Joined: 16 Jan 2006 Posts: 2 Location: Redmond, WA
Am I Being Selfish? Posted: 01-16-06 18:40pm
I am reading what all of you are writing
and I feel like it is me talking. I am a
single mom of 2 kids right now- I divorced
from my husband this last year. I had
been seeing a bartender (bad idea) for the
last 7 months. I found out last month
that I was pregnant. My then boyfriend
was very insistent that I have an
abortion. He said that it would ruin his
life if I had the baby right now. I am
very anti-abortion and have been my whole
life but he put so much pressure on me
that I started to consider it. But then I
really thought about it and decided that I
couldn’t have an abortion for him
because I was the one that had to live
with it the rest of my life- and I knew
that I couldn’t. So I told him that I
was going to have the baby and that I
didn’t need him to help at all if it
would ruin his life so much. I even
offered to have him sign his rights away
and not pay any child support. But he
said that if he was going to have a child
in this world that he insisted on being a
part of it’s life.
I already have a split family with my
other kids and it is really hard on them.
I don’t want him in and out of my
child’s and my life. I was willing to
try it together or just not at all. He
says that this is selfish but I can’t
help but feel that way.
We are now broken up and I am three months
pregnant. I hope that I am making the
right choice to put him out of my
child’s and my life. I think that this
is what is best but how can you know. He
is not the sort of guy that I think is
going to change once the baby is born. I
loved him and it is hard enough to put him
out of my system when I am carrying his
child let alone if I have to be around him
or talk to him.
Am I being selfish to do this?
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xX_Summer_Xx
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2006 Posts: 3 Location: Florida
Posted: 03-03-06 14:39pm
No,i would feel the same way.I would want
all or nothing but if you think he won't
change then dont ,cause it will only cause
stress and problems for you and the kids
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maggiek
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 May 2006 Posts: 40 Location: canada
Reply Posted: 05-14-06 13:06pm
I would just like to say that keeping the
child is the best decision. I really
think that maybe you should give him a
chance to prove himself, he may surprise
you. Having 2 parents is easier that 1,
but sit him down and tell him that as long
as he is supportive and he doesn't run
away when times get tough, that you will
give him 1 chance. It has been a
difficult decision for you to make but you
definitely made the right decision and I
think you are a brave wonderful woman.
