I am reading what all of you are writing and I feel like it is me talking. I am a single mom of 2 kids right now- I divorced from my husband this last year. I had been seeing a bartender (bad idea) for the last 7 months. I found out last month that I was pregnant. My then boyfriend was very insistent that I have an abortion. He said that it would ruin his life if I had the baby right now. I am very anti-abortion and have been my whole life but he put so much pressure on me that I started to consider it. But then I really thought about it and decided that I couldnât have an abortion for him because I was the one that had to live with it the rest of my life- and I knew that I couldnât. So I told him that I was going to have the baby and that I didnât need him to help at all if it would ruin his life so much. I even offered to have him sign his rights away and not pay any child support. But he said that if he was going to have a child in this world that he insisted on being a part of itâs life.
I already have a split family with my other kids and it is really hard on them. I donât want him in and out of my childâs and my life. I was willing to try it together or just not at all. He says that this is selfish but I canât help but feel that way.
We are now broken up and I am three months pregnant. I hope that I am making the right choice to put him out of my childâs and my life. I think that this is what is best but how can you know. He is not the sort of guy that I think is going to change once the baby is born. I loved him and it is hard enough to put him out of my system when I am carrying his child let alone if I have to be around him or talk to him.
Am I being selfish to do this?
I would just like to say that keeping the child is the best decision. I really think that maybe you should give him a chance to prove himself, he may surprise you. Having 2 parents is easier that 1, but sit him down and tell him that as long as he is supportive and he doesn't run away when times get tough, that you will give him 1 chance. It has been a difficult decision for you to make but you definitely made the right decision and I think you are a brave wonderful woman.