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My boyfriend loves it when i'm on top but I feel really uncomfortable with it, mainly because of lack of experience. I tend to lose concentration quick and have problems with rythm unless if he is moving too.
Any have tips for being on top?
Half the time I feel lost while doing it. Maybe its psychological because I feel like I can't do it but I need to figure this out, he gets too tired doing all the work.
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replied January 22nd, 2006
I feel the same way. I've been having sex for awhile, but I still hate being on top in the reverse cowboy position. I get leg cramps, it's harder to have an orgasm because i'm concentrating so hard on keeping up with the rythm my husband wants, and the worst is when you go up too high and the penis falls out, then you land on it, kills the mood for the man when that happens thats for sure!

Only advice I can give you is to try it on a couch, or somewhere where he's sitting in an upright position, and try it like that. I never have problems like that and can orgasm very easily too! If your man really wants you to be on top in the "reverse cowboy" position, then you should lay on top of him instead of going up and down. You get the stimulation you need, and it's a lot less pressure on your legs. And if you do want to do the whole up and down thing, switch from doing it face to face, to the opposite direction (trying to explain these things the best I can>.<) hope I helped ya a little!
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replied January 22nd, 2006
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Re: Help Need Tips For Being On Top
munky23 wrote:
my boyfriend loves it when i'm on top but I feel really uncomfortable with it, mainly because of lack of experience. I tend to lose concentration quick and have problems with rythm unless if he is moving too.
Any have tips for being on top?

Half the time I feel lost while doing it. Maybe its psychological because I feel like I can't do it but I need to figure this out, he gets too tired doing all the work.


well me and my fiance normally do it with me on top..In missonary position..You just need to not worry about keeping rythm...The more you think about it the more you will mess up...Because im sure your boyfriend isnt paying much attention to the rythm...Lol but im sure the more you do it the easier it gets...When I first got with my fiance I think out of nervousness we both messed up on things...But once you learn and get use to someone things get much funner and much pleasurable because you dont have to worry about making mistakes and things like that..Just laugh it off if you mess up ..Dont make a big deal of things :wink:
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replied January 23rd, 2006
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You know,think about when you dance.When you dance you have rhythm (unless you suck at dancing).Play a song (in your head or on a cd)and get the rythm of it.Or get on top and just go with it.When you get something that feels good keep moving in that way,thats what I do.I use to be insecure about being on top,but after a while of being with someone you aren't so insecure anymore and are more open and prone to do things! Give it time
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replied January 24th, 2006
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Its ok to feel weird on top, I do too. My boyfriend loves it, but i've only had one sex partner, him, and I have no idea how it works to be on top. We've been having sex for 2 years now and its still the same thing. The only thing I can say is that for me the up and down motion works real well, at least for me. I had a friend tell me once that being on top is like being on a horse, you go up and down, back and forth. But I didn't like it so much. So what I did was try different ways. And about loosing concentration, it helps if you look at him while its going on.
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replied January 24th, 2006
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Thanks for the replies. I do think about it too much and worry about rythm. I know that def. Takes away from the experience and thats probably why I like him in control.
Guess I need some practicing!
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replied January 25th, 2006
Well with my first partner I did it once and it killed me so through out that 3yr relationship I never did it again.Now i'm with some one else and he's asking me to do it.

I really didnt want to do it.I did try though and I swear it was horrible.Maybe it my height.I've heard that the position for lil women.Im 5'11 and my boyfriend is 6'3. I also did it by crouching while he lay down. I know this is horibble to say but I dont think his penis is long enough.I went up and down and he seemed to be ok with it but I felt nothing.
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replied March 29th, 2011
i know me too i'm 5'9 and my boyfriend is 6'3!! definatly a challenge
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replied January 25th, 2006
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juicy wrote:
well with my first partner I did it once and it killed me so through out that 3yr relationship I never did it again.Now i'm with some one else and he's asking me to do it.


I really didnt want to do it.I did try though and I swear it was horrible.Maybe it my height.I've heard that the position for lil women.Im 5'11 and my boyfriend is 6'3. I also did it by crouching while he lay down. I know this is horibble to say but I dont think his penis is long enough.I went up and down and he seemed to be ok with it but I felt nothing.


your tall..Maybe thats why its hard for you ..Like you said..Im 5'2 and I love being on top its the best thing ever...Maybe you guys should try it sideways..Or doggy style ..
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replied January 27th, 2006
We've done those styles.I asked my m8 cause shes taller than me and she says is got nothing to do with my height cause she does it all the time and shes 6'2 and her mans my height. Maybe its just me
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replied January 31st, 2006
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Hey juicy maybe its just me too lol
he used to have me be on top and I was uncomfortable
now for the past month I haven't been on top
usually its because I am tight, so he has to start up on top, cause he's good at being gentle and easing it in (which I can't do on top lol)
or it hurts

the only time being on top was good was when I drank 2 shots before that :(
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replied July 1st, 2009
i need help too? ive just started seeing someone and were planning on having sex he says he gets tired out when on top and he wants me to be on top ive only had sex twice before and i went on top for about 10 seconds, this was missionairy style too. i really cant do it on top? i just get tired out and cant seem to go up and down all the time, also its awquard getting the postition. i really want me to be his best? somehow it doesnt seem like its gonna happen. any ideas:/
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replied December 30th, 2009
ahh same here! my boyfriend i know would love to have me up top, but i get nervous and it semms to always slip out! i dont know what to do! i tried up and down and thats what kept makin it slip out! people say to "grind" on him then? what does that mean? i think we both need help on that one! yout not the only one! ughh lol.
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replied January 28th, 2010
I imagine hula hooping on my husbands penis. i just get on top and do my hips in a circle and every few minutes i swap and go counter clock wise this always works for me and also doing it on the couch or with him sittin up in the bed is alot easier!!
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replied January 28th, 2010
Not to worry - sloppy sex is never noticed. Get horse back riding lessons or just go horse back riding. You will remember the motion of riding the horse when having sex on top. When a women is on top of me I'd rather do the moving. I just don't like the slow easy motion that I typically experienced from women when they are on top. Fast, slamming action is where the excitement is!
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replied January 29th, 2010
I have the same problem. I feel like I have zero rhythm and like I'm doing it totally wrong. He insists that it feels good, however I am not convinced. I don't want him to think I expect him to do all the work, but I just can't get the hang of this girl on top thing. Everyone's advice was helpful and I've realized I think it just takes practice and becoming more and more comfortable with your partner!
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replied February 4th, 2010
I thought I was only one with this prob. I've been like 3 years with same man and I still suck being on top. We don't even do it anymore, cause I just aint that good. I tried this morning, when He ask'ed me to, but after few seconds we switch positions, again. Dont know but I juswt dont know how to move myself, it's maybe sounds stupid cause how can'�¤t you know how to move yourself, to feel pleasure? Everyone knows how they like it, but how can't I use the knowledge of knowing and my body at the same time? just dont knooow how to do it, i reallyreally suck!! Maybe that's the biggest problem to me, not trusting myself... Don't know..
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replied February 21st, 2010
Wow I thought it was just me coz I'm chubby and have thick thighs.. I know that could be a contributing factor for sure. But my bf doesn't let me do it as much brcause I find it awkward and we just switch. He's my first intimate partner for the last 3 years and I still haven't perfected it. The music idea sounds good... And I horse ride but still fail :p I guess you just gotta get straight back on the horse so to speak. Oh and studying porn positions helped a lil. A but if motivation to prove that I can do anything she does.
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replied November 28th, 2010
I feel exactly the same i have been with my bf for nearly 3 years ive tried being on top many times but i just cant seem to get the hang of it and i feel ashamed that am kinda shite at it my bf tells me not to get ashamed but i cant help it i feel stupid i really do want to be good on top for him because feels like he does all the work can anyone give me any tips of being on top about how to move ? Thanks
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replied January 14th, 2011
Too tall, too chubby, blah blah blah. Horseback riding lessons?! Dudettes, it's simple. Just arch your back and move your hips. Sit like the little kid who's intently listening to her teacher read a storybook--knees bent, feet pointing toward the foot of the bed, and your inner thighs flush with the bed. This technique works beautifully for both the missionary and reverse cowgirl positions. Remember, ARCH THAT BACK! Not only does it look unbelievably hot but it makes grinding your man so much easier. Watch a Jayden Jaymes porno - she taught me everything I know Wink

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replied March 4th, 2011
OMG!!! im the samee wayyy.
my boyfriend has had sex with a lot of girls in the past and is really expirenced! ive only had sex once before him, but him and i have sex like crazy but he is ALWAYS on top!! im a dance and i know once i got the hang of it i would be good but im just scared and i guess i wanna be good right off the bat! but i get soo nerous that i just tighten up!! and like iunnnooo mann! Razz and people say to ask him what he likes or get him to guide my hips but that just screams awkward!
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