I feel the same way. I've been having sex for awhile, but I still hate being on top in the reverse cowboy position. I get leg cramps, it's harder to have an orgasm because i'm concentrating so hard on keeping up with the rythm my husband wants, and the worst is when you go up too high and the penis falls out, then you land on it, kills the mood for the man when that happens thats for sure!

Only advice I can give you is to try it on a couch, or somewhere where he's sitting in an upright position, and try it like that. I never have problems like that and can orgasm very easily too! If your man really wants you to be on top in the "reverse cowboy" position, then you should lay on top of him instead of going up and down. You get the stimulation you need, and it's a lot less pressure on your legs. And if you do want to do the whole up and down thing, switch from doing it face to face, to the opposite direction (trying to explain these things the best I can>.<) hope I helped ya a little!

well me and my fiance normally do it with me on top..In missonary position..You just need to not worry about keeping rythm...The more you think about it the more you will mess up...Because im sure your boyfriend isnt paying much attention to the rythm...Lol but im sure the more you do it the easier it gets...When I first got with my fiance I think out of nervousness we both messed up on things...But once you learn and get use to someone things get much funner and much pleasurable because you dont have to worry about making mistakes and things like that..Just laugh it off if you mess up ..Dont make a big deal of things :wink:

You know,think about when you dance.When you dance you have rhythm (unless you suck at dancing).Play a song (in your head or on a cd)and get the rythm of it.Or get on top and just go with it.When you get something that feels good keep moving in that way,thats what I do.I use to be insecure about being on top,but after a while of being with someone you aren't so insecure anymore and are more open and prone to do things! Give it time

Its ok to feel weird on top, I do too. My boyfriend loves it, but i've only had one sex partner, him, and I have no idea how it works to be on top. We've been having sex for 2 years now and its still the same thing. The only thing I can say is that for me the up and down motion works real well, at least for me. I had a friend tell me once that being on top is like being on a horse, you go up and down, back and forth. But I didn't like it so much. So what I did was try different ways. And about loosing concentration, it helps if you look at him while its going on.

Thanks for the replies. I do think about it too much and worry about rythm. I know that def. Takes away from the experience and thats probably why I like him in control.
Guess I need some practicing!

Well with my first partner I did it once and it killed me so through out that 3yr relationship I never did it again.Now i'm with some one else and he's asking me to do it.

I really didnt want to do it.I did try though and I swear it was horrible.Maybe it my height.I've heard that the position for lil women.Im 5'11 and my boyfriend is 6'3. I also did it by crouching while he lay down. I know this is horibble to say but I dont think his penis is long enough.I went up and down and he seemed to be ok with it but I felt nothing.

your tall..Maybe thats why its hard for you ..Like you said..Im 5'2 and I love being on top its the best thing ever...Maybe you guys should try it sideways..Or doggy style ..

We've done those styles.I asked my m8 cause shes taller than me and she says is got nothing to do with my height cause she does it all the time and shes 6'2 and her mans my height. Maybe its just me

Hey juicy maybe its just me too lol
he used to have me be on top and I was uncomfortable
now for the past month I haven't been on top
usually its because I am tight, so he has to start up on top, cause he's good at being gentle and easing it in (which I can't do on top lol)
or it hurts

the only time being on top was good was when I drank 2 shots before that :(

i need help too? ive just started seeing someone and were planning on having sex he says he gets tired out when on top and he wants me to be on top ive only had sex twice before and i went on top for about 10 seconds, this was missionairy style too. i really cant do it on top? i just get tired out and cant seem to go up and down all the time, also its awquard getting the postition. i really want me to be his best? somehow it doesnt seem like its gonna happen. any ideas:/