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Q: Help Im In Pain
asked by: hurt22 on January 19th, 2006
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Hi guys, gals

i have been seeing this guy for about 6 months now. Everything went well up until a month ago. We didnt see each other much since I work and go to school at the same time and my schedule is very tight, but when we did see each other it was always nice and warm. We talk and text message all the time. He is really sweet at least he used to be. About a month ago he started to get really rude and disrespectful towards me. It hurts me when he is like this. Also, it's like he has mood swings or something like that. I never know how hes going to react to my phone calls or messages. I hate thinking that I did something to piss him off. I try to be extra nice to him when he is having one of his bad days even if it makes me feel sad. I am not the kind of person that puts other people down and he is. He puts me down and I put up with it cuz I care about him a great deal. He says he cares about me too, but deep down I know he is bsing. Just last week I told him that if I irritate him I want him to let me know. He said I dont, but yesterday he told me that I do, and that he needs time to think. He said he cant take too much of anyone. I mean we have seen each other maybe once a week throughout this whole time and he tells me he needs time to think. Making me look like im pushing for something. I dont know, im very confused and I am starting to feel remorse for him. We were really good firneds before any of this happened. I feel hurt and sad because I tried so hard to satisfy him and then he comes up with this. I am starting to think I gave to freely. What should I do? How should I approach this issue? Please help!!!!!!!!!!!
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~baby~g~
replied on January 20th, 2006
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Well, my bf used to be like this, we've been together for a year now! He still has his bad days & he likes to take it out on me every once in awhile. He has for the past two days now, I know it gets very annoying. What I do is just comfort him & let him know how much I love him & how much i'll always be here for him. Yes, it hurts my feelings and I do yell back sometimes but we both always realize what we're doing & apologize. I mean I dunno if you're as close to your man as I am to mine, but he's like one of my best friends also, we tell each other everything. I get so upset with him sometimes that I tell him it's over but we both know I don't mean it & it never gets mentioned after that. My advice to you is do you think he is really worth all the pain? If so, then stay with him & always be there for him to lean on, but if not then break it off with him. Either one, it's your choice!

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hurt22
replied on January 22nd, 2006
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Thanks baby g. I see where you are coming from. As of right now, im not sure what to do. My schedule is full and I try not to let this interfer with my school and work, I will have to have a talk with him and see whats going on.
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teach486
replied on January 29th, 2006
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It could also be that there is someone new in the picture, and he just doesn't want to hurt you by telling you the truth. I have done it, and have had it done to me. I acted this same way, and they acted that way, too.
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Lillyvan777
replied on January 29th, 2006
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I'm So Sorry Your In Pain!
I know it sucks. But please try and remember you only have six months invested and if I knew what I know today, and if I were you I would bolt. Run as fast as you can. Try and fill your time with your friends, or family. And if you really think he's worth it, he will come to you. I think it's a boundary think. If you let him treat you this way now, he will never, stop once the relationship becomes more stable. Boundaries, I think I needed them four years ago.
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Happiness03
replied on January 29th, 2006
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teach486 wrote:
it could also be that there is someone new in the picture, and he just doesn't want to hurt you by telling you the truth. I have done it, and have had it done to me. I acted this same way, and they acted that way, too.


that was the first thing to pop into my mind when I was reading about the way he now all of the sudden seems to have little interest and sometimes finds you annyoing. I would confront him about the way he is acting. Especially if you guys don't see each other very much, he would have sufficient time to find someone new.
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hurt22
replied on January 31st, 2006
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Thanks All
I appreciate everyones advice very much. It has been hard on me. I am the kind of person who doesn't like to deal with unnecessary dramas. And that is all this relationship was. It took a lot out of me. I would come home and think of things I might have done wrong to piss him off. So I broke it off and even though I am lonley I am better off. I have other things to focus on (ie. My education which is my #1 priority right now) and he seemed to interfer with this quite a bit. I think that there might be someone else involved as well, he wasnt man enoguh to admit, which shows how much character he's got.
Thanks a bunch guys!
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Kittykatus
replied on January 31st, 2006
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Image of My Probs Hun...
I know how ya feel hun. My b/f suddenly went off too- and do you know why?

If not check out dis book I found. I'm not here to advertise it, but it has helped me understand partially why men are such losers at times.

'men are from mars, and women are from venus'-john gray.

This guy has gone through problems himsefl with love and treated people on the brink of losing their love for another. Give it a go-it's helped me out

kitty
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hurt22
replied on February 1st, 2006
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Thanks Kitty
Heard of the book but did not read it. Might check it out once I have more time. Thanks!

Cheers
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