Hi, I need someone to talk to about my
depression. About 5-6 months ago I had a
miscarriage. It devestated me totally,
and I have been suffering depression which
for a brief time I recovered from, but has
since returned. I am so hormonal. And on
top of that my fiance who I love to death
seems to be pulling away from me. He says
that he loves me and I believe him but I
feel like he hates me or something. I
don't know what I did to make him feel
that way, and I am hurting so bad. I feel
like he doesnt want to be around me
anymore and I just want to die from the
thought of that. I try to do everything I
possibly can to make him happy and I feel
like its not enough. He never says that
or anything and he thanks me when I do
things for him, but I just feel like I am
not good enough for his love or something,
and it hurts. Its like a dagger piercing
my heart. Please, somebody help me. I
want hi to be happy but I dont want to be
hurt in the process. Thanks
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jmegee
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 39 Location: Virginia
Posted: 01-17-06 13:14pm
Unfortunately I have had 2 miscarriages in
the past year (may and oct.)...It is
extrememly tough to try to accept. I
understand the feelings of not being good
enough and the personal guilt over what
happened. Feel free to email me if you
like.
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 01-17-06 14:38pm
Hi there! I am sorry for your lost but
it is not you or your boyfriends fault.
A lot of us here have miscarried and we
feel your pain! Their is help out there
along with here, talk to your Dr. About
your situation. He can probably help you.
You are grieving which is pretty much
normal and you feel the world is against
you(not true). You seem like a very
caring person. I am sure that your
fiance does not hate you, he probably just
does not like seeing you depressed and
all, only because he cares! Try talking
to him. We are here for you! This
takes time.
Take care!
Keep us posted, if you would like to.
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 01-28-06 03:14am
I think the reason you feel that way is
because you are feeling guilty. I lost
my baby, joseph in july at five months of
pregnancy. My hubby was so devastated
and I felt like he was dissapionted in me.
I felt like my body had failed me, you
know? Men suffer during a time like this
too, but in their own way. I am sure he
isnt not wanting to be around you. Maybe
because you are so sad it makes him sad
and he doesnt want to show "emotional
weaknes' which you are sensing and it
makes you think he doesnt want to be
around you, but I am sure that is not the
case. These things take time and are so
hard.
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About Me! Posted: 02-07-06 20:21pm
Hello, my name is ashley. I am a 17 year
old high school senior. I had a
miscarriage in december two days before
new year's day. I blame myself for it,
because I feel like it was my body that
harmed the baby. My miscarriage was
called a blight ovum. Around 8 weeks, I
went to have my first sonogram. There
was a gestational sac, but there wasn't a
baby anywhere. My fiance and I knew
something was terribly wrong. It hurt me
so deep down inside. I'm at school with
several of my friends, and the thoughts of
others having babies really hurts me. I
know god does everything for a reason.
How can you be truly happy for someone and
at the same exact time wish it was you.
It is so hard to deal with. I try to
bottle in all my emotions, but it kills me
inside. My fiance knows how hurt I am,
but I also feel that he is mad at me. He
tells me he isn't and we can always try
again, but I just feel like this whole
situation is my fault. Life is so hard,
but there is nothing like losing a child.
Especially, when you have spent so much
time picking out names and planning your
life around you little one's life. I
don't want to hear people say it is for
the best. Why is it for the best? Only
god knows why, but it still hurts.
During my miscarriage, I lost so much
blood. The doctor put me on medicine for
a month to get my body back right, and I
was encouraged to continue taking prenatal
vitamins because my iron count was
extremely low. I am so sorry you had to
go through this.
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Miscarriage Posted: 03-29-06 16:01pm
I had a miscarriage a few months ago, my
boyfried doens't know I was even pregnant.
I was too scared to tell him as I didn't
know if he would want me to have it.. I
never got chance to tell him though as I
lost it.. They said I was 8 weeks.. I
feel so guilty and its my fault if id have
wanted it more it wudnt have happened, if
id have thought about what I want not
think about of everyone else iw udnt have
lost it...It hurts so much.. :(
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Please Someone Tell Me How to Get Through This Posted: 03-29-06 16:04pm
Had a miscarriage a few months ago, my
boyfried doens't know I was even pregnant.
I was too scared to tell him as I didn't
know if he would want me to have it.. I
never got chance to tell him though as I
lost it.. They said I was 8 weeks.. I
feel so guilty and its my fault if id have
wanted it more it wudnt have happened, if
id have thought about what I want not
think about of everyone else iw udnt have
lost it...It hurts so much.. :(
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bamagirl
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Mar 2006 Posts: 245 Location: Texas
Miscarrage Posted: 03-30-06 12:05pm
Hi everyone!! I had a miscarrage 5months
ago. I'm 21 and been marred for a year.
We were so happy and everything was fine.
I ate right stopped smoking and stop
drinking cokes. My 12week I started
having a brownish discharge. The doctor
said or its no big deal but if your worred
about it you need to come in and we will
take a look at it. So I go in and my baby
has passed and I just dont understand.
Everything was perfect. No morning
sickness what-so-ever. I felt great and
then that happond. He told me that my
baby was a 8week old baby when I was
12weeks. I asked him if it is possible
that my baby could still be living just no
growing. He said yes but he could say for
sure. My doctor was a quack!!!
He asked me and my husband what we wanted
to do 5sec. After he toled us that our
baby had passed. I never been through
this before and heard about it but never
talked to anyone that has had one. We
didn't know what to do!! He said that I
can go get my dnc that day and I was just
in so much shock that I didn't know what
to do!!! I called my mother and she said
that I should have went and got it done.
But we didn't know so I started hurting
really bad so I went to the hospital and
they told me there is nothing that they
can do. The lady told me that just wait
to pass it, and gave me pain pills. Then
she told me that when I pass it to dig it
out of the tolet and put it in a cup and
bring it in!!!!! My heart just sunk when
she told me that. Like its a big joke or
something! I could of slapped her. So my
miscarrage was hell. I very ready to be a
mommy but I so scared its going to happon
again. :cry:
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alone
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Mar 2006 Posts: 81 Location: england
Sory For Ur Loss Posted: 03-30-06 13:55pm
Really sorry bamagirl...
Its so hard isnt it.. I think u did the
right thing not having a dnc straight away
if u didnt no what to do then u did the
right thing if ud have rushed ahead with
it u wud av regretted it...
I cant believe the nurse said that to
you.. When I went to the nurse for an
internal to see if all of my baby was gone
she was really horrible, she just looked
down at me and said maybe it was for the
best... Why dont people understand its
not...
Anyway I hope u get through ths im still
struggling to deal with it I feel like
its my fault I lost my baby at 8 weeks :(
big hugs ur bf will be there for you make
sure u dnt shut him out, my bf doesnt even
no I was pregnant its the worse thing not
being able t talk to him x x x
