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I have been trying for baby no.1 for two years now. Just found out 2 months ago that I have pcos and tried clomid(50g) first cycle on 8 dec 2005 and am waiting. Did a preg test on 13/1/06 and result negative. Called the doc clinic and was asked to wait another week before coming for a check-up and maybe start clomid cycle no.2.

I feel depressed and tired at times just thinking about the whole issue. I feel drained of energy trying each month and since I have irregular periods due to pcos it is so hard to know when is ovulation or whether I am ovulating. I feel there my life is hanging with no confirmed answer but just waiting...

Is there anyone out there going through this? How r u taking it emotionally and how is it affecting ur married life? My husband seems upset too. He is trying to hide his emotions so that I dun cry infront of him. I hope god shines some light into our lives.

For those who share similar problems and have or have not been successful in conceving, please share ur stories too....... Thanks!
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replied January 16th, 2006
Experienced User
Depressed
I feel depressed and extremely upset and emotional when I found out my sister in law got pregnant or my friends who didn;t try and get preg. I also vented my frustration of my own infertility on my hubby. I screamed at him as if it was his fault that he didn't want sex when I wanted...I really feel bad that I am so unreasonable. I really thank god for giving me such a supportive hisband...I know he also wanted to start a family but he didn't pressurised me at all.
I understand how you feel, gal.
We just need to learn to cope with our emotions. Vitamins b3 helps
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replied January 17th, 2006
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Tested And Neg
As my period is late for like 2 weeks, I did a test this morning and it was negative. My period is so very irregular and hence, I am not sure what to expect. Now, I can feel the period cramp, like uterus contractions pain. Depressed.....:(
i have also been binching on chocolate and cookies...And putting on weight. All these just made me more depressed as I am fat now. All my clothes are tight and sometimes can't even breath in them. I am not sure if pcos patient get fat easily?
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replied January 17th, 2006
Active User, very eHealthy
to Debb75
Hi dear debbie,

u r not alone in putting on weight and getting upset over the weight increase... I am just as fat with pcos.

My specialist says that pcos patients easily put on weight and have a hard time losing them. It's not like people who dun have pcos, whereby they follow a diet and exercise they can manage their weights.

My sister is getting married in july this year and she plans to try for baby immediately, though I would be very happy that she becomes a mum, I would feel very miserable over my condition and infertility...

It's easy to talk than go through life with this situation where u face people who just ask u how many children just by looking at ur size.

And worse would be people who talk about u behind u or infront of u, making fun or trying to be nice about ur health and infertility...

It's a real roller coaster of emotions....... Which I hate to go through....... But already in the middle of the ride...

But some successful stories of real people will definitely boost my self esteem....

Being a teacher and seeing young children at class makes me dream about my own children and make me wonder what will my own children be like?
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replied January 17th, 2006
Experienced User
I completely understand where you guys are coming from. Infertility is so hard. I too have pcos. We started trying for #1 right away and by a miracle got pregnant the second cycle. Then after my son was born, I gained 60lbs. My cycles went crazy. So we tryed for over two years for #2, three rounds of clomid. We had an appt to see a re on jan 16th. I found out on the 14th of january that I was preg! My beta was very low (23) so they did another one two days later and it was 74! I am still sooo early, but it does give me hope. I ovulated on the 28 or 29th day of my cycle and got preg. It can happen. We weren't even trying this cycle. Don't give up your faith. I know it is hard when everyone around you falls pregnant so easily. I have asked god many times "why me"? You will get through it just remain positive.
Ashlee
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replied January 18th, 2006
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Hey gal, acoles70,

ur success story gives us hope that we will make it one day. All pcos ladies, have faith one day it will be us... And I would like to see my day come soon.

Baby dust and prayers for all those trying for baby out there......
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replied January 22nd, 2006
Trying For a Bub
This is the first time I have ever been in a chat room, but I have been trying for a couple of months now to conceive. I have a beautiful 6 year old daughter from a previous marriage and now am trying for another with my new partner of almost 6 years. I am 34 and he is 36. I am probably jumping the gun but I am beginning to get a little depressed and do not understand why I havent fallen as yet. Does being on the pill for so long (ie; 7 years) affect your chances. I have not been to see a doctor, re: pre-preg care. I am fit and healthy, as is my partner. I feel complaining is premature, but I am so concerned about my age and simply do not want to wait any longer. I am so impatient!
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replied January 24th, 2006
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Considering ur age, though u r healthy, if u really want to have a child, dun put it off too long.

Especially if u r trying actively, seek a doc help. Sometimes, our body dun cooperate with us well.

Good luck!
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replied May 13th, 2009
ttc with depression
Hi my partner and myself have been ttc since nov 08, I have had type 1 diabetes for 29yrs.I was on prozac(for depression)which i had been on for around 12yrsjust after i lost my mum,apart from the break when i had my son 7yrs ago. The diabetic nurse took me off prozac in Nov and im finding it very hard to cope without these
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replied June 2nd, 2010
2 years and nothing
i just found out my sister in law is pregnant with her first and i feel like i cant breathe i feel so awful because i cant bring myself to look or talk to her i feel like my body is betraying me like some cavernous empty waste land i cannot bring myself out of this feeling help
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replied July 12th, 2010
sad
TTC for 2 years I have had about 10 girl friends become pregnant in this time and the 3 that struggled have fallen pregnant all in less time than me. I cant stop crying I have PCOS and I wonder every day if I will ever have my own children. I also work in a nursery and teach babies how to swim HELP I have been on clomid for 3 months it dries up all my cervical m and makes my ovaries pop causing agony
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replied July 15th, 2010
Hello, My partner and I have been trying TTC for #2 for 2 years. I was told by a doctor that has been monitoring me for the past few months, that my uterus linning is getting too think 18 by day 7 of my cycle. I have been put on meds to help correct this. I live very far from family and friends, and am finding my self getting depressed. We both come from extreamly disfunctional families. And family support especially emotionaly ans spiritually are Zero. Why do people have children? Isn't having a child self sacrafice? My grandmother had 8 kids, and is still in her late 80's doing every thing for the bennefit of her children and their families. I just feel so alone. I don't even want to go out of the house any more. I see my daughter and start crying.. I keep thinking why? Why me? I thaught I was strong, but am finding I am fragile and scared. Any one out there whom can relate to dealing with infertility alone? The meds seam like torchure. HELP!!
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