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Hopeless_Ox_Dymes
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2006
Posts: 5
Location: Syracuse
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~rubmybuddahbelly~
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jan 2006
Posts: 752
Location: :( N.O. Evacuee now in TEXAS
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Posted: 01-22-06 03:32am
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Yeah girl... Add me on aim and hit me up
when ever.... My name is onliioneluv
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~*~Jillian~*~
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Joined: 01 Feb 2005
Posts: 1759
Location: Tennessee, USA
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Re: Can Anyone Help?
Posted: 01-22-06 17:12pm
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| hopeless_ox_dymes
wrote: | | ok...I know this is a weird
long story but please read...4 days ago I
was babysitting at my neighbors house when
the lady I was babysitting for daughters
boyfriend came over...They had gotten into
a fight and he seemed agravated....He just
grabbed me and started kissing me then he
pulled me into the next room and started
taking my clothes off... I did tell him
no but he didnt seem to care what I
thought about it we had sex and didnt use
any protection...And now I dont know what
to do...I know its to early to tell if I
would be pregnant or not...But I dont know
if thats considered rape considering he's
24 and I told him no?...I dont know if I
should tell anyone or keep it to myself
and wait and see what happens?...I just
really confused about the whole thing...
Does anyone have any advise or did I come
to the wrong
board? |
i think the best thing to do would be tell
your parents first...Because you need
someone thats a adult to help you with
this..Because if you were to go and tell
his girlfriend/wife ...They probably
wouldnt believe you ..And if your parents
are involved im sure the problem will be
solved much faster..Im really sorry to
hear that this happened to you ..And I
would also not babysit there anymore
..Seems like a bad place for
children/teens ...
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Hopeless_Ox_Dymes
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2006
Posts: 5
Location: Syracuse
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Posted: 01-22-06 19:07pm
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I know I should tell my mom but I dont
think I can...I dont want her to know that
it happened...And for telling his
girlfriend she would blame me...She not
exactly the most understanding person...I
guess you guys have to know these people
to understand there very cold hearted
people and really wouldn't care...And its
not like I can take it to court or
anything because he has 4 young kids and
another due in may and I dont want to know
that im the one that took there father
away from them...
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chrissy721
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Posted: 01-22-06 19:54pm
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| hopeless_ox_dymes
wrote: | | i know I should tell my mom
but I dont think I can...I dont want her
to know that it happened...And for telling
his girlfriend she would blame me...She
not exactly the most understanding
person...I guess you guys have to know
these people to understand there very cold
hearted people and really wouldn't
care...And its not like I can take it to
court or anything because he has 4 young
kids and another due in may and I dont
want to know that im the one that took
there father away from
them... |
hun,
you may be doing them a favor...This guy
could be secretly messing with those
kids...And not telling someone could be
worse for them....My sister was raped by a
guy she was babysitting for...Twice...She
didn't tell anyone the first time, but did
the second. Turns out he did this to his
wife (before marriage, long story, but
she's actually retarted (for real
retarted) and married the guy cuz she got
pregnant. He did it to his kids, (2 kids
both under age of 4) his neices who were
my sisters age and a friend of hers too.
All of them were too scared to come
forward until my sister did. It's true
that those kids don't have their dad with
them right now, but the don't have someone
molesting them day after day, hour after
hour either.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 01-22-06 21:49pm
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You can still get the morning after pill
if you want, it can be taken within 5 days
of unprotected intercourse. Planne
dparenthood would be able to help.
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