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Q: My Story of My Abortion

asked by: sadness on January 18th, 2006

New User

Hi i'm a single mum to 2 children and stepmum to 3 children.
I was raped 2 years ago and then found out I was left pregnant by my rapist :(
i felt sick and knew straight away what I needed to do.... Have a termination.

As a single mum of 2 this was a hard thing to do. Half of the baby growing inside me was mine and my childrens brother/sister.

But I knew I would never love this child like my other 2 so it wasn't fair to bring a child into this world.

Even though I know it was the best thing to do for myself I have been left feeling part of myself was terminated too (if that makes sense?)

the baby if I had kept would of been 1 this week and I feel so sad and depressed.

No-one understands that just because I terminated the pregnacy I can't feel greif, pain, emptiness, forgivness.

For anyone who thinks abortion is easy your so wrong!! Know matter how much you think you can forget you can't.

Replies(11)

sandyallen

replied on January 18th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Hi there! I am soo sorry that you had to go through that! Rape is bad enough, I hope that you tuned it in and they caught the jerk and they hang him so that he cannot hurt other women like he hurt you! Going through an abortion is not an easy choice for anyone but you probaably made the right choice at the time. You never forget but you can forgive yourself because it is not your fault! You can get help for something like this if you need or want it, it is out their and we are here for you too!
Please keep us posted!

sadness

replied on January 18th, 2006

New User

No I didn't turn him in. At the time I didn't want to believe it had happened.
I wish now I had. :evil: it plays on my head that he could do that to the next women he meets.

Tylanas

replied on January 18th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

I'm sorry those things happened to you. Remember that the choices you've made in the past make you who you are now, and though you might have done differently if you'd had the chance, there is no way to go back and change things; so don't let those thoughts drag you down!

You have two wonderful children who need you to be loving and caring! Don't dwell on the past; learn from it and be stronger for your experiences! Can you go back and change what you did? No, so move on and be all that you can be as a mother!

~*~Jillian~*~

replied on January 19th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Re: My Story of My Abortion

sadness wrote:

hi i'm a single mum to 2 children and stepmum to 3 children.
I was raped 2 years ago and then found out I was left pregnant by my rapist :(
i felt sick and knew straight away what I needed to do.... Have a termination.

As a single mum of 2 this was a hard thing to do. Half of the baby growing inside me was mine and my childrens brother/sister.

But I knew I would never love this child like my other 2 so it wasn't fair to bring a child into this world.

Even though I know it was the best thing to do for myself I have been left feeling part of myself was terminated too (if that makes sense?)

the baby if I had kept would of been 1 this week and I feel so sad and depressed.

No-one understands that just because I terminated the pregnacy I can't feel greif, pain, emptiness, forgivness.

For anyone who thinks abortion is easy your so wrong!! Know matter how much you think you can forget you can't.

very sad to hear your story...The guy that did that to you ..Deserves to go to hell...I think abortion is wrong...But not in your case ..You shouldnt feel bad at all for your decision...Things happen in life that sometimes we dont want to happen ...You just have to move on and I know its hard ..But one day you'll be able to look at yourself and understand that what you did was only for yours and the babys well being...

sunshine424

replied on January 19th, 2006

Experienced User

I am very sorry you had to go through this.

jenn_smithson

replied on January 19th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

Re: My Story of My Abortion

sadness wrote:

you make perfect sense. It is a common feeling that .Women who have been raped go through. Have you sought any counseling for the rape?

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the baby if I had kept would of been 1 this week and I feel so sad and depressed.
No-one understands that just because I terminated the pregnacy I can't feel greif, pain, emptiness, forgivness.

this is unfortunately out of my area of expertise so there is not much help that I can offer. I can tell you that .Women who have been raped typically do go through these stages when they are emotionally trying to heal. To have to deal with a termination on top of that could not have made any part of the situation any easier. It is a hard decision to make even when the pregnancy did not result in rape. I am so sorry that you had to go through it. If you would like, I can look up counseling information in your area. You do not need to have money or health insurance to get the help that you may need to cope with the rape. There are usually organizations available in your area who can lend a hand. Just let me know.
Peace,
jenn

sadness

replied on January 25th, 2006

New User

Re: My Story of My Abortion

jenn_smithson wrote:

sadness wrote:

you make perfect sense. It is a common feeling that .Women who have been raped go through. Have you sought any counseling for the rape?

Quote:

the baby if I had kept would of been 1 this week and I feel so sad and depressed.

No-one understands that just because I terminated the pregnacy I can't feel greif, pain, emptiness, forgivness.

i have not been able to find any support in my area. I do really need some help so if you can help I would be very greatful x

peace

sandyallen

replied on January 25th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Hi there, me again, you can call mental health in your area they can help you get in contact with someone. Please do not take me wrong, I am not saying that you are crazy! We all need alittle help sometime!
Bless you!

jenn_smithson

replied on January 25th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

Re: My Story of My Abortion

sadness wrote:

i have not been able to find any support in my area. I do really need some help so if you can help I would be very greatful x

peace

if you are in or near london, check out this site.

Peace and take care,
jenn

sadness

replied on January 25th, 2006

New User

Live in havering in london if helps.

Thanks to you both for your help xx

sadness

replied on September 13th, 2006

New User

Thanks for that newb I will look her up when I have two mins to myself.

I have found some proffesssional help now so am feeling abit more strong.

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