Okay, i'm jennies lil sister,....But
either way
i've been going out with my bf for like
over 2 years and I love him to death! But
lately i've been talking to his best
friend who just moved back to canada and
lives near me. He has a gf too....But we
kindda both have a thing for eachother and
its so weird. Like I want to persue it
but I also want to stay with my bf..But I
don't want to cheat. I just feel so
comfortable opening up to him about stuff
I never talk to my bf about....Am I a
horrible person for this?? Is there any
way to stop these feelings?
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hellburn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Sep 2005 Posts: 59 Location: vic australia
Posted: 01-20-06 22:02pm
First off you not a horribly person for
having feelings for someone. And sorry
but the only way I now to stop feelings is
there isn't. Sorry I can't help.
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czarg
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2006 Posts: 68 Location: Lagos-Nigeria
Proof Yrself Right Or Wrong! Posted: 01-31-06 10:19am
U need to proof to yrself why dis guy is
better, closer to u dan yr b/f. If u
produce reasons why he is better and
attracts u better then u might begin
thinkin if u may move on or not.
Where u will find lasting happiness is d
priority here, I think. Take yr time.
Don't hurt emotions unduly only to realise
u didn't need it.
Be careful. Lastly, u r not horrible!
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princessdiana7586
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2005 Posts: 49
Posted: 01-31-06 11:23am
You have to figure out what you really
want. If you are having feelings for
another guy, then you obviously don't love
your boyfriend. Maybe you should have a
talk with your boyfriend about what you
have together. Maybe he is losing
interest the same as you are. Maybe a
break would be good for you. I'm assuming
you're young. And if so, you have plenty
of time to figure out what you really want
out of life. If you do take a break with
your boyfriend I suggest you make "rules",
such as if you date other people then it
should be limited to no kissing or
something like that. Just to see if your
feelings for your boyfriend are true.
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fatfamily02
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 01-31-06 11:55am
It is perfectly normal to make a great
bond with the b/f best friend. And
romantic feelings are usually right close
to the top--in situations like this, and
of course they are the listeners, and you
can talk to them more easily--always is
that way. It is always that way. Or
unless you hate the best friend. It is
either love all the way---or hate all the
way. That is just how it is!!!! It is
so normal to form this bond. Now if
bestfriend had a wonderful girlfriend you
all would balance each other out.
He(b/f) could go to her, and you could go
to him(best friend). Unspoken love,
unspoken bond, unspoken rule!
Now, you have to ask yourself if it is
just a comfortable situation because there
is no committment, or if the feelings are
stronger than for the b/f. And remember
it may go completely the opposite, when
the b/f is outta the picture. It depends
on his committment to his friend.
Sometimes they may even have the same
feelings as you--but will not persue it
due to the loyalty they have for their
friend.
And it may just be that normal bond that
we build with those close to us, and close
to those who love, who we love. Maybe
your affection for him is because of the
way you feel about your b/f.????
I hope I have given you something to think
about. Good luck in the decisions you
may make.
